When someone calls you FAT is it an insult?

It's one thing to be fat and admit and know that you are. I have no problem with someone stating that I am fat because it is a fact. You will be less offended if you accept the fact instead of denying it. On the flip side, people need to be a little more curteous when it comes to people who are overweight.

First of all beauty is only skin deep! Second I have to ask why you consider these people to be your friends if they talk down to you. In my eyes if they are true friends they would not talk down to you but support you in all ways including being overweight if that's what you choose to be. Also if they have to degrade you to make themselves feel better than there must be something about themselves that they don't like. Some people degrade others just to make themselves feel better about themselves.

No, I don't get insulted. It's okay if they say I'm fat because it's true. That's why I'm trying to slim down a bit because I don't want to grow old and be fat because it's not healthy.

Of course that is insulting.. the same as when a person is thin, some also would make fun of them and said that they are like walking stick..If I were you, just don't mind those people. I know it hurts but learn to laugh when people call you fat.. they will stop doing that if you ignore them.. but you know what? some would fight back with another insulting words.. but I think that would not help.

yeah i thnk it is i dont knw cuz im not fat.. but im skinny but whn they call me skinny i dont get offended.. happy lottin and have a nice day

Yes. It's an insult to them that they're so stupid as to say it. Only the stupidest, cruelest people degrade someone for looks. Like they're any prize themselves. Who would want to be around them, if they're just going to insult their friends? I sure wouldn't. I'm sure no one else would either. The ones who do hang around them are just having fun listening to them hurt other people. Now those hangers on are going to get just what they deserve. They aren't immune to that one's poisonous mouth, and they're gonna get it too! Just wait. They aren't your friends. They're trying to make themselves better by stepping on you. I had some like that. Vicious B---. They cut apart my writings, cause they were 'writers' and mine couldn't compare. They cut apart my lifestyle, cause it couldn't be as good as theirs. They aren't worth your time. All they want is to feel superior. And they'll step on anyone it takes to make them feel that way.

Hello n30wing........Even if it was not an insult, it is not pleasant to here such comments and everyone does not understand how such comments hurt. But those who hurt others are always directly or indirectly punished by God, so you just ignore them. What confuses me is that you said you are perfectly healthy person, so then how can you be fat.....healthy and fat does not go together....besides you can try to look better by doing some exercise, not for others , but for your satisfaction....after all everyone wants to look good now a days..

I have been on both sides of this. I have lost 225 pounds in the last year from a gasteric bypass. I know that when people would make comments about my weight, it would hurt my feelings. I am basically the same person I was with 225 pounds on me. I know that we all have the need to be liked and feel like we fit in. And to be honest, if people don't like us because of our shape...it is really their problem. Obviously they are not secure in who they are enough....that they need to discredit other people. But I will tell you this...since I have lost my weight, I have let me defensive gaurd down. I have been able to enjoy meeting people and having new relationships. When I was larger, I was defensive. I would judge others, sometimes first, before they could judge me. Now I can get to know people and love them no matter what size they wear!! :) Keep your head up...and as long as it doesn't affect the person you are and the person you desire to be...don't worry about it!

I know how you feel because i used to be overweight before.. my guy classmates were teasing me almost everyday and i hate it!!! It came to a point that i don't want to go to school anymore because i don't to be teased that way.. but because of that, it motivated me to achieve my goal, which is to cut down some pounds and i did it with flying colors.. when they saw me last time, they were surprised to see me in a better shape.. My height is 5'4 and weighs 119 pounds.. i love my new body.. i can wear anything i'd like to buy for myself.. =) so, if i were you, i'd just ignore your so called "friends" and just go on with your life.. i mean, you have your family and fiancee who truly loves you and i guess that's what matters most.. be happy and comfortable in your own skin..

I don't really think these people are friends to start with. Friendship is based on love and therefore true friends are very careful not to hurt your feelings. But don't dwell on this because though they happen not to have weight issues - like some us of do - they are definitely insecure about something we don't know. People who are comfortable with who they are don't engage in insults. They also don't drag other people down because they are UP THERE!! Once someone pull you down you must know they want you to come down to their level. So, don't give them the joy. Just give yourself love by doing something about that weight. It's not good for our health. Do it for yourself and not someone else. I personally have come to realise that loving myself come first!

yes i think if somebody call you fat that's kind a insulting. thats really so rude to call somebody fat. some people judge a person by their looks which is wrong. we should accept what people around us no body's perfect. we should learn to respect each other. im sorry you felt that way, but just ignore them and tell them that they shouldnt be telling you that because it hurts your feelings be open about it.

never...i never mistake people...everyone is unique in their own way...i'd rather be happy for ppl calling me like that cos am distinct from others...

Yeah maybe! It depends upon the situation. If the person intentionally announced it to everybody that's the time, I'll get offended. However, if the person just said it in a nice way and in a proper place, for me it doesn't matter at all. I should be thankful for it for being too honest.

If these people talk down to you just because of the way you look then they don't sound like real friends. If you are healthy and happy with the way you look that is all that matters. Don't listen to what other people say and live life the way you want to. That is all that really matters.

I understand how you feel. For most people being told they are fat is an insult as most people want to look slim. Am different, honestly I am fascinated when somebody tells me am fat or gaining weight. You see, am being skinny all my life and being told fat is a compliment to me; it means am improving. It really varies from one person to another.

hurray for you it sounds to me that you have a wonderful family and life don't ever let anyone bring you down with hurtful words you have what it takes in this life love and compasion for others .some people could take a lesson from you to be thankful for what the good lord has given god gave you a heart

Its not an insult. Well it maybe for some people so if you think your beautiful your beautiful. It doesn't matter what people think about you. You are who you are and you shouldn't change just because someone's calling you names. If they were really your friends they wouldn't call you that. I get called a fatty all the time but it doesn't matter to me anymore. A while ago i used to cry about it but now i just brush it off and continue my life.

It up to youself .In my views, sometimes the fat friends is prrety lovely.But I think they must lost fat if you want to keep healthy .

it doesn't sound like these are your "friends". If you are healthy and comfortable with yourself who cares what these "friends" say. You sound like you have people in your life who accept you and YOU accept yourself-which is the most important thing of all. You are right, how dare anyone degrade any one else. they are the ones who are insecure.

yet!everyone have their privilege to be fat or thin.however,no one have the privilege to insult others` looks.