Does religion matter or important in a relationship?

I think it depends upon the people involved. If both were raised in orthodox houses for their religion, it may be a problem. For example, a Jewish man marrying a Catholic woman. Someone would probably be asked to convert. I think that overall in a relationship you should have things in common. I know someone who married someone they thought were of the same religion and shortly after the marriage the person became so against their religion it made the marriage miserable. As a minister I tend to recommend the people I marry to be on the same belief system wave so to speak. I think that being equally yolked does make a difference. And tolerance is tolerance. If there are things you cannot accept or overlook in a marriage, then perhaps the marriage is not for you at this point. Namaste-Anora

in the beginning of a relationship maybe its not that important but i guess at some point in the relationship it will be brought up and i think it is important to talk about it because there might be future conflicts due to beliefs that can tarnish the relationship..

Well, your ideas, your goals, your values, and your plans matter a lot in a relationship. The two you can be of different religions, but as long as you have the same goals, ideas, and values, that is what really matters in a relationship. Sometimes, it does help to be of the same religion or to have the same beliefs (I say this because my boyfriend and I are both Agnostic and it helps when we want to bring our point across to my family and his about how we feel about certain things), but if you both want the same things, or similar things, then that matters more than anything else. I have seen people who are Jewish and Catholic, and they managed to make it work. My brother's girlfriend is half-Jewish, and she turned out well, her mom was Jewish and her dad was Catholic and they just made sure that she knew who she was and where she came from and they made sure that she was able to make up her own decisions. She is a very smart woman, she graduated from UCI. My mother is a Catholic, and my dad was Agnostic, it did not work out between them because they didn't have or want the same things. That happens, but my mother made sure that I knew who I was, and that I could make my own decisions.

Religion is not important in relationship.

No religion does not matter in a relationship. People are people regardless of their religion and everyone has different beliefs and we should be tolerant of different beliefs.

I think that for some, it may be important, but I don't think that it's important for everyone. It really depends on the couples, and such. We're all different, and we have different values, which is why I think that religion is certainly different for all of us.

to me, religion matters a great deal in a relationship. you dont have the same world views if you are not the same religion, pretty much all you have in common is the weather! seriously, it matters a great deal to me.

In my point of view,religion matters a lot in a relationship to persons who are faithful to their religion.Once a guy agreed to have a blind date with me just because I share the same religion with him.lol.It didnt turn out anything good at last coz Im not as faithful as him.I wont let religion destroy my relationship as I believe true lovers shouldnt be bother about such problem. Have a great day!

Difference in religion may get household more vulnerable to rapture, moreover religion is the value of basic principles. It is the duty of parents to inculcate good values to their children, and religion is one of the most important because it related to all moral principles that he will hold firm when mature

I think religions role in a relationship depends on how strong the commitment of each of the lovers faith and love. I have a cousin and he is a catholic. His girlfriend is a born again christian. They've been in a relationship for I think 6 years before they got married. Then my cousin's father is not okay with their plan because the girl wanted to get married in the way their religion do it. And that is a "preacher" will be the one to solemnize the marriage and not a priest. My aunt is okay in any way but my uncle did not attend to their marriage ceremony three years ago. But my cousin is no longer with catholic beliefs but he followed her girlfriends religion and they lived happily until today. Their parents are both happy for them, no more hurt feelings. If we are going to assess the situation they've been, my cousin really had a hard time convincing his father who wanted them to get marry in a catholic church. But in my case I am lucky enough because I and my husband does not have religion but we only have faith. I must say that we are not attending the mass but we just pray on our own. I think religion will matter in a relationship if there are some restrictions imposed by one kind of religion which will affect the other. But if there's none then the relationship can lasts and couples will have no problem even if they have different religions. I always believe that in some cases you have to give up one. I have known a someone (my sister's friend) who is very religious. She belongs to Iglesia Ni Cristo, one kind of religion here in Philippines and she never makes herself absent whenever they have a mass on their church. My sister even told me that her best friend wants a man or a boyfriend to be of the same religion because if not, any man who will court her should become a follower of their religion. I don't know how true is that because for me I really don't give too much importance with religion issues. It should just be a matter of compromise.

Well if u ask me.....i would say that it depends upon the lovers.....for many people in this world there is nothing more important than their religion.....ther thoughts, their beliefs.... according to me love is the most important of all....i feel that if two people love each other truly then it doesnt matter which hood they belong to or their ethenicity or even their religion for that matter......all of us are mde by god and religion is something made by humans being just to distinguish a group of people from the other....god made us so that we can prosper and live together but people are finding out ways to get separated....its ok to follow some religion but its not ok to give up on the most important things like love because of religions....

Depends on the people involved. If they are open minded and able to adjust to the other's faith then they would be fine. If one or both of them are intolerant then it simply won't work. If you can agree to allow the other to follow their faith then it can work. As for the wedding.... I love out door weddings and then God can over see it all without man's religious intolerance darkening the day.

I think religion is one factor in making the relationship last "till the end of time". There is a bonding moment when you go to church to attend mass or some church activities but if you have different religion, how can you do that? Like what the Bible says, God must be the center in a relationship. If you have different directions, i don't think that will work.

Personally for me i would not give someone up because of religion differences. But also if the two religions were very different then it could be a problem for the relationship. If religion was super super important in ones life and they will follow the whole chruch marry thing than i guess you would maybe give up the relationship. I cant see how that would stop me from marrying the one i love.

bren_yrra, It would be ignorant and negligent if we enter into a relationship blindly. One cannot forget that amidst of all our hopes and desires for our relationships to work, that are areas which we must never ignore. For everyone of us are born and raised differently and as such all of us will place certain aspects with a different degree of attention and devotion. I feel that religion is one area where we can never or rather must not ignore when we enter a relationship. Whilst we may be flexible and lax with our beliefs, we must ever be aware that it might not be so with the other party and their parents. Lest if you have no issue of giving in to their dogmatic insistence then religion will never be a matter. IMO, religion will only matter when either party cannot come to a compromise and/or one other party could accept the firm party's demands. At the end of the day, we need to ask if our family and ourselves are really that flexible and accommodating here. If not, then it will only be fair to change your established rules and choose the path that would most fit us. Cheers.

religion differences can cause a lot of problems in a relationship. But it is a struggle that can be solved. My husband is catholic and I am luthern. Now our religions are not all that different but there are a few things that the catholic church believes in and does that I do not agree with so I will not change to his church. Once this was decided we chose to go to both churches. We go to his one sunday and mine the next. This is working for us and neither one of us has had to compromise our beliefs.

Unfortunately it does get in the way sometimes specially if you and your partner have very very different beliefs. However, there is a way though to get pass this by finding the middle ground. You should do this among yourselves first. Find your middle ground, or the common denominator in your faiths. Like do you both agree that you are praising the same God (like I believe in the case of islam and christian). do you both agree that deed A, b, c...etc are bad? things like this should be decided on. Then you can proceed with how you would deal with the children. This is important specially with regards to rearing the children. Would you teach your faith or his faith which will also influence the school they would go into? That is normally the question in this kinds of relationship. Therefore, You and your partner should decide how you would deal with this matter. Is one of you willing to give in? If the answer is yes then the succumbing partner should honor this. Also, honoring traditions. Would both partner honor each person's religious traditions? Like there is this one couple I know, the guy is buddhist and the woman is a catholic. What I like about them is that they decided to let the children be reared as catholics after the mother. Also, what I like most about the husband is that he himself attends the catholic mass with the family and honors the sunday family traditions of the catholics (going to mass). This makes their relationship very very healthy. I think the bottomline here is that if you are able to deal with this situation as a couple (together) then there should be no problem.

Unfortunately religion does come into the equation but you know it could work. First, the couple should have mutual respect for each religions. Find the middle ground where both of them agree on based on their belief structure. LIke if you both believe in the same God (which I believe Islam and christians do), also if you both agree that action A, B, C are sins etc... If you can find this middle ground, then the next step would be deciding who or how will they teach the faith to the children. Who will succumb to give in? This is important because normally the school the kids attend will to is influenced by their religion (christian, catholic, non-religious etc). Alongside with this, both should agree to respect and honor each person's religious traditions. I think if you can deal with the situation as how couples should (together) then religion may not be an issue. Like I know this couple, the husband is a Buddhist and the wife Catholic. The husband lets the wife teach her faith to the children and raise them as Catholics. He also joins the wife and the kids to church. He sits there and listens. It's very romantic. They have a good relationship and a happy family life. So if they can do it so can other people I believe. The bottom line is RESPECT.

I don't think religion is very important when it comes to a relationship. As long as two people love, respect, trust, and understand each other, then it must not be an issue.

Religion is important and it matters! In my case, If my I get married I'd like my love to be christian as well. But, If i truly love him and he really objects to that idea It would be fine with me, as long as my child with him will be christian and it will be fine :)