well hell I want to rant .........

I am really sorry that ur life is so so hard. I cant help you in any manner though i wish i could. Life can be real bad at times for everyone and remember famous american line..tough times dont last but tough people do.. and i can understand ur want to rant.. but if u really want to rant then i give u a site which pays u 5 to 10$ everytime u rant there .. it has no referral prog so no links just name of site try it The name of the site is Rantblogger.com and they literally pay you to complain. You don't even have to sign up. You just write your complaint, press the submit button then wait 5 days to see if they accept your rant. They will inform you by email if your rant was acceptable. If it is they will pay you no less than $5 dollars and up to $10 for a single complaint. Your rant can be on any topic and as long as it is exciting to read they will accept it and pay you for it.

Having gone through so much crap over the past 6 or 7 years, there are times when I'm almost tempted to think that the gods must have a grudge against me... but as the cliche goes, nothing in this world is permanent. In time, all your heart aches will pass and you will look back and say to yourself, "damn, that was a load of shite!" Nonetheless, in as much as it really sucks to hear people say this all the time, it is during moments like this when we grow and become wiser and stronger... at least that is what I hope for you.

Wow your life sounds a lot like mine. I have two girls One is 9 and one is 3. The 9 year old has ADHD. I live in a small apartment too and I've been having one of those weeks where everything that can go wrong does. I agree with a previous poster that it sounds like you are depressed. I think you need to talk to a mental healt professional or a doctor . I've suffered from depression for years and it's not something that just goes away. You have to seek help. Have you ever heard of "THE SECRET". It'a book/video about positive energy and focusing on what you want. If you focus on what you want and positive things, these things will come to you. If you focus on negative things, negative things will happen. In short, what you put out into the universe comes back to you. It helped me. Check it out. You never know, it might help you. http//www.amazon.com/Secret-Rhonda-Byrne/

it's not what happens to you that matters it's what you do about it. My life is very similar to yours in many ways. I find that meditation and yoga help quite a bit. The most important thing for you to do is to realize how many options you really have. You may not feel that you are capable of telling your boyfriend to leave as one person advised , certainly no one can stop you from leaving. I know it's taboo for a woman to abandon her family but yous ound like you could use a break and being left alone with 2 kids might just be the wake up call your boyfriend needs to get himself together. If you take some time for yourself to get an education and a good job and a nice place for yourself that you feel comfortable living in you can always go back and get your kids later. If he's like most men he'll be happy to give them up when you're ready.

I am very sorry ,but our lives are so difficult.I can not give you any help I am sorry .But you must believe that life is better,although has a lot of suffering,and finally we can Spend the suffering ,be happy.

I am sorry you are having such a hard time. Rant away!! If the boyfriend doesn't want to be there, tell him to leave. He is just bringing you down more. Make yourself get out, even if you go out of the apartment and get a breath of fresh air. Do you have a library or some place that you can go? You need to get out and get your mind off of things. Do something for yourself for a change.

Sounds like you are having a bad time. We've all had those times. Do you know any one who, say for example, would keep your kids so that you could get some free time just for yourself? Does your b/f work? Look into help from your local churches or even city or county people might be able to tell you where to look for some stress relief and help. Hang in there.

You don't have the worst luck...you're depressed and it sounds like you have every right to be. Your boyfriend treats you like cr@p because you let him and I understand that you're not in the position to do much about it right now but there is hope. If your boyfriend isn't working and contributing to your expenses...if you're receiving some sort of assistance and don't NEED him there financially, you should tell him to leave. What is he doing for you other than bringing you down? If he is supporting you then it might take longer but it is possible for you to get into a position where you can stand on your own two feet. Start by seeing if you can arrange daycare for the little one during school hours so that you can work part-time someplace. Getting out of the house and doing something where you can feel a sense of accomplishment will do wonders for your self esteem. Hang in there.

Hi sxrxnrr, You poor thing, you need a break girl, and the first thing you shoud do is get rid of your b/f or tell him to get a job, if he said the only reason he is with you is because of his daughter then kick him out, he don't care for you so why should you caretaker for him, that is down right taken the p**s and he is just using you, kick him out or you are going to be down trodden with no life of your own. Take my advice. Hugs. Tamara

you have difficulty situation indeed. actually mine is difficult too. i think there are so also some people or lots of people on the same plight as you. but i do hope that you can find a way to change the situation around. i don't to give advice on difficult situations as this one. hope though you will find someone who could really help you out of your situation. it is hard to bear with this kind of situation. i have experienced that many times in my life. and i don't want as much as possible to be back on that kind of situation. actually i am single person. but i am stuck at home cause i am jobless and i don't to do with m y life. i don't ahve many friends to hang out with. and so i am stuck at home most of the time everyday. this has been plight ever since i was young. pretty much at home always. very difficult . just like living in hell actually. but anyways, things seem better lately. hope it will keep getting better. but i just learned to be optimistic and hope for the best though every thing seems to appear going to worse or not improving. cause when i am optimistic i feel that my situation change for the better. who knows the answer or the thing that you are waiting for will come to you soon. and so just optimistic. i just don't know what kind of change or help you will need. anyways, just try to take care of your health and don't try to rush things and enjoy your time or have some forum of enjoyment to beat those stresses away from your mind and your body as well.

I have been there! Man, do I remember how that all felt. I promise you, there is a light at the end of this tunnel. You are feeling extrmemly over-whelmed, that is quite obvious. Here is the best advice I can give you, and remember, I have been there too. First, go see your doctor. Tell him how you are feeling and ask for help. He can prescribe medication that can help you handle things better. It is not a magical fix, it just helps you to cope better. You do not have to take the medicine forever, or even for a long time. I took it for no more than 3 monthss when I was on it, but that was all I needed to help me. Then, as hard as it may be, tell that b/f of yours that if he is not there for you too, then you would rather be on your own. He is bringing you down more than you can imagine, and holding you back from a happy life. Yes, it is hard being a single parent, but if you really think about it, that is what you are right now, just with an extra body in the house. I am sure that there are a lot of things that you would like to do, but you feel that you can't becaue of him. It may be nothing more than window shopping for an hour or two, but you feel like you are obligated to tending to his needs. Am I right? When your 8 year old is in school, take the little one to do smething that you may normally not do for fun, such as an hour at the park, a walk by the lake, a walk through a mall, something, anything that will help you break away from your normal routine for a little while. A simple changef rom the norm can make a huge difference. I am not sure what time your kids go to bed at night, but I do know that after they go to bed, you should make time to do something that you enjoy at home, or even get a babysitter once in a while to just get out by yourself. I used to take that time, after the kids went to bed to read a book or watch t.v., uniterrupted. I never was one to go out much, I always felt that it was more important for me to be home with my kids. For your son, who has ADHD, routine is very important. Both of my oldest boys have ADHD and I think the youngest is displayings signs as well. I have found that when they are on a set routine, they do best. It also takes giving them a little more attention at times, but not a whole lot more. For example, if I notice one of them doing something that is good, I will tell them that they are doing a good job. Just little words of encouragement, and lots of hugs. Another thing, is that we have oen lines of communication, they can and do come to me with anything and everything. If I am really in the middle of something trhat cannot wait, I will tell them to give me a few minutes, then I will listen, and I follow through. Another thing that really helped me, and my kids was to get rid of clutter. If we didn't use it, we got rid of it. That made all of us feel like we had more space to breathe in the place we lived. Chanes are that your 2 year old is feeling tension in the house and doen't know any other way to deal with it. Have patience. Once you find a bit of peace, and you are able to be calmer, your little one will be too. You will always have obstacles to face. For me, the key is to remember where I was before, and look at every little thing I accomplished each day. I used to say to the kids,"Well, I forgot to go to the store, but at least I remembered to feed us all." Give yourself some slack too. You are only one person and it is impossible to do every little thing all at once. Okay, your phone lins are messed up and the phone company can't get to it until Tuesday. Look at the brighter side, at least you will have that much more timewith out the phone ringing! Okay, the toilet broke, at least it is fixable, and it wasn't something else, like the water lines throughout the entire house! I really hope that this helps you out. I knwo where you are right now, and it is not an easy place to be. You can and will get though it all, it just takes time. Don't be afraid to ask a friend for help once in a while either.

My advice to you is that you talk to your BF, if your daughter is the only reason he is sticking around, it might be time to end things and move on. Like you said he sleeps while you do everything so what good is he? I personally would pack up the kids and go visit a relative for a while. I think getting out of the house is very important. I am like you in many aspects. I have two daughters, one is three and the other 2. I have no licence so I can't drive anywhere which means that in bad weather we are stuck indoors. During the nice weather we do anything that we can to spend time outside. We go for very long walks and go to the park, we even walk to do our shopping and take the bus back. I have one major differnece. I have a loving husband that helps out any way that he can, and on his days out he takes us out just so that we don't have to stay inside. I think that without him, I would have gone crazy. Raising children is never easy, I think that your BF needs to get his act together, if not you need to kick him to the curb. No one deserves to be treated like they are useless, and that is how I see him treating you. I hope that you can come to a dicision that will make your life better, rememeber in order to take care of others, we must first take care of ourselves. If you are stressed all the time and depressed, it isn't good for you or your children, I am sure that they pick up on the emotions around the house. I hope that you figure out what you want to do and I hope that you live a happy life from now on. Good luck and happy mylotting.