ex-gfs and other things brought up by his friends

Yeah, u are very right here ^_^ What's past is past, and there's no point harping over it ^_^ After all, couples will become frenz when they break up, and there's nothing wrong in talking about it ^_^ However, for those more jealous type, they will only see it as a comparison, and they just dun like the feeling.. Or even worse, they might think that they are just a substitue to her bf's ex gf.. hehe ^_^ What u have said definitely makes sense, but not every guys or ex gf are willing to open up ^_^ However if they are willing to open up, it means that they are ready to move on in life too ^_^ IN that sense, one can consider themselves to be lucky to be able to know more about their own bf ^_^

Most guys or girls for that matter are hesitant to open up to their current girlfriends/boyfriends for fear of fights and arguements that might arise. Most are worried that their current squeeze might get offended or are too sensitive and will get angry. And so most will choose to take the easy way out by hiding things from their partners. I am guilty of that fact too. However, now that my boyfriend is more accepting of me talking about my past, there are no longer much secrets between the both of us as I know that by talking openly, he will not get angry and ugly scenes will not occur. Why would some guys hide some things form their girlfriends? It's precisely that majority of the girls are just too sensitive and insecure by nature to accept openly when our guys want to share with us their past. I'm curious enough to ask my boyfriend about his ex-gf just for the knowledge of what makes him tick and what makes him happy. And from there, I know how to proceed. And my boyfriend is willing to open up to me as he knows that I won't get jealous/angry/offended/sensitive or whatever other girls are doing. That is what makes the relationship strong and both of us happy too. In fact, I am actually good friends too with his ex-girlfriend, and he too, remain as good friends with her. And from her side, I learnt lots of things that I know about my boyfriend and in a way, this arrangement works fine for the three of us. I can't stand too sensitive people myself, even with friends. What more a girlfriend?

Yeah, but too bad, that's how most ple are behaving.. Actually, it's much easier for a gal to open up as compared to a guy, in a relationship.. Most guys wont do so, because they are often seem to be the stronger character in the relationship.. But they are wrong in that way, for a relationship means sharing and there should be no secrets among each other ^_^ I'm glad to know that u and your bf are getting along fine, and had work out a way in making the relationship stronger THat's quite good and it's always better to know what each other is thinking, rather than trying to guess, what's going on ^_^ Be it who is the sensitive person, it does not really matter because it shows that they actually care ^_^ Of course there must be a limit, but where is the limit?? lol =D ONly those involved in it will know and feel it themselves ^_^

Yup ^_^ That's the purpose of sharing.. For them to understand us better, but not use it against us whenever they are not feeling good.. IN the long run, one will not wanna share anymore because phobia is being developed and a relationship will slowly start to fade away, which is not healthy.. In relationship, it's always easy to listen, but hard to accept and let go.. Because, everybody do compare.. Whether one do say it out or keep it in them, they will feel equally uncomfortable.. But then again, as a partner in the relationship, they have done their part by sharing and they are prepared for whatever is gonna happen ^_^

Yeah~ I agree with you. What's past is past. What's shared with us by our partners is for us to keep as knowledge and not to be used as a weapon during fights and arguements. A person will clam up and not share any longer if what we have said is used against us in arguements and is brought up time and time again till the topic has been squeezed dry. Just listen, accept understand and let go. That is the best for all relationships, right?