Honest Opinion or Rating Conscious?

@eichs1 (1934)
Philippines
February 17, 2009 12:46pm CST
I have a funny star rating/reputation swing. From 84 to 75, went up to 85 then slides again to 83. These swings made me went back to review discussions I've started, my responses and comments. I noticed that there are discussions where I disagree with the thread starter, but most of the time, I am agreeing. And as far as giving guidance, I don't think I have given wrong instructions/information to anyone. I have read from old members that we should should not be concerned much with the ratings. But the reviewing of my activities made me feel a little bit sad thinking that somebody might have been offended by my posts and, strangely, this is making me rethink of how to respond to any discussions furhter. Should I keep on responding as to my honest opinion or should I avoid offending anyone in a discussion? How about you guys? How will you go about this? Should we post as to our honest opinion or sugarcoat our words to get higher ratings? Or is there a way to keep responding as to your conviction and still get high ratings? Please share.
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9 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
17 Feb 09
Hi there eichs! I always write what I feel. There is no point in writing something which is not my real opinion just for the sake of getting a rating which might not work anyway. Users sometimes are in a bad mood, don't like an avatar, ate too much pepper at lunchtime or anything else you can think of and this reflects on how they rate. They may even rate without even reading a discussion or a response just because it gives them a feeling of some sort of power. Be yourself. You will feel better and people will see you being consistent too. Most of all have fun, which is not easy if you have to think out everything and hope others will agree with it
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@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
Thanks for pointing about the bad mood. Are you sure there are members who do "power playing" here? . I'm beginning to believe you. Well, I always rate people based on their answers to discussions I started and I do give positive ratings though the responder disagrees with me as long as he's/she's not off the topic. I forgot that we give ratings differently. Thanks for the encouragement too. Yes, I really believe it is still best to write what we really feel.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
17 Feb 09
I believe that online is no different from offline and that myLot is a slice of life. Therefore there are all sorts here and all sorts of things could happen. With that in mind I prefer, and suggest the same to others, to be me all the time. If there is a topic where I strongly disagree but would rather not say so then I skip it and move to something else. It must be fun and not a 'chore' to get the best out of myLot in my opinion.
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@daneg33 (1128)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
mysdianait, if you can make one person smile per day, you have made the world a better place. Your pepper comment made me laugh out loud, thanks for that!
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
17 Feb 09
Ratings do not effect your payout, but sugarcoating your discussions would ruin the discussion for you. Unless you are being honest with yourself you will get no fun out of myLot. My ratings have swung between 76 and 77 for over 2 years. I gave up worrying about it long ago. myLot will not explain the reasons.
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@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
That's right. There's no fun joining a discussion where you can't express yourself for fear of being given another negative rating. I think I will really have to ignore the rating and just concentrate on giving my honest opinion just like you guys do.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
When I started MYLOTTING, I have received good rating of 80, but I was not conscious of my ratings then until it increased to 92 then bounced back to my present rating which is 86. I felt sad and affected because I am in GOOD FAITH that I have not done wrong against anyone here. Like you, I voiced out what to be my honest opinion and what I believe in. Too bad that we have no idea who might have gave us a negative rating for us to at least know why they gave us that kind of rating and assess ourselves if it is really offensive or not. Certainly, your mind is confused what to do right now. Like you, I also made a discussion about this topic and most of my respondents advised me to ignore it for as long as my earnings is not affected. That is precisely true and I would tell you the same. My friend, do what you think is right. Write whatever your mind feels to write. Respond and comment in accordance with your honest opinion. Don't conform into an opinion or idea that is against yours. You cannot please everybody here in Mylot because this is an interracial community. We have different cultures, opinions, ideas and sometimes the mood is another factor. Good Luck to you always and happy mylotting!
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Thank you for selecting my response as your Best. Happy mylotting always!
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
Thanks for sharing that I am not the only one who experienced this. Yes, it's very encouraging that everyone is saying the same thing - be yourself and air your own opinion. This makes me proud to be a member of myLot. It's indeed just a fragment of our real life but it's very encouraging to know that honesty more than rating is prevalent here.
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• United States
17 Feb 09
Im pretty new to the Mylot scene, and I must say I really dont understand your post. As far as the star rating thing, I did not even realize there was such a thing. But as far as giving your honest opinion, I believe you should always do so. I believe in always saying how you feel, even if it is not the most popular trend. I dont have the ability to be fake...I cannot bring myself just to say what people want to hear. If you ask my opinion (and sometimes when you dont) you will at least get an honest answer. I think people would respect you more for honesty, rather than just giving a popular response.
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
You will have your own star too and a rating after your 100th response. . I did post what I feel every time I respond to a discussion here and I was not thinking of the rating. But my star changed from yellow to red then back to yellow in just a span of a week or less so I become conscious of the ratings. The rating change also made me wonder if I carefully worded my posts and I am not deliberately hurting anyone. So far, the review of my posts tells me that I posted what I really felt. Thanks for speaking for giving your honest answer.
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@jshekhar (1562)
• India
18 Feb 09
Your situation is really funny. However, I am yet to experience something like this till now. My star rating has always gone up, though I have very few of them. I always like to post honest opinions. Sometimes when I find a duplicate discussion has been started, I feel free to tell that to the discussion starter then and there. I never think that he might rate me negative for that.
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
I think providing links to the same discussion is necessary. That way, we are not just responding to the discussion but are actually giving more relevant answers by showing them previous answers. I do that too pal without thinking about the ratings. Hope I never became conscious about the stars but I did so I am now trying not to think about it when replying here at myLot.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I am what I am and will answer that way. Even when I disagree I try to do so with respect though I'm not always shown that. As for the ratings... mine are falling though I'm not concerned that it was do to stepping on anyone's toes. I've had mostly good things going on. I'm not sure what happened and don't really worry about. I'm hoping that as I'm here more people will grow to like seeing my responses and rate as such.
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@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
I did the same thing. Express myself and keep being respectful of others. After reviewing my responses and comments, I think I may have stepped on someone's toes too. But I did not do it intentionally and I respond in good fate. Well, with your responses guys, I am now encouraged to keep on responding honestly and respectfully.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Keep being you. I think you'll be fine.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I am not quite sure that I understand your question. Although I think that my wonderment is how you can tell how your ratings work. I don't understand how you know anything about those numbers sliding. Is there any information you can give me so I can tell? Right now I have a 10 rating and it has been holding for a while. I am keeping my fingers crosses on that one! If I were you I would still remain honest. I am not really sure how the algorithm works here and I am trying to avoid figuring it out.
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@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
Put your cursor on top of your star rating and it will show your reputation. Yours right now is 96/100. Very high one. I'm not sure about the algorithms either. What I read though in some of the discussions here is that, if other members rated you negatively, it will lower down your reputation and consequently, your star rating.
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@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
I always post honest opinions never mind if it is contradicting other ideas, what I am trying to say is based on my own idea. I don't care if I will rated negative. For me there's no such thing as wrong opinion, as long as it is what you think is right and made your own stand so be it. I never care about ratings I just want to voice out my opinion.
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@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
You got a good stand there friend. Now I know that most of us here are responding because of what we honestly believe and of what we personally know. I will follow your leads. I will remain honest in whatever I post here at myLot.
• India
18 Feb 09
hiii eichs1...Happy yo meet you here...Yeah once upon a time i had experienced the same..My star was 8 and at once it drastically goes to 7..I had not understood why it goes like this..And the other thing is like to respond to all the discussions in a polite way.... No i am rated to all the members in this discussion and i am responding..Actually this is my nature..I don't know why people are behaving in this manner giving negative rating for the polite responses also...So from now we have to be much more politeway to get much rating..gud posting...happy mylotting...
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@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
It's kind of sad that some members do rate others negatively for unreasonable reasons. Even your polite answers can be construed negatively. But life's really like that. There are lots of things hard to comprehend. Yes friend, let's just keep on rating responders to our discussions fairly. As we can see from the answers to this discussion, honesty prevails.
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