Why the pause, when telling someone that you love them back?

I don't think it should take that long to respond to a person if the feeling is mutual. If it's not there's the delay. And if there's a delay then maybe the relationship is not what it should be. I had one boyfriend tell me, after discussing getting married and starting a family, that he really didn't think I was that pretty and that he realized he just needed a friend. That was the last time I saw him.

If someone told me and I DID love them, I'd tell them straight away. If I didn't, I'd just say,'Do you? ', change the subject or make some sort of lighthearted comment. Some people never say it because they think its 'slushy' others dont say it because they dont mean it and cant be hypocritical.

Well I know that I pause sometimes because it just makes me smile and I let his words sink in for a moment. Since we do video chats instead of telephone calls, he can see my face and see that I'm letting it sit in before i say it back and I've noticed he does the same thing.

Hi Sweet My x told me more then once a day that he loved me but still had his fun elsewhere with many for years Words mean nothing.. it's actions that clinch it oxxoxoxoxox

hi cream dear! I always think before that when a person paused first before saying "I Love you" or if he won't tell it back to me..my impression is usually that he doesn't love me or he does not love me that much or he is unsure of what he really feels towards me. However, I realized that I can not really presumed what the other person is truly feeling. It maybe that he is not used in saying his love for me and that gets uncomfortable in saying those words, probably he grew up in a home that are not really vocal with love. And we can not also be sure with people who easily say those words for they might just be trying to flatter us or get us to bed. lol..I do think that we have to be more keen on their actions in showing their love and not only in words. Personally, I love hearing those words and at the same time, the love should be validated by their actions. And when he says those words, I usually look in their eyes and see if the eyes are saying those words too! Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

Well, I think that when you do love someone, there is no doubt that you would be able to say it right away. Perhaps when you pause, there is a doubt or perhaps the feeling is not that strong. This could probably be the reason why there is a pause, and maybe the person is trying to figure out how to say it without looking unbelievable. Well, I could be wrong. There could probably be other reasons, and such person does love you. But in my case, if I do love someone, there is no pause at all as I respond.

I would like to think that the brief pause is the recipient savoring those three little words that can mean so much.

It really depends on the personality of the person. There are some who could easily utter words they want to say. But there are some who are still looking for courage to be able to say the things they want to say. They find it hard because they are not used to doing it.

I don't think my wife & I have that problem but I guess it's the way we are brought up especially we Asians? Our parents are less expressive towards us as well in terms of vocalizing their love? It's always, eat, eat & eat some more. That's how sometimes the Asian culture is, haha

Hi cream97, i have no idea why people hesitate for a long time before they say they love you, maybe they have to think before they answer you or its hard to tell someone you love them, its mostly men that hesitate.Hugs. Tamara

I will never make a pause when asked if I love my partner. For people who pause when ask, well, maybe they are not really in love with their love ones and double check their conscience if they will say a right word.

I don't pause before i say i love you back to my babe...you will only pause if you don't actually feel that way about the person..