Why does my life feel as if it is tearing apart
@lologirl2021 (5542)
United States
February 17, 2009 10:12am CST
So last night my parents yelled at my for about three hours and still right now i cant stop crying they made me feel like dirt and since my boyfriend was living with us they kicked him out of the house. Now i dont even have him as much in my life as i would like him to be. My life seems to be falling apart. I love my parents dearly but my boyfriend is my world and without him im not sure where i would go in life.
So today i packed up my boyfriends belonging and he is now going to be living with a friend and not to far down the road so that isnt a bad thing at least i can spend the night there and be able to still be with him. I will be spending the night there on wednesday to take him to the doctor early thursday morning. I wish things wouldnt have happened like this and that him and my parents would have gotten along better.
3 responses
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I got layed off two weeks ago and have not found a job yet. I am hoping that something comes along soon because its hard to live at home with parents who are unhappy with you. I love my boyfriend and thats that.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Sorry i thought i answered everyones questions. THey are yelling because they were frsutrated at my boyfriend for not having a job since october and they think its ridiculous and he should be out more often looking for job then being at home. They say he doesnt do anything at home but i see him doing the dishes, taking the trash out, and thinks that need to be done but my parents werent satisfied and they told me he is a loser and no good for me.
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
17 Feb 09
You do not state what age you are, if you are under 18 then your boyfriend should not be living with you at your parents house. If you are over 18 then your b/f shoud not be living with you at your parents house. You said he is going to go live with a friend, is there a reason that he don't have his own place. Maybe your parents got tired of supporting him, when you choose to live with your parents in their home, you abide by their rules, and if they let him live there then I guess it may have been to keep you there with them so they know you are safe, till they couldn't take it any more. If you and your b/f are capable of getting a place on your own then there shouldn't be sleeping arrangement to begin with. Why are you taking him to the doctor, is it he doesn't want to go alone or he has no car. If that is the case (no car) maybe you should look at the situation, what has he to offer you other than to drag you from place to place to live off someone else. If you are going to post such a topic then you should at least add what age you are so that people can determine whether you are an adult or a kid under the age of 18. I don't understand a parent that would allow such a thing to go on in their home for a kid under the age of 18 and if an adult then why is the parents supporting you and your b/f. I think they did the right thing. Look at yourself you are better than to have to be in a relationship with someone that can't afford a place to live other than off someone else. There would be no future in it, maybe I am wrong but you dont' give enough detail as to why they kicked him out or why he was living there to begin with.
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@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I am 23 years old as my profile tells my age. We were living on our own then he lost his job as a mechanic and hasnt found ajob since october and i just got layed off two weeks ago and have only had two interviews and its hard right now in this economy so no we cant live on our right now and when we both can again believe me it will happen its so frustrating living with parents who are unhappy with you.
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
14 Mar 09
Thank you for the best response, sorry if I came down on you, but you know what I spent 11 years in a marriage that produced 3 beatiful children, and we always lived off someone else. Till I Finally got tired of it, I could live off welfare by myself, after I left I found out I am a good person, I got a job and raised my kids. women seem to think that they need a man or they are not complete. You are way better than to have to stay with a man that can't get himself up and together, to provide or help you provide a place to live and not be moving fromone house to the other. Look like I said at the longggggg picture of 10 years down the road, where will you be then, times are hard now on everybody. And I can understand layoffs,and such. But it just doesn't appear to me that he is interested in really taking care of you and himself with out someone else's help. I hope you find all that you can find in life and remember you are worth more than that. And I think your parents think so too.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Forget to state something. He does has a explorer that he drives when he is cabalable of driving. We has in the hospital a week ago for a seizure and they put him on dilatin and the nurse said the best thing for him is not to drive while being on the medication till he is seen by a primary doctor well his doctor was on vacation all last week and i was able to get him in on thursday so hopefully things will get better after that and he can drive alot more.
@alharra (507)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I am sorry that you are so unhappy. What were your parents yelling at you about? Could it be that they were upset because you and your boyfriend weren't contributing to the household- cleaning, paying rent etc? My fiance, my kids and I live with my parents right now. I'm doing housework, cleaning and cooking, and my fiance pays rent. Perhaps that is the issue?
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@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Well actually we didnt have to pay as my mom said. We bought groceries i did all the laundry, cleaning and cooking as we are both unemployed.
