Finding out the gender of your unborn child

To know the gender before the baby birth. I think if the baby is not the exactly one I wanted, kown his gender early and adapt it before birth can avoid enormous despair.

When I was expecting my son we weren't told whether it would be a boy or a girl. Iwas happy with either as long as it was healthy. I don't think I would prefer to know. We managed to prepare his room in lovely shades of green which would have suited either and then later when we moved he had his room with more shades of blue. I can understand that others wish to know but how do they then deal with the disappointemnt if it is not what they are expecting? Wouldn't the negative feelings affect the unborn child in any way?

i def think it's easier to prepare if u know what u r having. my friend is pregnant and has 2 baby girls already...she's prepared for a girl but not for a boy so she wants to find out so she knows what she needs to get rid of and buy again. maybe ur first should be a surprise, cause u r never prepared for ur first. i found out with all 3 of mine...i have 2 boys n a lil girl. good luck n congrats...let us know what u r having!!

Congrats on another pregnancy! I hope you get a boy this time. I really, really wish I were one of those people that could wait. But I just HAD to know with both of my kids what they were. I wanted to do all the shopping for either the pinks or the blues. I wanted their clothes ready and their rooms all set up before the big arrival. I also wanted to be able to say their name outloud for a few months and make sure I really loved it. My first was a girl and I am currently pregnant with a boy. I feel like I really needed to know with this baby because everything we have is PINK! It is pink, pink too so there is no pulling it off with a little boy. Now I know what we need to get to prepare for the new little boy.

My baby is due 19th April and we decided not to know what it is. We have a boy who is going to be 6 years in few weeks and would like a girl but it does not matter to us one way or another as this baby was expected and planed for 5 years. There is so little suprises now days that we just want to get that extra suprise when the baby comes out. And plus I dont want to be disapointed.

I think it is better for people to know the gender of the baby before birth because people can be more prepared. You will have an easier time choosing a name for your baby, picking out the right items, and not have to worry your friends and family about what gift to buy for you without the knowledge of the baby's gender. By the way, congratulationss on your forth child, abradshaw6001!

I'd definitely like to know the gender of my baby before birth, though I'll be really happy for a baby boy or baby girl, it's just that we can think of a name for him or her, then we can always call his or her name when the baby is still in my womb. I believe it's good for the baby. Also, I don't see the disadvantages of knowing the gender of the baby before birth.

Congratulations. And welcome to myLot, abradshaw6001. Personally, I loved knowing what I was having. I felt I bonded a little more with my son just knowing it was a little 'him' that I was talking to and learning about. I know everyone is very different on this. I would never recommend one thing or the other to an expecting mom. You and your husband will make the best choice for you.

I can certainly understand why you would be excited to find out the gender of you baby. I did not know before hand on either of my children (a boy and a girl). You ask if people should wait to find out, but I don't think it is a matter of should or shouldn't. I is just personal preference. I wish you well on your last 2 months.

I think there is nothing wrong in finding out the gender of a child as long as yu are not planning to abort the child if the gender happens to be other than the one you wanted. Why have you gone in for the fourth child? Just to get a son? What if it is a daughter? Why take such risks? I have two daughters and I am satisfied. I wanted two children and though they are both daughters, I have no regrets. I can not manage more than two children. Besides expenses, you can not really give them the best.

With my first daugther I didn't find out and had to prepare for both outcomes. With my second daughter we found out as soon as possible in order to prepare. I would find out before the birth if I was going to do it again without a doubt. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well, If you do have a boy at least your husband won't feel so out number!! When we got our second dog it had to be male as my husband was feeling out number by females All the best x MrsL

I think it is the decision for each individual whether they want to know the baby's gender. When I had my kids we didn't have the opportunity to know. But when my daughter-law was pregnant, they always found out. It was nice to know, then one could shop for a boy or girl, and gifts didn't have to be exchanged after the baby was born. They even had a baby shower for a boy and gave out the name of the baby too. Which was totally new to me. But, it was nice all the same. I was just so happy to have 2 healthy children, and luckily I had a girl first, and a boy second. Wishing you to Have a Happy and Healthy Baby, to add so much more love and joy to your lives. Hugs Mary

yes i thing it is good idea for you to know now i wish to get boy im happy to enter such discussion

You can't really be prepared if you don't know the gender. We knew as soon as we could so we could buy the baby things before we got too far down the line.

If you want a surprise, then it would be bette rif you won't have an ultrasound. but if you want to preapre yourself as well as the baby's needs when comes out, then it is good to know the gender of the unborn child. In my case, I was so excited to know the gender of my baby that I had an ultrasound early on.

I would not want to know, since they might be wrong. I'm one of those that was told I was expecting a boy - but I had a girl. I didn't ask, but since I did a very late ultra sound they told me any way - and boy they was so wrong! For me it didn't matter since it's not about the gender at all - the personality doesn't com with the gender. I would say that it can be shocking to find out they were wrong ....

I personally think it's better to know because you are able to be more prepared. But in my case I was told I was having a boy the entire time I was pregnant and received all boy gifts and when I finally gave birth, guess what, the doctor was WRONG!! I ended up having a girl and had to return everything I was given or had bought myself. Some people prefer the element of surprise though. It's really just your preference. Good luck with whatever you decide to do and congrats!