An 81 year old find love online?

I really want to believe that love was involved in his choice. This also gives me the chance tomention a couple here in Italy who have been spokenof on television recently. He is almost 92 and his new wife is 90 They are a beautiiful couple and are so really in love, in the real sense of the word, with each other that their story is fantastic and sad at the same time. It is sad that they will have so few years left to spend together. They did not meet online but at the cemetary where both were attending the graves of their previous spouses. I might add too that the 92 year old man has 88 gold medaks for swimming. This world may well be have many who misuse the sentiments of others but I want to believe there are still some, like these two couples that, even though it is late in their lives, do find real love. It leaves hope for the rest of us

I guess my answer to your question is bet illustrated by something that my grandmother told me when she was 93. She told me that the worst thing (about getting old) for her was that inside she felt the same way she did when she was 16 and she had a fit every time she looked in the mirror to see an old hag (her words) staring back at her. When I was in my teens, I couldn't conceive of some one as old as 50 falling in love....but here I am now. So falling in love at 81? Why not? We're only alive as long as we're living, right? Personally, I'd rather go out kicking, than to sit waiting for it.

28 years younger than him. Sounds like he wants some one to share his last days with him. Not sure that ya can call it love!

I feel that he is looking for some company, therefore he opted for a younger bride that too 28 years younger than him. No doubt, when after marriage, they start living together his wife would also nurse him. It is possible that retired art professor Uncle would be more active, alert and agile than his actual age. I have a feeling when one grows old, he/she looks for some decent company and now a days such is the environment that even one's own children do not care much about him. If one becomes old enough, children start treating him as baggage and started to care less about him. May be, that woman was also looking for some company as she might be lonely too. The credit should also be given to that 58 years old woman who dared to marry to such an old fellow. She must have considered some virtues and qualities in the old man, before plunging into the life long commitment. Let them enjoy each other's company.

i would think he was looking for someone to take care of him & i hope her heart is in the right to do that. makes u wonder about her more than him.

Love comes in many forms and no one can judge anther's emotion. Certainly his new wife gets some benefit out of the relationship. If you think about most wives sign on to be care givers.

Last year, I met a 78 year old very nice man. He was a poet and short story writer and loved animals with a passion. He had been in a long term relationship but his lady had left him 3 years earlier...he didn't say why (it's my belief most men do not know or understand why their partners leave them). He was an absolute gentleman. I really enjoyed our communications via email but then I met him. He was an old man! Before I met him he was someone ageless but meeting him altered that perception. His writings showed me someone with a vast imagination and a serenity I had not encountered before. Even though he would question me about my life I realised it was somehow more about him than a willingness to learn about and learn to care about me. And strangely, at the back of my mind was the idea that he was looking for someone who would look after him in his old age. Our friendship too seemed to be more about alleviating his loneliness than us coming together to further explore those things we had in common. It was as though he wanted to get inside my head to make me suitable for his needs. He had a lot of knowledge on many subjects and he was always letting me know this. To me, this was a bit of a bore. When I emailed him to tell him that I would no longer be communicating with him because I was not comfortable with our friendship and that I thought it would be better if I looked for someone closer to my own age...he emailed me back and said that he did not understand and he thought things were fine between us. That was the biggest eye opener of all. Stopping the communication was such a blow to his ego, he must not have got as far as the "someone closer to my own age part". I'm 23 years younger than him.

It can be a little of both. But the bride, at 58, isn't that young no more. She may even need nursing herself! I guess when the two of them got together, they felt good chatting and sharing stories with each other. And having met up, they felt that they are the companions they were looking for in their golden years. Some older people marry solely for that companionship and nothing else. It is indeed sweet to be able to hear of stories where even an old man can find love on the internet!

I agree that the internet is not just for the young. I absolutely believe it is possible to find and be in love and a loving relationship at 81 or any age. Is that the case here? Who knows???? We seem to put such "limits" on people because of their age, weight, disabilities in the this country! Do you feel as old as you are? I don't. I am sure he doesn't either. Those numbers are not fair to us in my opinion. You really can be as young as you feel. Good for him (them)!!!

hello zandi...I remember reading about this incident recently.but I dont know why you think its impossible for a person to be in love at the age of 81.....Dont you know that just as love is blind,love has no age barrier as well.Old age tends to bring with it loneliness,failing health and a need to be loved and cared for.But for most people their children will be far away and their partner may have also expired.Marriage at this age may be for seeking companionship,and to have someone caring and understanding enough,and perhaps give the person something to look forward to once again in the last lap of life......I wish the couple good luck....

It could be real love or it could be a nurse but I feel it is real love .I noticed that no mention of money being made so I think these two persons have spent a while getting to know each other and she liked what he has presented her with.Many young women are frustrated with younger men and are looking for a more mature perspective.My only problem with this situation is how long will it last but I suppose the old gentleman will live the rest of his life in marital bliss...waht a way to go

I do believe that love is still the reason. My own cousin who is now 46 years also found her love online. She entered dating site and there she met her boyfriend. They are planning to get married June this year.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I doubt, it is a pure love. It may be need for this hour and he wanted some body to accompany him, so that he is taken care-off and not left alone. AS love needs eyes to play an important roll, which is missing in this case. No doubt, if smeone is ready to match herself and forgo her feelings , it is good. I consider it like getting pass-port for the whole life on line. There have been cases, when lovers united after a gap of 50 + yrs and got together, but that was not for this reason, they were together during their child-hood and met after long gap and then got married. I wish them very best. May god bless them and have great time.

I believe that people should be able to find love at any age. I only wish the two of them health and happiness. I only hope that he doesn't have ill intentions and only wants a nursemaid. Sometimes because of their age they have old fashioned values and feel that they should be married, not just living together. A co-worker of mine has an older brother who was 90 when he married for the second time. Of course they could have just lived together but they felt that the right thing to do was to get married. And they are just that - happily married!

We may have numerous prejudgements in our heads. Is she after his money? Is he looking for someone younger just for certain benefits, or example as a caregiver? Is there really any use in getting married at this age? I say: why not? If these people are happy together they have my blessing. The gift of love is one of the greatest there is, and I wish everyone and anyone who receives it to embrace it and treasure it. I hope he will be able to enjoy his marriage for a long time, and that they will make each other very happy.

well friend....as the saying goes that love has no barriers and does not hold any age bar.well personally i think that at this age a man would get married only for companionship and affection. have a nice day...

it is just exactly like my grandfather before. when he was 84 and was widowed for a year by that time, he married a woman past her 50's. anyways, they didn't stay long cause my grandfather already after being two years together. but i don't object but some how i feel if the old man can't any more provide or have any means to provide for the woman i don't think it is advisable not unless the woman will not any more ask for support. cause it is really a pity to see an old man working real hard to provide for his young partner when he can barely able to provide for himself. just like was in the case of my grandfather before. and we had no money ourselves. and so when they need money it is really such a burden in our part to provide for my grandfather's partner also. anyways, not all cases are like that. most probably it just happened in my grandfather. wish that the old folks be happy with their family or children's family and not any more look for their own partner if they don't ahve the means to provide for them.

y not? its really okay, but i am pretty sure both side looks for what can they get or benefits from each other.. yes am sure there is love but also there is also behind that... but its really okay as long as they agreed whatever that is behind it... so goodluck to both of them

It might be a real love. Things sometimes happen crazy and hard to explain to other people. I have a friend who met a girl on the internet and they live in different country and finally get to live together.

Aha,who knows?Only he and the God.Maybe he found a true love.