What would you do
By Grandmaof2
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
Canada
February 22, 2009 2:38pm CST
What would you do if you were waiting at a line up waiting to go through check out when someone comes and cuts right in front of you? Would you say nothing? Would you tell the person where the end of the line was?
I've seen this lots lately and thought I'd ask the question because I've seen people say nothing as well as I've seen people get quite vocal about it.
Thank You in advance for your remarks.
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63 responses
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
I know my daughter would say something right off the bat.
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@luckyluc00 (4)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
I would definately not just stand there and let him go infront i'd probably be pretty vocal about it.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Good you speak up for yourself. Thank You so much for your response. I appreciate it.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Oh I just hate that! and I do say something like there is the back of the line! go there.
Once in high school was in the lunch line and a feller cut in front of me and I dont know where the pin came from but I stuck him with it. He never tried to cut in fron of me again or any one else lol
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
23 Feb 09
oh if he saw me he would go to the back of the line! for sure.
SOmetimes now I still wish I had a pin somewhere to stick those cheaters . BUt I do speak up and tell them I had to wait in line and they should too. Only let them in if they are with family ahead of me that has been there too.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
OK that's getting brave I know I could have never done that. I guess I'm all mouth and no action. Too funny. I guess he won't do that again. Seeing you he's probaly wait till next day. hehehe. Thank You good friend.
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@emma412 (1156)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I think I would react right in the middle of the two extremes. I wouldn't keep my mouth shut about it but I also wouldn't yell at the person. I would ask them if they saw the line behind them and that we had all been waiting before them. I would also ask that they went to the back of the line and wait their turn like the rest of the people in line had done.
I don't think that kind of rudeness, if they had done it on purpose, deserves to go unnoticed. I can understand if they didn't realize there were a line but not if they did it purposely.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
I have a hard time thinking they cut in front by accident because if and when you're not sure a person could always ask, I have done so. Thank You for being here for me.
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@MinruWind (194)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I usually would say nothing, but if I was waiting for a long time, I would definately tell that person to go to the back of the line. I usually have friends and other people to do that for me though, since I tend to not speak up a lot. It rarely happens to me, so I don't have to deal with it a lot, but I make it quite hard to cut in front of me.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Don't you just wonder if some of these people really came from homes that were never taught manners.
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@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
22 Feb 09
I have seen this happen many times and as you say, people will either say nothing or be very vocal about it.
I would politely inform the person that there is a queue and where the end is, most people will go to the end of the line, sometimes it can be just a case they did not realise there was a queue .
If they took no notice, I would become a bit more vocal about it and shame the person to going to the end of the line.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Thank You very much for your nice response and if only all people thought as you do. There are some you just can't embarrass and while I know for a fact it can happen innocently there are a pile of people that just don't care. I myself have been at the superstore and for the amount of people lined up there has been a couple times I honestly was unaware of the line up end, but I asked and I found both times the people waiting were very good about the fact I had bothered to at least ask.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
23 Feb 09
It is all according to the mood I am in. Most of the time, I just let it go, but if I am already having a bad day, I am very vocal about it.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
We can all agree ther's a lot of rude people out there. Thank You for the responses
dear friends.
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@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
I don't think I would take it so kindly if someone will cut in front of me at the grocery store. I will surely tell that person plitely to go to the end of the line especially if there are a lot of people behind me. It is unfair to let other people wait in line only to have someone cut in without even saying a work. People need to be reminded to show respect to others every now and then.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
I know. A lot of people simply do not care how others feel these days. Times have changed a lot. Come to think of it, I offered my seat to an old lady on the train once and the people around me stared at me as if I came from another planet!
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Yes I agree with you, but people just are not as polite as they used to be.
Thank You for your response.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Feb 09
It happens to me too. I don't like it but it isn't worth making a big deal out of it. I hold my tongue. I am a cashier as well and I'm different when I'm on the other side of the counter. If I see someone cut....I overlook that person and I do tell the cutter that this person was first and proceed from there.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
I love your style and that's what makes a good cashier in my opinion. My daughter used to do the same thing when she was cashier. She did it with style too by saying something like, excuse me but this lady/man was in line ahead of you. Of course she thought more sternly under her breath. lol
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@joyceshookery (2057)
• United States
23 Feb 09
This happened several years ago. The guy who cut in front of me was loud and obnoxious, mean tempered and belligerent. So I was meek and let him have his way. I value my life!
In ordinary circumstances when someone cuts, I speak up, courteously assertive.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
We really should be able to live in a world where we don't have to fear for our safety in a line up to pay but it's getting bad for darn sure. Thank You for your response.
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@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
23 Feb 09
I'll probably make him after me.lol.Its not pleasant to have someone cuts right in front of me,but if he asks his friend to check out for him,I'll say nothing about this.Seldom do I experience this.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Thanks so much for your response and that's good. Good you would speak up for yourself.
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@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
I have to admite that I am not one of those people who would just sit back and let the person in front of me. I had this happen to me the other day at walmart. I was in line with my two daughters, they were very sick and cranky and I just wanted to pay for my things and get out of there. Well as we were standing in line, a women took advantage of the fact that I was talking to my oldest daughter, and she cut in front of me. I turned to her and asked her if there was something I could help her with. She then told me that she was in a big hurry and needed to cut in line. I had 4 items, and she had a cart full. I then told her that she is no more special than anyone else in line, I had two sick children and I wanted to go home. I also told her that her being in a hurry, did not give her the right to cut in line, I then told her to go to the back of the line and wait her turn like everyone else. I had a very people wink at me and give me the thumbs up. I had thought that it was over and done with, as I watched to make sure she moved to the back, I realised that it wasn't. She had cut in line again and this time she cut in front of an elderly lady that apparently couldn't stick up for herself. I took action again, I asked the lady behind me to keep my place which she happily did. I then went to the front of the line to tell the cashier about the rude lady. When she was finsihed ringing through her customer she asked us to wait as she went down the line. She asked the women to move to the back of the line. Well that did it, the women then turned to me and called me a stupid nosy B1tch! I couldn't believe it, I just couldn't keep my mouth shut. I then told her that the only ICH around her was the ignorant people such as herself, who think that they are better than anyone else, and can't wait in line like everyone else. The lady wasn't happy and to make a long story short, the manager came out and asked her to leave, she then embarrased herself further by throwing her things on the floor and storming out of the store like a two year old throwing a temper tantrum. I guess that there are just some people like that and I think that more people need to learn to stick up for themselves because if we don't, people like her will just keep getting away with it. Happy mylotting.
@siteumnome (81)
• Portugal
23 Feb 09
if your story really is true, them you a hero to me :)
that is the way to deal with people like that
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@dinglover (52)
• China
23 Feb 09
If someone just cuts in front of me, I would very calmly, very articulately and without any facial expression ask him back to the end of the line. And if this guy turn a deaf ear to me, I will be vocal enough to shame him, remind him of civility.
Actually I have once singled out 4 such short-cutters in the estate opening quotation activities of my building, when some would-be owners like me volunteered to keep the order of queuing.
If those guys fail to receive enough education at home, they should learn from outside.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Very good response and good job getting the word out. That's the way it is alright. Thank You so much.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Well yes that's very true. Thank You dear friend.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Pet peeve of mine as well. Thank You for your response.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
I would think people could ask if not sure but maybe I'm just an odd ball. I can handle that lol.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Feb 09
knowing me , i'd be quite vocal to. lol rudeness is uncalled for.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
As I said in #5 I do not deal well with rudeness.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Hey Grandmaof2! I would speak up and tell the person where the
beginning of the line is and where they can find the end of
it! It has been done to me many times! If I have to wait my
turn so does everyone else! It is just a matter of being
respectful and waiting your turn. If I see someone that really
looks like they need to go ahead of like a mom with a small
child then I of course will let them.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Good point, it's a different matter if they ask or if you offer but just being rude is not good. Thank You for being here.
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@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Hello Grandmaof2....I think it would totally depend on how it happened and what mood I was in at the time. If someone really didnt notice where the line is, and it does happen in a cluttered store..I probably wouldnt say a word.
On the other hand if it were intentional, it would again depend. Likely if it were an elderly or disabled person, again I would probably say nothing as I have been taught to respect both and two wrongs dont make a right.
If it were just your average everyday sneaky pushy person, I would politely say, excuse me but the end of the line is back there.
Any time that I am not in a hurry and someone only has a couple items and I have more, I always let them ahead of me anyways.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Yes I agree it does make a difference according to circumstances at the time. I still haven't forgot that time I was waiting in my van for my husband to pay for my gas when a grouchie woman slapped my side window nearly shocked me into tomorrow and the body language OMG the way she said, Couldn't you move so I can get my gas too. My answer was, "No now get back to your own vehicle and wait your turn like I did." Had she asked nicely perhaps but no way this works for me. GRRrrr
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