When you have no feeling about your boyfriend,what will you do?

I faced that problem a couple of years ago, I just started to have no feelings for my girlfriend. A friend told me that maybe at the beggining it wasnt even love or something, it was something else but we were confused. The best thing to do is to end the relationship, because if you keep being with him, the both of you will result more hurt than if you take a decision right now.

Maybe it is important that you talk things through since you felt cold and is not sure about the most important thing for this relationship to continue. If love is not there, what is the use of continuing the relationship. But here is the truth, how will you go into a relationship when you don't have the intention of marrying the person whom you are with right now. It is like a drive test to a car that you are doing to him/her. Anyway, you should examine yourself very well about this. And be honest with your boyfriend. I am sure you will be able to talk this over and i hope it will be doing well.

That is sounding to be an impossible kind of situation. When you say it is not that you do not want to meet him, that statement itself shows that if you want to meet a person then deep down there is some emotion for the person as no one wants to meet strangers and wants to meet those who has bonding. I think you do have emotions for him but you are not realizing it.

Oh,this question is just the one for me! I don't know I ever loved him or not,but I can tell you that,I have no feelings of him now!I don't know what to do,I don't wanna to be unhappy everytime with him,and i don't wanna to hurt him! I am now give him some hint that we don't suit together somtimes.But I can feel that he still loves me.Oh,god,maybe I should talk to him like you and discuss the ways!

Confirm it!!! it's the only way for u to be at peace dont be afraid if he loves u so much he'll understand why ur having doubts just explain it carefully and detailed:) ---austin---

I know your feel.i had the same feel with my first boyfriend .he loved me so much,but i didn't realize it was valuable to me.After suffering some bad relationship,i know,no one loved me as his way i wanted.but it will never come back!

Hi, I hate to say this but it might be truth. When you have this kind of feeling, sometimes you have another person step in your way, or you might lost your interest with your boyfriend cuz of some other reason. How long have you been together? Love is totally awesome if you know how to treat it, but if you find no sense about it then it useless. I married to my boyfriend; when we were boyfriend and girlfriend, I always spend time with him and it was great. Everyday I found myself to love him more and more and always want to spend time with each other. However, if you feel dont want to meet him and you think it is over then you should end it as soon as possible before your boyfriend gets deeply misunderstanding. Good luck to you.

I've been in that situation. Take time to evaluate your feelings. It is a decision that will change your life and your boyfriend's life. And if ever you realized that you don't have feelings for him then talk to him personally. Let him know that you don't love him anymore, he deserves to know. It is better for him to know the truth than be deceived. The truth will set you free! Good luck!

You are right. Communication is the best alternation. Also, a very short period of separate with each other might help. And go out for a journey together will get you new topics of chatting and experiences. I am sure you will get through this if only you still love each other.

Try to search within yourself if that's how you really feel towards him. Do some reality check. Try to imagine your life without him, will you be happy or not? Sometimes your decisions are affected by what you feel in a single moment. Talk to him, let him know how you feel.

Hello,Emma.I never meet such case.Because if i have no feeling with my bf,i will not let him be my bf at the beginning.^_^But if you only have such feeling sometings or at certain moment.Maybe you two stay together for few times,and you should spend more time on each other,and have a talk ,then you will be more acquitant and understandings with each other

well for me what i will do is, i will be very honest about it, i will talk about it to him and tell him in a way he would understand. i think honesty in relationship make it more comfortable rather than pretending that will end up hurting each others feeling, specially this involved emotion it needs to be express in an honest way. happy mylotting.

I have met such situations several times. I don't know what I can do and nothing to speak with him. I feel life is boring including him. What's worse, I had some qurrels with him about this case. After a long silence he appologized, but I still have nothing to say. Gradually I find a good way to solve this problem, I send short messages by cellphone or leave messages by QQ to him. Because I find that sometimes some words I can't speak out face to face, but I can write them down easily. So I thank cellphone and QQ. They aren't only communication instruments but also the matchmakers between my bf and me.

Well as u said that u and ur bf never quarelled in the past one year.. so why the feeling dear .. sort it out, or may b its possible that you two may too engrossed in your relation that you missed out on your social circle , like hanging out with friends ..ok i do understand being in a relation is a wonderful thing .. but give each other some more space and it surely will work for both of you ..space as in both of your life must not stop at each other .. .don't have second thoughts dear.. communicate with him ..hats all .. i wish both of u a bright future ,

[i]Hi EMMA, If I am in the situation, I will be honest to him whatever reasons I have for losing my feelings. I think it's not healthy to be in a relationship when I have no feelings at all, it will be unfair to me and to my bf! And I know he will understand if he loves me sincerely..I hope you will be able to talk to him about it![/i]

I would agree with you that communication or open communication will be a great help and necessary if you fall out of love with the boyfriend. It needs to be talk about and try to decipher the root cause why this has happen if it can be solved then do everything to make it work but if it can't be restored then it would be better to talk it out and be honest with him so that he will know what is the real score. God Bless.

If you have no feelings for your boyfriend, then do him the favor of breaking up with him. Its not fair to stay with someone you do not have any feelings for.

If I have no feelings for my boyfriend, I will probably tell him straight, because it is harder to live in a lie and pretend to have feelings for someone or be still inlove with. And yes it will be painful for him to know but atleast it is just one pain and not a a pain that will costs him his lifetime. As we all know, the truth hurts but better be telling the truth than fool around at each other all the time.

Yes, i agree.. communication is the best solution.. try to talk to your boyfriend then from there you'll determine what's the problem between the two of you.. you need to think thousand of times before making your final decision.. i bet the reason why you're not feeling anything towards your boyfriend is lack of communication.. we need to find time to talk to our partners, know what's keeping them busy, etc..

Hellp Emma. I did have such a problem, but I successfully solved it. Maybe you do not love him anymore. Maybe you have found a man more attractive than him. Hah, I just say these from my view. Several months ago, I also did not want to see my boyfriend. I dislike him. That because he has no college education, no good job, no money, no car and no house. I thought I will be unhappy if I still be together with him. I loved another boy for nearly 10 years (from high school), but that boy had girlfriend. One day, I got the news the boy was single again and I thought I should get the chance, although at that time I had been in love with my boyfriend. In fact, after furious quarrel between my boyfriend and I, I suddenly realized that I did love my boyfriend! That boy is just one of my dream. Since then, I change my attitude and of course I find many advantages from my boyfriend. I pay a lot of patience to our relationship. We are very happy now, even still without money, car, house. I hope you can solve you problem early. Good luck!