has anyone ever told you you're ugly?

I have told of ugly by kids when I was in grade school. I'm even been told that by former boyfriends! I'm not ugly! I know I'm beautiful in my own specail way and beauty is also inside a person! We are all beautiful inside and out!

I was more shocked when I was told I was beautiful. Meant more too. I am ugly. I know it. I've been told that my outer look is ugly since my mother helped me look as awful as she could (long story for another time) The kids at school, people who didn't mean it, and older siblings when they need to add a bit to their sorry lives all made it clear that I wasn't a looker. But once I was told how beautiful I was. No, it wasn't that the person is blind to my malformed looks, it was that they were looking beyond that. They were looking at the me that people don't always notice. They thought Tammy was beautiful because of the way she held her children after a long day, the way she reached out for another's child who was hurting, and the way she still wished her friend a smile even though she was tired, hurt, and generally not having a good day. The person who told Tammy this had nothing to gain but more friendship. It wasn't a male looking for love, a child looking for praise, just a simple friend. I didn't even think of her as a "great" friend, but just a friend. She could have given me a ring that cost a million dollars and it would have meant less then the simple words she said that day. Even though the friendship has faded a bit due time and distance, she will always hold a special spot in my heart.

I always think that you're as beautiful as you feel, and I have always believed that very strongly. Part of beauty is being comfortable with yourself and what you look like. I have been told that I am ugly so many times that I started to believe it, but one day I looked in the mirror and thought hang on, I'm not too bad really. Despite what they bullies say. Confidence is key I think. Love yourself, and people will love you back.

I dont remember anyone telling me I am ugly.I personally dont think that I am ugly,I am not prince charming but I do ok.Personally I think that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and waht is ugly for you is beautiful for another.Consequently I believe there is no fixed criteria and is on a person to person basis.I also think that physical beauty is overrated ,there are so many persons who are very pretty and yet their behaviour makes them awful.Once I hear an interesting perpective on a talk show and this guy claims that if you look in any of the adult movies ,most of the girls are very pretty...go figure

This is a funny one. When growing up my one aunt always said hello to me by saying "Hello beautiful". I guess it stuck in my psyche because I've never thought I was ugly, in terms of my physical appearance, so I think that confidence always showed through when dealing with others that I never was told I was ugly. I tend to get many compliments on being pretty, looking younger then I am, etc. I will say that I still blush when people tell me this (so I've been told lol), and I tend to be a bit humble in my response saying thank you when I'm told. However, I do believe that I'm a beautiful person, with a beautiful mind. I think that is half the battle young women face in today's society is that they do not have the confidence to believe in their own unique beauty. The media so plays a role in this with it's unatural fake beauty that it is the job as those of us who are women in their lives to help them see this. Thank goodness for my aunt.

Sure, like in the fifth grade, so that was years ago. It hurt, at first, but you can't really control what people want to see of you, so I quit caring after awhile. People have also said that I was pretty, beautiful, so whatever. Like I said, people see you how they want to see you. My own view fluctuates. I've never considered myself hideously ugly, but there were times when I thought myself as beautiful. Mostly I consider myself average at worst and pretty at best. *shrugs*

Some of my friends did its because I told them first

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

I think that everyone is beautiful in there own special way, no matter what they look like. Its what counts inside rather than outside. You shouldn't really compare to anyone else to how you look because it only leads to negative things. As for me, I always say that I'm ugly, mostly because I am and because when someone says otherwise, I'll feel cheered up! If anyone says that I am ugly though, I won't be that much depressed because I already know I am, so it works out.