Marriage - has it lost its meaning?

For some people marriage may be more work than they bargained for. I plan on being with my hubby forever. And that can mean alot of work on both sides, for both people. I think some think it is a fairytale. You know, they got married and lived happily ever after. NOT! There are adjustments. We get sick. We have kids, financial concerns etc. There are no quick fixes. I agree with you.

I do think that marriage has lost its meaning. People nowadays are to superficial, testimony to that being the Las Vegas weddings when people get drunk and the first thing they do is to get married. Today, the most of us, don't marry because we love our partner but because he/she has some qualitys imposed to us by the media. A relationship like that can't last to long.

I agree with you. but I also think there are some that do take it seriously. I find that most( not all) are deeply rooted in their religion/beliefs. A lasting marriage requires commitment, dedication and string faith.

I guess so. People go into marriage but later on just ended it. It seems that entering in usch situation is just a big JOKE!

dear friend, i completely agree with you . these days no one has the value;s they had in the early days. I look at my elders and wonder what happened to the young generation. Getting married and divorce both have become a game these days. Non of them really cherish the meaning of marriege. It is sad and hope it changes.

I think that for a long time people have not taken marriage seriously. Maybe it should be harder to get married. Think about getting divorced. Sure in a lot of states you can "do it yourself" meaning the paperwork and division of assets. It costs money, it doesn't happen overnight, but it can be done. When you get married, if you choose to just "do it" all you really need to do is purchase a license ( a very small fee) and wait about 3 business days for the license and then you are free to get married. It's real easy!! I personally see way too many people get married for all the wrong reasons. Fear of being alone, doing what is expected at a certain age and believe it or not - unplanned pregnancy. It's 2009, people should not be having surprise pregnancies!! (but that is for another discussion). There was a trend a few years back that people were waiting longer to get married. The focus was on building a career and/ or getting an education. Then all of a sudden, women realized that if they waited until their mid-30's to try and start a family they were discovering fertility problems that they didn't previously know about. Marriage is a committment and whether people are not taking it seriously or not is only part of the bigger picture. Think about how much our lives have changed in the past ten-fifteen years. Cell phones, the internet...our lives are vastly different. I think a lot of people have lost their focus on a lot of issues. Marriage, unfortunately, is just another sign of a culture going down.

I think it has lost its meaning that is why I say it is so over rated now a days now a days when someone gets married you here what a dummy or something like that instead of a congrats or at least people think what a dummy and say congrats I myself have never been married nor do I wish to do so I am happy with my live in and if it is not broke why fix it

I am a liberated woman, but for me marriage is forever. I don't believe in divorce that's why I'm not yet married. When I tie the knot, it will be forever. Suffer if I must, but I will never ever opted for a divorce. It's a commitment I would keep for the rest of my life no matter what happens. Unfortunately, I haven't found the right man to promise my life with.

Well in case of our society, divorce takes very very few. Marriage has the highest priority in our society. Mostly marriage is done with the feasts and in religious ways. Mostly the women in our society are always tolerating. But I don't really admire this. Still there are many arrange marriage but now more people have started love marriage nowadays. But we hear about the cases like you described in the news about the foreign countries. Nowadays people hate to get bounded in their life. They don't want to get bounded by the society, religions. They just want to go on in life with their own theories and this in increasing in great number. May be due to this the marriage is not being taken serious as it should be taken.

This is all subjective, really. When I get married I will mean it and be there until the end (assuming love remains intact as it is now, people don't get married to get cheated on!). Thats probably the bigger issue. Most people only look at it as "people don't respect marriage anymore and get divorced so quickly", however with the internet and everything; cheating has become more rampant. People can even find other people to have one-off flings with via the internet. Hell, my brother showed me a website where a married person could go to find some other married person to date (like eHarmony for cheaters). I am serious, it is sad. We thought it was funny, in a grotesque kind of way. I think most people don't take it lightly, but the damage that is done is extensive. So many people are abusive in their relationship and cheat that staying together is just ridiculous and painful. People do not get married to be hurt in these kinds of way. I've told my girlfriend, whom I love, that I would be here for her forever; and I mean that. With the only exception being if she were to hurt me in one of those ways. I think that is an extremely fair way to view going into a really steady relationship. I suppose the cornerstone of a marriage is a good friendship, which many people seem to lack.

Marriage is the bond of a life time. You can't just break those kind of bond if you truelly love a person with all your heart then that the only time you can marry that person and make the bond to god where you and that person can love and be together form ever that's what marriage should be.............THAT"S MY OPINION NICE TOPIC hope my opinion is good

I don't think marriage has lost its meaning,maybe some people can not find out the meaning.My wife and I have an agreement that we wouldn't say"divorce"out easily,we made it before we got married.because,I believe that marriage is holy.

yes i think its lost it meaning but to some it still means somrthing. i have been married over a year and they say the frist year is the hard and it is, not only do you have to deal with the little things your husband or wife do but dont forget the rest of the family. when you marry you marry the family to. they may mean good but most of the time they get in the way of your married by putting there noices in. i found it very hard with his mother and mad my life hell. i did at one point think of walking as she wa getting so bad. this all happen behide my husbands back tho.she would think my house was her own and hange thing around in my house when i wa not there. i was thinking what will happen when i have children, i would not sand for it. i told my husband and after some time told her to back off

although divorce becomes so common, I still agree that marriage is a sacred thing, in fact there are many persons who never get divorced,they love each for the whole life. for me, marriage means commitment,responsibility...as the marriage should bring us.

Honestly, I am beginning to think it has. I know way too many people who are divorced, in the middle of a divorce, or on the verge of it. Many people in my family and in my network of friends have all been divorced or they are in the middle of it. One of these days, I might marry the man that I love, but I am afraid that it may or may not last.

True, marriage is evolving into something flexible nowadays. But somehow it does have some advantages and disadvantages in my opinion. For those that suffer under domestic violence I guess it is their way out to finally stop and dissolve the marriage and end all of their sufferings. But on the other hand this option can be used by those that just wants to get out because of convenience. I think these should be balanced out whether a marriage is deserving given the second chance or something that can be resolve in time.

You are right. People treat marriage like friendship, if they have a fight they break up.

I don't think marriage had much meaning in the first place. Back in the day, it was a way to swap women in order to solidify bonds and loyalties between families and clans. For most of history and in most cultures, you had no say in who you wanted to marry (especially if you were a woman), but rather you were married off by your parents in order to continue the bloodline or to secure some sort of social or economic benefit for for family. Even in more recent history when people have more freedom, marriage is hardly about love. I find that nine out of ten people just "settle" because they feel lonely or because they feel that getting married and starting a family is something that they're supposed to do. My parents are such people. They really hate each other but they won't divorce, not because they think that commitment is meaningful, but because they consider it immoral and because their culture heavily frowns upon it.

Yes marriage has lost its meaning in this country and around the world. With divorce rates at around 50% what can you say. 1 in 2 people are going to get divorced. Well the problem with these divorcees are that once they hit a roadblock then they just want out. They are not willing to work it out and lead a successful life. When I get married I will do anything to keep my wife happy all the time and make sure we work out all the problems we have so that there never ever ever ever ever is even a minor discussion about a divorce. I will make sure that my kids do the same too.

It is alarming the divorce rate these days and many are not committing to one another as in the past. That does not mean that marriage is wrong. It means instead that man and woman do not put the trust and the hard work into building that long term love relationship. And marriage can be hard at times, because we have to consider the other person and sometimes put their needs above our own. But if both parties do that, then their relationship will grow and last. Hooray for people who are holding onto the values and wanting to be caring and loving.