twins....help
By tasha19
@tasha19 (254)
United States
February 25, 2009 9:07am CST
im about to have twins in a couple weeks im kinda excited(worried about the pain)...i was planning on doing adoption but just the idea of me giving my little boys to someone that wont love them like i can..it just scares me to death!!..so does anyone have twins??? how did you handle it??? and i already have a 1 year old...so and suggestions on how not to go crazy???
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Get as much help as you can. Friends, family, and there are even at home helpers out there if your insurance will help with it.
Get into a groove.... and them being close in age means you will be able to do all the same (basic) things with them. Rest when they do, dishes can wait. try to change them around the same time... one then another then the third.
While they listen to a baby music thing... mom reads or does something calming for her.
Ask for help.
@tasha19 (254)
• United States
25 Feb 09
i was thinking about a schedule but i dont know if it would work...im trying to find out who could help me but theres not that many people in my family that have alot of spare time on their hands...and i dont have that many friends...i lost touch with most of them after i left school...so i want to find home help but i dont think medicade covers that...what do you think??
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
25 Feb 09
They might if you can talk to the doctor. Check with The visiting Nurse people. I've never been great with sqedules and my kids never wanted to follow one.
I think that each baby is going to have their own thoughts on things and that will be your biggest issue. When you are at your tiredest they will still be sleeping a lot so use that time to catch up your bodies resources.
If someone in the family can just throw together dinner for you or set you up with help to go shopping. That's a huge help. They can work that in to their doings.
The best way you can help yourself now... before they get here... is to set up an organized life. I mean have everything in a place that makes your life easier to handle.
If you change them in your room... have a trash can and diapers there instead of in a room down the hall that you would have to juggle the babies down to.
If they will be sleeping in a crib you may want to start it off in your room.
What ever tricks you learned from the one year old... get set up to use them again.
Also get some foods that are easy to cook or eat for yourself Don't forget to eat.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
hi tasha, im a mom of 10 mos.old twins too (both boys) and i have a 3 and a half yr old son too..i have instant 3 boys LOL.i can relate to your stories because when i learned that i will be having a twins too i was kinda shocked and worried.financially were not that stable yet so i was thinking how much expenses we are going to use in a day.i had a hard times during their early days because i gave birth via CS operation and its good that my mother help us and she brought a helper with us.but the helper only stayed for two months and from then my husband and i share all the household chores and he also helps me in taking care of the twins and our eldest son..we are getting used to our daily routine here,of course its always a tiring and stressful days for me but im enjoying my children and just seeing them happy,healthy and safe makes me smile and erase all my fatique and stress :) Im sure like me you will get used to it and will enjoy everything once your twins arrived. :)