Would you fall for a jobless man?
By modstar
@modstar (9605)
Philippines
36 responses
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
17 Feb 09
For sure! I wouldn't even mind supporting him, allthough I would stimulate him in getting at least a part time job for his own spiritual growth, the fact you make new friends in work and also because of the financial ease if you both earn money.
In this society jobs are overrated. Having a job and a good education are what forms a person; I don't believe that. A persons ACTIONS and his character build his/her image. A job is a part of your life, nothing more and nothing less. An important part, a way of expressing and supporting yourself, but still you are no less a human or a person without a job and can still do wonderfull things.
Maybe this man does charity work, helping out society in a very selfless way.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
if you mean "jobless by the moment or jobless as of now", my answer would be yes. most women that i know prefers guys or men who has jobs because that means they are determined in achieving something in their lives.
i know a certain job doesn't define a person at all but it helps. by having a job, it means that you are a responsible being, you can stand on your own, you have your priorities straight and you are very much ready for any obligations that will come.
my cousin, who had a slacker boyfriend before. they've been together for four years but my cousin can't take it anymore. she has her own priorities and she wants a man who can stand up on his own and not just depends on his parents (the guy's rich). so they broke up and remain good friends though the guy is still pursuing her.
even if the guy is not rich, still, poverty will never be an excuse.
no offense meant you guys. =)) just stating my opinion.
cheers, modstar! =)
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
ahahahaha!! you and your wicked sense of humor.
kampay!!!
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
no i wont. sorry. i am a single mom with four children and i dont think i can carry another load of someone in my life with no job. i need someone who will help me around not to be a burden. if i a single and no kids, it wont matter if he has work or no work. as of now that i have to much to worry a man without a job is not a good choice for me. just being frank and honest
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
well if a am hot and young i am not going to be that stupid to fall for a jobless man. if a am hot i can find my self a wealthy person. lol. dont worry i love honest person. this is a place were we can discuss things. well dont know if i am hot.... but having a relationship is not based on hotness if that is a word. lol. but i suppose you know what i mean.
@AXLAERO (426)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
hello to you modstar.sorry my friend modstar.but i disagree with you.i hope you will not mind.but it doesnt matter if your hot or young.even a girl is fat,have dozens of children,and old,she still have a chance to be happy and someone will still love her for what and who she is.i have a friend whos 38 yrs old,she have 5 kids but she still founnd a guy who's younger than her and that guy accept her and love her.actually my friend dont want to have any realationship again with anyone but this gut really loves her.maybe she's not that very hot but she's not ugly.she is quite chubby but she have a nice face.she dress well even at her age.she's so talented and she cooks well.she's a nice person and i know that the guy loves her because of her good personality.she's a good friend too.she will help someone whos in need without expecting anything in return.she's like a big sister to me.that's why i dont think that only a hot and young lady can only get a guy and have the right to be choosy.i dont mean aything bad and i have nothing against with you modstar but i just want to share about my friend's story.i really hope its ok with you...
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
16 Feb 09
One cannot acatually stop from falling in love, irrespective of job or not. Ive seen beautiful women married to awful looking guys for love. Yes, practically speaking, its difficult to keep the relationship going if he is the only one working. But even if one is working and earning, the chances of a relationship continuing is more. Its funny in my life. If we stay together, my husband and I, then either one of us has a job, the other is without one. If we stay in different countries, both of us can earn. But with one of us working only, we still have completed 23 years of marriage and still love each other very much. We have a grown up son of 20 years too. So love must come with understanding and patience, then marriages will work.
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@dreambaba (4)
• China
17 Feb 09
As we all know,one's characteristic is very important.Someone says one can have no money,but he can not lose his courage and hope.Many great people in history have the same experience.Just like the president of America--Abraham Lincoln,he lost job from time to time,but his own characteristic made him sucess at last.So,don't judge a person from his surface.If he is a faithful and hopeful man,then I will encourge him ,and believe in him forever.Because he is a man that will not give up forever!
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
16 Feb 09
Jobless as in poor and jobless?
Now that I am in my mid 30s, my answer would be a big NO. I would not fall for a jobless guy coz I know very well how much that paycheck matters. However, when candyfloss was my food for thought (in college days) I would fall for any guy whom I found oh so handsome…who cares whether he’s working or not! He would look so cool beside me and I would look oh so great in his arms!
(Where does God come in our daily struggle for survival…we have to fight it our own way!)
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
18 Feb 09
Money is not my God...money is just money, only life has taught me to evaluate it better now than I did formerly.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
I could if he is the one that is meant for me or he has the qualities that I am looking for in a mate. Being jobless doesn't define a man and its something that is temporary and can be remedied. However, if he is jobless by choice and he is simply too lazy to hold a job, then definitely, he isn't that man for me. The man that a girl wants is someone who will work hard for his family and someone with initiative. It's not just about the job but of something that is deeper. If I am going to meet a man and I kinda like him but he doesn't have a job, I will of course ask why. The reason behind his being jobless would tell me a lot about the guy and if he has indeed the potential.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
16 Feb 09
Yes. My partner is and was a disability pensioner when I met him. He was also studying for his Doctorate at Uni. That did not stop me loving him. I was on a good income at the time but money has never been that important to me. Nor could I know that 5 years after we met I would become ill and end up on disability myself. We are still together and we love each other very much.
I knew a girl who told me she would never go out with someone who had no money. She had her parents arrange a marriage with a suitably well off man and married him and then moved to another state. I have no idea if she is happy but money was important to her not love.
Everyone is different.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
17 Feb 09
Thank you for that comment. Love has nothing to do with money. I would love my man regardless of how much or how little money he had because I love him as a person not for who he is.
We do not have a lot of money but we do own our home and we can live on the income we have. But then I was never into money as such. I am a real hippy at heart and while it is nice to dress up sometimes and go out I am quite happy at home in a t shirt and skirt and thongs.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Jobs aren't what make a person who they are. Okay so maybe they can and maybe sometimes they do, but I am saying that just because a man is poor doesn't mean he really is. You can fall for his personality and not his money. I'm not saying, or trying to say anything bad about you or anyone else here, so let me just clarify by saying money isn't everything.
@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Man this is tough. But I guess there's nothing possible. I have fallen to a bum before, never liked school and was a jerk, I guess this won't be new to me. Not that I'm going to let myself fall again to a bum. But we know that God knows best, so we just do what He knows is better for us. 
@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
I know, I'm trying to put it back, but I don't know how.. 
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
A bum? Hell no. I don't think I would even be introduced to such a person in good circumstances. I couldn't fall for a person who *refuses* to work or who does not exert enough effort to acquire work for himself.
However, if it's a strange economical situation where the whole capitalist world is against him so he can't get a job, then there might be something there.
It's all in the character. It's if he chose not to work or if it's not his fault. However, I still wouldn't fall for someone who keeps on blaming others because he's jobless when the truth is he's vying for a position he does not qualify for. That shows lack of character. So not my type. I'd slap a girl across the face if I found out she's actually "into" that type of person. They both need professional help.
Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
First. I wouldn't be here if I were from the high society :)
Second. I'm too busy with work to have time to meet bums. Before that, I was too busy with school!
There was a time when my brother actually preferred to live as a bum and I felt embarrassed for him. He was waiting for a "big break" but he could have been waiting while still working. It's one of the things that made me realize what a bum a really is and helped convince myself that I will never tolerate it :)
@hibiscus_mel (719)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I fell in love with a jobless man and made my life horrible. One day I realized my life is spiraling down and going nowhere. I cannot bear to see my kids being deprived of the things they are supposed to have. It is my choice to have them in the long run so I picked myself up and moved on with my life with my kids.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
Nah, thanks but no thanks. Having been married before taught me a whole deal of life lessons and one of them is this: Money isn't EVERYTHING and not the MOST IMPORTANT factor in any relationship but it is undeniably SOMETHING and IMPORTANT. Whenever I hear the song "Love will keep us alive", I always retort "Yeah right, try singing that song when your hubby is jobless and cannot afford to feed you or clothe you or put a decent roof above your head!" But well, you're not talking about marriage right? You're talking about bf-gf stuff, which is also "expensive" for guys (thus, a job is imperative, unless he's super rich already) because it is in this stage when a guy tries to impress the gals with free lunches and dinners and gifts and stuff. Admit that!
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
Yup and I did. LOL It isn't about a job but the person themselves. Now if they were lazy and a freeloader than no I wouldn't be with someone like that cause I believe in making your own way in life. But if he was just down on his luck at the moment and was a hard worker than I see no reason to not be with him. My partner was temporarily unemployed for a while when we met, but has worked full time for the last 12 years. He was always working hard and not lazy.
I would stay away from any man who can't work because of a "bad back". There are so many men here that claim this. I see them as lazy. You can go back to school and learn a none physical job. But no they are lazy. Which as I see it makes them lazy lovers too, so that is a waste of my time.
@saichandtalluri (1486)
• India
17 Feb 09
i hope Job is not a correct reason to reject a man because there are many other way in which we can earn money we can do business or else we can start our own company and start giving jobs to others.
I hope every girl should check the acctual character of the man before rejecting him.
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
16 Feb 09
i fell for my husband in high school, so he did not have a job. He moved away in 11th grade, we met again and have been married 4 years. He does not have a job now because of the economy, and i still love him as much now as when he was working, And ill still love him when he gets back to work........A job does not make a man,
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
16 Feb 09
Yes. It is the man you love and marry. I suppose having money is a nice bonus but it is not that important as love as you have the basics. Times are tough right now but things will pick up again. As long as you have love you can get through anything.
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@nympha687 (940)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I'm a practical person. I won't ever fall for a jobless man. It is not just about practicality, it's also about fear of being criticized by my relatives. It's still the man's job to earn for the family here.
