Would you pay the bills of someone you were dating ?

i don't think u should expect anyone to pay your bills. i would fill like that was the only reason they were going w/me. i think that's extremely tacky in a man or woman to expect someone to do that. what were they doing before u came along ? using someone else, to heck w/folks like that. i don't like a moocher .

OK, so when I first started dating my boyfriend, I had spare money, I was living ok, I had enough to pay my bills and had enough left to spend however I wanted, and he was going through a rough time, he had lost his job, so I helped him out a little bit, paid some stuff for him, let him borrow some money, bought him some gifts. And he never paid me back!! Then sometimes I ask him if he could pay me some of that money and he says, why did you let me borrow it? so you could be throwing it on my face for the rest of my life? Then we start arguing... it's awful, we have been together for 2 and a half years, and he got used to me having extra money all the time, but now that I'm not working I barely have enough to pay my bills, and he barely helps me out...

If you are dating, no. I would have to either be married to her or have a house together. It has to be a commitment to me and then, only if I was making enough money to affored it. First of all, if I'm dating someone and find their gaqs and electricity is turned off, I would want to know why. This could be a sign of someone who is bad with money and you don't wantn to get involved with her anyway. Also, if we arejust dating, and she asks me to pay a couple of her bills for her, I would probably not even pursue that relationship. If asked if I could lend her money because she fell on hard times, and again, the relationship looks pretty serious, sure. My girlfriend, when we first started dating had her phone turned off because her son racked up a huge bill. She was making deals with the phone company - it had to be paid off before they would turn it back on. I offered to lend her the money, have the phone turned on immedietly and she could just pay me back. She said no, shen didn't want to do that. Now, we have a house togetherand we split the bills in half. I would like to be able to pay a few of the bills but can't. She understands and we have a good relationship. So I say, be wary of any woman who asks you to pay her bills.

As a rule I would say no, I would not pay a man's bills. My friend who owned her own house and had a good job paid off her new boyfriend's credit card and although she ended up marrying him she found out he had a huge problem managing his money so much so that by the time they divorced she was left with practically nothing, which was a shame because she had worked hard to buy her home before she met him. It does depend why the man needed his bills paid; of course if there had been an unfortunate emergency or crisis I would help but I would have to determine that he wasn't just hopeless with finances. I would not expect him to pay my bills either and I would accept the help as a loan only if I was in real dire straits.

I think it would depend on how much time you were spending at her place and if she was struggling to pay. Also if you have your own bills, do you really want to pay someone else's especially of your still in the early stages of the relationship? Most women want to be totally independant without the help of anyone regardless of who it is and those who do ask tend to want to spend their money on themselves while you foot the living costs. On the other hand she may be looking for a sign of commitment!! I have never asked anyone to pay my bills. You should only need to contribute if your spending 90% of your time at her place or living together officially. MrsL x

A BIG NO! just dating and they tell you to pay the bills? what kind of date is that??! but you know what, its a good thing they told you immediately so you do not waste your time on someone like that. it seems they are just using you and your money. just imagine what you will be paying next after the bills

There is no way I would pay someone else's bills. And as a woman I would never ask a man I am dating to pay my bills. If we were living together and shared expenses that would be a different story but just someone I am dating, no way. There is nothing wrong with your way of thinking. Just because we are women doesn't mean we have the right to someone else paying our bills. We wanted to be equal, so it's time women act as equals. Stand up and Pay Your Own Dang Bills!!!!!!!

If I were dating some that ask me to pay any of their bills that would be a sign for me to run as fast as i could from that person.Dating does not give a person the right to ask for me to pay their bills. that would be a sign to me that that person is not very responsible or reliable. If a woman or man has had the utilities turned off I would want to know why. something else I would not do is loan them any money. Just watch Judge Judy or Judge Joe Brown to see how those relationships end up.

No, you don't owe your date payments for her bills. There is no way I would ask anyone to pay my bills like that. A date is a date, not a reason to pay bills for someone who can't afford them, or perhaps just doesn't know how to manage money. This is the kind of date I'd steer clear of! There is nothing int the rules of dating where you owe the date anything but a good time. Now, if you are living with this person, then perhaps you need to be paying half of the bills.

I have never made anyone pay my bills and certainly would not expect them to either.What a cheek to even think about asking.If someone was really in a scrap then I would help out.Woman who think you should pay their bills are called working girls as far as I am concerned.You should give love honestly and only expect love and respect and loyalty back.Not the phone bill paid.The rules of dating are getting to know each other slowly and have fun.Sometimes it may lead to a more serious relationship if you both want it.That are the rules of dating ,who pays when out is up to the couple but going half and half is quite a popular way of handling the expense.Or whoever is better off pays for a particular thing.xx

Yeah I would actually love to pay the bills of the person that I am currently dating but the only problem with that is that I don't make anywhere near enough money to do that. I wish I did though because I would love to be able to pamper my girlfriend as much as I possibly can but until that day comes I'll just keep on trying to do the best I possibly can.

It's much nicer to be independent, and to be with someone who is also independent and capable of looking after themselves. Sure, I can understand if a partner might need a hand during certain times of finanical difficulty, but long-term dependency would only be damaging to the relationship I think

i think it depends on how long we was dating and they were just having a hard time. if i was living with them than i would pay my share. but if we were just dating and it kept happing then i may feel used. i dont think this is rigth, if the person is working then they need to pay. however i could not live with myself if i knew they did not have food or heating or somrthing

No, I wouldn't pay a man's bills. I'd never consider dating a man who wasn't able to financially take care of himself. Do I think men should HAVE to pay the bills of those they date? No. I do not think its appropriate for a woman to ask a man to pay her bills either. However, if the man wants to do this there's no harm in his offering.

The Only Reason a man should pay a wioman's bills id because she is his stay home wife! She stays at home and tends to the house And His children and he goes to work.Or the woman is the man's mistress. he is rich and he puts her up in an apt and he pats for eberything. If the women is neither of these, No man should pay her nills.

Actually I find this question opposite of what I normally see happen. I have never asked a boyfriend to pay ANY of my bills, even when we would go out to eat, I would ALWAYS pay. Tip and all. I've never received a gift, flower, candy, anything from any of my exs. Even though I would spend money on them for all the holidays. I'm not sure why, but they always thought I was rich, and although I always have money for what I want, I don't have enough for what they need or want. All my exs have always asked me to pay some sort of bill and I have never asked any of them for money. One of my exs took my bank book and withdru 1,000 bucks to put as a downpayment on a car and I never received that money back. Another asked me to buy them a car, I loaned them $700 for a piece of junk and even had them sign an agreement, which they never paid back. I am glad I am done with those losers and now my husband and I split all of our bills. So no, I would never ask anyone for money.

Hello ronnyb, I think it is a very generous act when somebody pays the bills for their partner or the person they are going out with. If they are totally committed to each other then the money should not matter and hopefully if the relationship lasts then there will be no need for mental accounting or recording who paid what. If on the other hand the partners expects you to pay and do not put their hands in their pockets, even though they earn enough, then it is time for those paying to open their eyes and end the relationship. Have a good week. Umart

On dating stage?! Noooooo! That's too embarrassing for a woman to demand the guy to pay for my bills. But on a regular date or dine-out, it seemed automatic that between the both of us, he was the one to pay. Or a movie date, he would buy the ticket for us. I think that's a natural part when in the dating phase. But now, after 5 years, we both look out for each other including the expenses. Whoever has the money will pay. But if he has money, he automatically digs into his pocket except when the item I bought is really for myself alone. I mean common sense has to play. But when it comes to bills, we are not living together so to each his own.

I am a woman and I don't think I read that one in the "rules and regulations of dating" book either! If you are casually dating someone and each of you maintain their own home then no, it is up to her to pay her bills...if you weren't around and she was not seeing anyone else then she would have to pay her own bills, or suppose to pay her bills anyway! It is not fair to rack up a lot of bills and then expect someone else to come by and pay for your expenses for YOUR house. Now if the relationship had moved more serious and you are in a live together situation then you are both suppose to pay the bills for the house...not just one person whether it be the man or woman and sometimes if your partner has a little extra or feels like it then maybe they buy you something extra, have your hair done etc.. And the same is when you are married, but then you move into a totally different situation and you are, in some ways, responsible for each others bills...within reason, you should not be expected to buy them million dollar houses, yachts etc. every day either! ;)

well ...i can assist her if i have the money to do so....