Do you think you need a marriage certificate to feel married?

As for me, the "marriage contract" or the "marriage ceremony" aren't in my TOP LIST of priorities right now. I have a relationship for 4 years now, and my bf wants us to get married. For me, it isn't marriage that makes or holds the relationship intact. Am not saying that I do not love him or that I don't want to marry him, it's just that "marriage" is a BIG COMMITMENT AND RESPONSIBILITY. Am not also saying that I don't want commitment and responsibility, rather it is because I don't want us to be pressured with the idea that our actions will be limited and that our focus will be on the family. Indeed, I want to have a family of my own and I still blieve in the sanctity of marriage. However, I want us still to have liberty without the pressure to fulfill the marriage vows that are very hard to keep. Besides, to express ones love can't only be shown through marriage....IT IS IN THE MIND. I agree with you, it is how you felt it and consider the relationship that matters. The marriage contract and the ceremony are just a formality. In the legal point of view, marriage is important for purposes of civil status, succession, property rights and the legitimacy of the children, if there's any. Definitely, couples who don't receive the sacrament of matrimony or those who are not legally married are called LIVE-IN PARTNERS or COMMON-LAW COUPLES. Certainly, they have less civil rights and the children born within that relationship are illegitimate.

The marriage certificate is the thing that you really need in times that your family or with your husband has trouble.

in my opinion no. you dont need any certificate to feel married. i am married for 6 years already but live-in with my now wife first before getting married. i felt married since the day she moved in. we have friends who are married but does not feel married for the respect and the trust is no longer there so whats the certificate can do about that.

You don’t only need marrriage certificate to feel married but to show others that you are married you need to have marriage certificate. Marriage certificate is required for all the other processes so the importance is quite high that ways. Emotionally you do not need the certificate to feel you are married.

a piece of paper make your togetherness legal in the eyes of the public...you can be married without spending money try to get wed with civil rights...then no need of photo and video for your wedding only a piece of paper, wedding ring and ballpen..do you think you could spent a big money for these...marriage certificate is the most important in a couple who live together...special if you have your kids already...your kids shouldn't suffer for this...he/she has the rights to have parents with marriage certificate..

No piece of paper, no fancy ring, or a big huge elaborate wedding is gonna make me feel more married than I am now. My husband so to speak have been together for 10 years, we have two children together, and we are very much in love. We live in a common law state so we've had to sign that form so I can be covered under his insurance. Having a piece of paper or a big ol' wedding isn't gonna change my feelings or make me love him anymore. I know he's commited to me, and i am to him, and as i've read many many articles on people who have shared so much of a live together finally do get married, it usually ends in divorce, so both me and my hushand both agree why change something that's working. Many people look down on us and feel we are sinning and so on, but we are happy, our children are loved and that's what matters the most.

yes, i did actually... as a woman, i need the piece of paper and a ring to feel secure and feel that i am actually already married... otherwise, i will feel like nothing... the wedding ceremony is not that important to me... the most important one is the church's holy matrimony, the marriage certificate and the ring... and that is what i did to my wedding... we don't have a huge ceremony as we don't have much money... just a simple one... we don't have honeymoon as well until now... but it is OK for me as long as i have the paper and the ring... take care and have a nice day...

I'm with you on this. I don't see that it makes a big difference...just a piece of paper really. The only thing that I know marriage is important for is things like social security benefits etc. If your hubby were to pass, you would not be entitled to his social security because you are not legally married. The money he paid in all those years would go back to the government.

I must admit, marriage certificates does many things to a married person. But on my case, it is not a certificate but the feeling of you are "married". Your husband or wife treated you his or her "partner" in everything. Not just a wife who will serve food or a husband who will work to buy food.

No. The marriage certificate is just that. If there is true committment between two people and they have respect and consideration for one another then there is not need for that little piece of paper. I think woman want the wedding and all the fairy tale stuff but that is not all that is important. The very least really.

A marriage certificate is not necessary for one to feel married. However legally you may need one if you plan to take care of your family should something happen to you. If a couple is not legally married, your spouse or children may not be entiled to benefits-either from work or from other ogranizations. If you are worried about the expense of having a wedding you can get married with little or no expense. I know my wedding was a very fruggle thing, but it was a truly beautiful day. www.wantingtowork.today.com

no it is not mandatory that if you have a marriage certificate then only you are and have a feeling of it. There some things which means more than piece of paper....

In my opinion if you are in love you are in love, and if you are happy you are happy. You don't need some marriage certificate to verify that or bring meaning to it. Others may say that it is a religious unity or that it is what you are SUPOSE to do. If you are religious and feel it is necessary to complete a circle then go for it, or if taxes purposes or job benefits come into play, then it is something to think about, but if you are perfectly content where you are at, then let it be. Don't complicate something that isn't complicated. Just live.

In my opinion I don't need marriage certificate to feel married. If I love someone it is not so important the certificates we have, it is important our feelings. I thing paying for wedding, especialy a big one is not something I can allow. On otherhand it is good to get married, because of the insurances, visiting the person at hospital, legaly shareing the belongings and etc. So it depends of the view: "Do I need marriage certificate?" It depends of the need: 1) Spiritual 2)Material - Which one do you have? Which one is more importain for you?

I don't think that you need a marriage certificate to "feel" married, but you do need the certificate to "be" married. You need to be recognized legally, especially if something were to happen to either one of you, the other wouldn't have any rights. It doesn't cost that much to go into a courtroom and sign a piece of paper to be legally married, either. I think nowadays being legally married isn't so much about "doing the right thing morally" but more about "covering your bases" should something happen.

Hi Kayla, (my nieces name is Kayla too) I have also been with my boyfriend for 8 years, although we have no children together we still live as if we were married. We are, however, planning a wedding for May of this year mainly for health insurance reasons, he is retired military. I know that that reason sounds silly for getting married, but we know that we intend to stay together for the rest of our lives so we may as well get that piece of paper. In answer to your question though...no, i dont feel that you need that certificate in order to feel married, just to get the perks that come along with it....lol Its my opinion that each individual needs to do what they are comfortable with...have a great day !

I am married now. But honestly, I feel more married when I and my husband weren't married yet. I mean, before our marriage, we were together, in whatever situation. Will it be for happiness or for troubles, we stick together. But now that we are married, and we already have our marriage certificate, I don't feel being married at all. We are islands away from each other. Marriage certificate are only for legality. But when it comes to feelings, it means nothing but just a piece of paper. By the way, in our country, if a couple has been living together outside marriage for more than 6 (or is it 7?) years, the law will make it legal. Whether you like it or not, you will be forced to get married. hehe

I think that it all depends on the people. I am a married woman of almost ten years. We had decided to get married after two years because we felt that the time was right. Take your time and when it is the time then you will know. You can be fully commited to each other whether you have the piece of paper or not.

It sounds very familiar... my hubby didn't want to spend the $$ on the wedding and stuff and he thinks it is not a big deal so we were just married married without doing anything. I was not happy about it but he said 'It is what it is..." and I asked what can we do for the wedding later on, he said "I don't know..." I'm really unhappy about the whole situation, I want to be a real bride in the wedding with him, it only happen ONCE in my life, why can't he do it good for us? I don't know if it's because he is guy and he doesn't care or we have a age gap...

You are quite correct in saying that one does not need a marriage certificate to feel "married". It is just a piece of paper actually. However, i feel that one should seriously consider the benefit of that piece of paper to protect the child or children the couple might have. In our society, no matter how we profess that we live in modern times, most people still believe in the sanctity of marriage. By making the relationship legal in the eyes of God and man, we are making sure that our children are protected of their rights.Also, one does not need money to get married. A civil wedding is quick and costs less, right?