A lady is upset about the abortion she had
By maximax8
@maximax8 (31046)
United Kingdom
February 18, 2009 8:25am CST
A lady called Katie that lives in Somerset aged 24 years old has three children and she is on a strong medication of over 200 tablets a week. She has blood tests every month. She is amazed that the hospital didn't pick up on her pregnancy through the testing. She had been told it was unlikely that she would have more children so she wasn't expecting a pregnancy. She got a phone call and the hospital told her she was pregnant and an ultrasound scan said 17 weeks pregnant. Doctors said that her baby might be disabled if she had him or her due to the medication. She says if she had known she was pregnant she would have put up with the pain and stopped taking the medication. She had to take a pill to stop that baby's heart but that failed and he stayed alive. She had to give birth and a few minutes later her baby son died in her arms. She thinks the abortion was horrible and is cross about how things turned out.
What do you think?
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15 responses
@Krissta (90)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
I personally would of told my dr to shove that pill somewhere not pretty.. I am a firm believer in that things happen for a reason. I am totally pro choice, but at the same time, only believe in abortion for extreme cases.
I would of been totally angry at the dr's for not making sure as a 24 year old woman that, the test for pregnacy was not implimented each and ever time, especially when there seems to of been no birth control amoung her 200 pills a week. Its just another way dr's get to play God.
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@22angel22 (450)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I know its hard to have an abortion, but it was what she wanted at the time and might of been what was best for her life, her other children, and the baby that was not fully developed. Abortion is personal choice, not that i would ever have one, but I do not look poorly at someone who has had one.
@shawty420 (10)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I Don't think it is what she wanted.. i am guessing that the dr made her believe that this was the best way to go about doing things.Nobody every REALLY wants an abortion, Nobody ever really wants to take an unborn childs life away. Pressure from drs,and "friends" or family and society are the most common reason that people end up having an abortion,And it is really sad that doctors think that somehow that MD behind their names stands for i am above god.It is a shame that friends cant be supportive when they really need to be.And then you have those family members that seem to think that you are below their standards and that they somehow need to control your life in every single aspect.My heart goes out to this woman because i can only imagine what turmoil she is feeling inside and going through right now.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Feb 09
Even if a Dr said the "might" not have any more kids, that doesn't mean that she won't. I understand she is upset but she knew the risk going on the medications and should have used proper birth control or gotten a hysterectomy. She also had the choice to not do the abortion and see hoe the baby when when he was born.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I think that if it had been me and I was taking that much medication, I would have been using birth control to make absolutely sure I didn't get pregnant. Either that or I would have had the baby anyways despite the chance of it being disabled...being disabled isn't the end of the world.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
Hi maximax8! That is so sad. I will feel so upset and angry too if I am in her shoes. I do understand the gravity of her feelings. I am wondering why the hospital didn't made sure that she was not pregnant. I know that the normal procedure for doctors before giving medication is ask the patient if she is pregnant or not and when was the last time she had her period. These are normal questions being asked with women patients who are still having menstruation if they will be given strong medications.
Take care and have a great day!
lovelots..faith
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
18 Feb 09
It's sad that the procedure got fumbled in the end, if it was me I would have just went ahead with the pregnancy I firmly believe things happen for a reason. When the pill to stop his heart didn't work that I believe was a sign that he should have lived. But to each his own I guess, I feel sorry for her she will never forget about that time in her life and she will always remember that day.
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Well,mabey that was her punisment from god. for aborting in the first place. haveing your child die in your arms is so horrible. i dont know how i would react to life after that..
But the dr. did say he might be disabled..children live healty and long lives with many diffrent dissabilities. unless of course theres somthing more to thr story then there is written here.. like he said a specific abnormalitie or a spacific disability and there was no possible way for the child to live a productive life..
thans i might beable to understand
but from the information we are given here, i dont think it was a good reason to abort...
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Wow, that's horrible. It depends on how she was told that she is unlikely to be pregnant but if they even mentioned that to her, I would say it is the doctors. Doctors need to be more responsible and remember the fact at how much we depend on them. I hope she is doing well.
@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
18 Feb 09
This is so sad. I think in that situation I would discuss it with my husband. It is a difficult decision to end a life, especially one growing inside of you. I would find out what disabled actually means. I think I would try to keep the baby, especially if doctors didn't think she would ever conceive again. It was possibly a miracle that she did.
@kayla_7602 (704)
• Canada
19 Feb 09
What an awful situation to be in. If it was me I would have told the doctor that I wasn't going to take the pill to stop the baby's heart. At 17 weeks it is a baby not a fetus. But then I think of how she must have felt...being put in such an awful situation. To have to decide to chance having a baby with a disability..she would have started to think if that was the life she would have wanted for her child. I dont know personally I dont think I could have went through with it...but she proboply not thinking striaght when she had to make the decision. It is a horrible situation to be in and I truly feel for your freind.
@Jamton (118)
•
18 Feb 09
That's really very sad. I'm completely pro choice when it comes to abortion and I believe your decisions are completely your responsiblity, however i do believe she had every right to feel cross and upset about the way things happened. The hospital should have picked up on her pregnancy, and they are partially to blame. I understand completely that she feels if they had realised she was pregnant, she wouldn't have taken the medication because of the baby.
Saying that there must have been a reason they didn't pick up on the pregnancy, it isn't necessarily the hospitals fault.
@queenie1234 (57)
• China
19 Feb 09
Do not know if you have not heard of any contraceptive measures are not the most reliable.We are here for women worried about their physical changes,although we have taken the contraceptive measures,but we will always pay attention to his physical changes,so that we would not be ptegnant for a long time do not know.
@queenie1234 (57)
• China
19 Feb 09
Do not know if you have not heard of any contracepfive measures are not absolutely reliable.We are here for women worried about their physical changes,although we have taken the contraceptive measures,but we will always pay attention to his physical vhanges,so that we would not be ptegnant for a long time do not know their own.
@Latrivia (2878)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I'm amazed the hospital didn't pick up on the pregnancy. I'm amazed they didn't specifically test for it before putting her on the medication. They didn't even let me near the operating table last October without putting me through a pregnancy test.
Botched abortions do happens, especially if they're chemical. She probably should have had an actual surgical removal of the fetus. Actually, I don't think the lady is telling the whole story. Chemical abortions usually take a couple of days at most to kick in. There's no reason for her to have gone even a full week without knowing if the pills were working or not. She should have requested an immediate physical removal of the fetus when she found out it didn't work. Methinks she's not entirely blameless for the turn out.
