You Will Be Jailed For Disciplining Your Children or Any Children

I remember very well being a kid, and getting punished when I did wrong. There were plenty of times when I was spanked, and it did me no harm at all. As a matter of fact, it did me some good. Did I like getting spanked? Of course not! Did it hurt my feelings? Of course it did! Did I learn how to listen and be respectful? Sure did! Now, I am not one who agrees that spanking is always the answer. I think that there are times when it is neccessary and times when it is not. For example, if my child runs out into the middle of the road, my first action is goingto be to tell them to come inside for a while. If they do it again after that, Iwill spank their little rears. Running out in the road is very dangerous. I would rather spank my child so he/she knows that is wrong than to give them a "time out" repeatedly and end up having them hit by a car. In my case, the first act is always a time out from the situation. I will send them to their room, or maybe even have them stand in the corner. If the behavior persisits after that,and it is one that can hurt them or anther person, then, I am more likely to spank them. I am here to teach my children right from wrong, as well as many other things. I would not evr spank my child out of anger, but only as a punishment, and they are all very well aware of that. There are some parents who take it too far and hit their child in the head or for every little thing, and that, I feel is wrong. I also feel that if you tell a child that Mommy and Daddy cannot punish them, you are going to find that there are a lot more kids who end up in trouble with the law as they get older. There will be more kids with behavioral issues at school too. Not to mention, if a paretn ccannot punish their own child, that child will never learn respect, or any of the other values we learn though discipline. There is a fine line between abuse and discipline. In my opinion, there needs to be a law to protect kids from abuse, not punishment.

Holy crap...is this what we're in for? What ever happened to "it takes a village to raise a child"? Why must people be in our business? You can look at this two sided: to raise a child gently versus with a stern but loving hand. I've seen children who are disciplined with a mere sterned tone and they act like rotten apples. I've seen a child whipped with a belt so hard there's bruises left on his body. Different strokes for different folks. It shouldn't leave a child so hurt they can't walk or sit. I've had to spank my son many times because a stern tone doesn't mean anything. Children these days are so spoiled rotten, it's so sad. Like adults, they want and want but aren't willing to do anything for it. When at the store, whenever I hear a kid screaming, all I can say is, "Not my kid". When it is my kid, I just take a firm grip and lead them to a corner and have a talk. Yes, I've had to leave a store or cut my visit short due to unruley children, but that's my part to keep the noise pollution to a dull low. People shouldn't be hearing my children hoot and making a racket. If they do, I'm more embarrased...so much that I can't do anything about it right then and there. You're the parent, you brought them into this world, teach them how to behave...but do it where it isn't uncomfortable to others. Too bad some people get too sensitive when some kid gets whapped on the butt. I'd like to know what the final answer and say is to this conflict. Will we as parents be foreced to write our children letters when they're being bad? Like that's going to happen. Children respond best to verbal things...just listen to the music they play. They aren't troubled by books but by what they hear and feel. Would you tend to believe someone if they wrote to you telling they loved you or would you rather feel their arms around you and hear it whispered in your ear? Love...discipline...it goes hand in hand. Good or bad, it does best physically. *Pleiades

I don't know about the Philippines or any laws in that Country. I would think this law would apply to severe beatings whether they are merited or not. I don't care what the child has done, they don't deserve a severe beating. This may scare them emotionally as you mentioned or injure them in ways you didn't intend. I believe in discipline but think that physical discipline should be the last resort.I mean if the child is in endangering themselves or you (by being violent) such is the case of one girl who led her little brother into a pond which contained alligators (then do whatever you need to do). But in most cases physical discipline is over rated and doesn't teach a child anything.

Well, Happy weekend to You eichs1. In sweden we have had this law for a long time now. It has worked well for the adults and the children. Children have their rights to. But cann ot alwasy express them for them self. I do not beleive in spanking or hurt the children will help them to understand the wrong things they do or say. I think it only helps them to do the same when they are adults. There are god and better methods to use for bringin and rase our kids. You have a book of law, use it. When You rase the kids, use the local commutity and the law about how we should act, behave and function in our sociaty. You do not do that with child abuse. Child abuse in my opinion is when you spank, beat and hurt Your kids. That is not showing love, that is only showing YOUR power over them and make them see when I grow up I can do the same.

Hello eichs1! I don't think this one would be passed. Sometimes, children should be hurt a little bit but not in abusive ways. Children then here would be hard headed and won't listen to their parents anymore. My parents disciplined me too everytime I committed mistake but I don't have any anger to them. I even love them more and thank them for disciplining me. t Why would they still pass that kind of bill? What's the use of bantay bata? I guess they should take care of it and try to make a more relevant bill than "makialam" on how parents raise their child.

thoses people who say their is a fine line between chid abuse and discipling there child, is wrong. you would never take it to far as to say you came close to that line if you was disciplining your child, you to do this to teach the child from wrong. i do not think this is wrong to do, as tap on the back of the legs or on the back of the hand is not going to couse bodly harm. however i feel there are to many people who push the line into abuse. who say they are disciplining there child so i feel this law may need to be passed in order to protect children who may be in danger. but stopping you from tapping you child on the hand or legs is going a little to far.

What if a gang of teenagers comes to kill you and rob you? o_O As a teenager, I say the idea of banning "ALL bodily harm of children by adults in ALL situations" is bad.

Yes it should be passed. Under no circumstances is there a good reason for an adult to strike their child, even for discipline. Let me ask you something. If an adult lies to the police and even hides evidence and all this, do the police strike them, at least legally? NO! So why should we strike our children? The only time the police lawfully strike a person is if they are being too belligerent to handle. In which case, they would take whatever measures are necessary to subdue them, but it'd have to be pretty serious to warrant that. It is illegal to strike a person and cause bodily harm, and even in cases of self defense the person defending themselves can get in trouble. So, how are children any different? Nobody has the right to strike a child unless it is self defense, and it'd have to be pretty serious. Even so, it'd have to be only enough to subdue them, just like with adults. If a child even hits someone, you don't beat the tar out of them for it. The important thing to do is to teach them when something is wrong and make them think about it. If a child is beyond the point of no return with regard to this matter, then he/she doesn't have very good parents. Children are very impressionable. If we teach them right from wrong at an early age, they'll be less likely to screw up later in life. However, if you spoil them when they're little, let them have what they want, and let them get away with things, it will carry on as they get older and discipline will come a lot harder than before. If this is the case, it is the fault of none other than the parent and the child should not have to pay for it.

hello eichs. I hope this "law" have certain degrees. Spanking my be bad if it is over. Or it will almost make the child die. There are certain degrees in disciplining the child. Maybe they are just trying to prevent abuses, like over beating. that there are a lot of marks in the body of the child. Beating the child lightly or "palo sa pwet" is I think good enough beating. it is even mentioned in the bible that sometimes, a child need that in order for them to learn. But anything over is bad. I hope they are just aiming for the "over beating" take care

Personally i do not hit my children, I just think that there are others ways to properly discipline a child without hitting them. The only thing that you teach a child when you hit them, is that it is okay to hit. It doesn't matter to them that they are being punished for something wrong that they did, they only see it as meaning that they can hit someone when they don't do what they want. Personally my daughters respond well to time outs, however there are the few times when that just doesn't cut it. So what do you do next? Easy, start taking things away from them.

This is a ridiculous law how do the government expect people to raise their children properly if they take away all of their parenting rights. This law is most likely from someone who has a nanny and boarding school raising their child or no child at all.

Hi eichs1, good day to you my friend. Well this is my response to your forum topic entitled "you will be jailed for disciplining your children or any children". Well for me that's good if the government will confirm that bill so children will no longer be abuse, i think that will be the positive effect of that bill if the government will accept and confirm that bill. And last for the negative effect of that bill is many children will not be fully disciplin because of that bill, as long as the children not be hurt i think it will be not disiplined well!. Well that's all my responsed to your topic. Happy earning and happy posting! Good luck to our earning career here in this site mylot! Godbless and have a nice day to you! ! ! Happy mylotting!

Well, I'm from the Philippines and I think that's pretty much a pointless law. Why do they make laws like this? I think it's really a waste of time because come on... during the early days of a child they listen to their parents because they are afraid to get punished. I've seen my nephews grow and I saw the difference from a non-punishing mother and a punishing mother. The non-punishing mother had a child who is spoiled...her child treats adults as if they are not adults! While of course the punishing mother has a child who is really disciplined and responsible. It's already part of the cultivation of a well disciplined person and you can't remove that. "Punishment" is negative but is positive in a lot of ways. I really think they shouldn't implement that. If ever I do have a son of my own and I try to spank him because he said a bad word..I'll go straight to jail? Fine.. I'll go to jail..but don't blame me what my son will become in the future.

spanking has its level or degree of force. i believe in desciplining through spanking BUT only to get the kid's attention and let the kid be aware of your role as parents but not to the extent the kid will have bruises or marks left in his body. I am one aunt who always interfere and get in to fights with my sister when she spank her kids with so much force. I am for the passing of the bill but be more specific on the guidelines.

Frankly I believe the Government sticks their nose in the affairs of families far to much. I believe that as long as the punishment does not leave marks on the child such as a spanking and the child is healthy and happy for the most part then the parents are doing their job. To tell a parent that they can't discipline their children when they need it is like saying the military can't go to war because it hurts innocent people. Parents have a right to deal with disruptive children and I for one will not allow the state or anyone to tell me I can't spank my children.

Oh that's easy, eichs1, just call the cops everytime the child needs a spanking. If they get to much out of control, just sign them over to the state. The kids get to stay at home with you but you are no longer responsible for their behavior. If enough people drop these kids back on the door steps of the government, they will be only too happy to revise or repeel the law altogether. Parents have a natural right to raise their own children. Children have a legal right not to be abused. We should be able to allow this natural way of life to occur without getting crazy-involved through excessive legalese and government over-involvement.

No one can tell me how to raise and discipline my kids! That includes the government. I have tried to raise my kids right and for the most part my kids are very respectful of all people!

If I can't spank my little boy anymore (I don't often and only a swat) then I'm going to dump my son on the Representative for a week, with no meds for my son. My son has severe ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome Trust me a week of my unmedicated son will change anyone's mind on the spanking issue.

i think it really depends on how you discipline your kids, you can do it verbally without hitting them, being so violent like hitting them is absulutely wrong. i think its unlawfull to hit your kids with anything, you cant physically abuse kids. happy mylotting.