Reasons for a lady to have an abortion

Hi maxine! I feel the same way as you do. I pass no judgment on those women who had an abortion since I am not walking in their shoes. However, just like you have said, I would like to see that most women will go for adoption instead of going for abortion. Babies are blessings. take care and have a wonderful day! lovelots..faith

There are no reasons for a lady to have an abortion. I do not understand why the law allows abortion, when the law does not allow murder. Is abortion not murder of an innocent baby? The babies that were aborted could have came up with a cure to aids, become a successful businessperson, or etc. Most women that have abortions often regret it. Adoption is a better way of not regretting it. If you regret your baby being adopted, then you could always look for that child somehow, but you can not do that with abortions.

I think abortion is much too easy a way out, to cover one's mistakes, and I would like to see it cut back and only used as a compassionate act or an essential one. It's all too easy for women/young girls to get pregnant these days and get rid, if you see my meaning. I think if somebody gets pregnant and there is no underlying factor, like deformity or risk to the pregnant mother's own health, they should carry the baby through pregnancy... spend at least a month with the child... and then, decide whether they want to keep it, or put it up for adoption. I also feel it would be better if the mother's themselves were able to "select" the child's adoptive parents, so that they felt secure in letting the child go. Gone are the Victorian days when babies were whisked away from their mothers at birth, and adopted by somebody the mother had never met. That only causes confusion in the child when they grow up, costing them sometimes thousands of pounds to find their real mother. Wouldn't it be so much easier for the children themselves to know who their real parents are? Sorry... I have very strong feelings on abortion, my friend. Brightest Blessings.

I see what you are getting at here. The problem is that there are already zillions of kids waiting to be adopted. Once they reach a certain age....adoption becomes less and less likely. It is such a personal decision that I would not venture to judge why one would choose abortion over adoption. It isn't my place to judge that. I do know that the decision should be made within the first trimester. After that it becomes way more controversial and ugly. I really think and so wish that everyone would just back off from the abortion issue that has been argued and argued since I can remember...I'm 52. It's a personal issue and for every great argument against it, there is an equally great one for it and no one is going to agree. I'm not going to convince you any more than you will convince me. I wish people would just drop this type of debate and put all that useless energy into something much more constructive. For all those for and against abortion...your reasons are all valid....they are right for you but not at all for the other person.

I thought only teenagers do abortion because they do wrong stuff. By the time they get old, they will regret, I only know it increase the disability to have children after abortion.

Adoption solves the problem of an unwanted child, but not an unwanted pregnancy. The social reasons for abortion are complex and pervasive, so it's not a simple matter of a woman calming down and realizing that she might make a good mother. An unwanted pregnancy can have serious physical, social, emotional, and economic consequences for the woman. She may be able to give the child up for adoption, but in those nine months, she may lose her job, have her partner walk out on her, she suffer from physical complications, and become so physically incapacitated that she is unable to take care of any existing children that she may have. Did you hear about the Catholic school that fired a teacher because she got pregnant? Some employers see women as liabilities because they would have to take time off work should they decide to have children later on and a lot of workplaces don't exactly have policies that are friendly toward expectant mothers. They might be overlooked for promotion, suffer financial losses, or may even be fired. And if a woman decides to keep the child and be a mother, she has to sacrifice a lot. Even if she is in a committed relationship with a man, she will still probably end up as the primary caretaker and shouldering the bulk of the burden of caring for the child. She may have to cancel her life plans, leave school, and give up on her dreams. Even if these things may seem insubstantial compared to the value of a human life, it's still a lot to ask. Adoption is simply not an option for a lot of women with an unwanted pregnancy because it's traumatizing to carry a life inside for 9 months, only to have to give it away. Sometimes, a woman can't "have it all", and I wish that her partner and society would be more supportive in general and realize that it's a lot of work. I think that in order to save most of the 98% of aborted fetuses, there would have to be a major social upheaval. If you want to save them, you should advocate for workplace equality, prenatal care, family-friendly employment policies (e.g. improved maternity leave & benefits, flexible hours for primary caretakers, etc.), better access to child care, social programs that help poor women and their families, and gender equality. I think everything should be done to support women with unplanned pregnancies so that they truly have options. I don't have any moral qualms about abortion myself, but I would hate to see a woman forced into one because she feels that she doesn't have a choice. I would hate to see a woman who thinks that abortion is murder forced into getting one, only to suffer lifelong regret and emotional trauma. At the same time, however, a lot of women also an immense sense of relief after getting an abortion because they see the pregnancy as a sinister invasion of their body. For this reason, I think that abortion should always be safe and legal. Nobody should be forced to go through the horrifying experience of being at the mercy of their own bodies.

I agree with you. I think that prevention is still the better option here. If you do not get pregnant, there is no need for you to get an abortion. On the other hand, women who are dealing with unplanned pregnancies should be given more support. Pregnant women who are undecided as to whether they will keep their babies or not should receive counseling to help them decide what they should do with their unborn children.

Abortion can be done if there is any problem for baby like any kind of disability. It can be accepted when in the case of a rape victim. I am strongly against abortion and in my opinion the baby in womb is equal to the baby in the lap. Both lives are precious. In other words we can’t kill a baby after born and the same way we can’t kill the baby in womb too. People should realize the truth and should think twice before killing the baby (opting abortion).

For me abortion is a choice and a choice that have to be made solely by the mother. I'm not totally against abortion specially when the pregnancy was a product of rape or incest, then I think abortion is fully justified if the mother decided to go through with it. About other circumstances, I think "unplanned" or "unexpected" pregnancies should be deal with by giving information, support and counseling. I think unplanned pregnant woman should be guided, informed and supported to make their decision.

Almost all the abortions take place due to social reasons. People get too carried away in love and when the girl is pregnant, they start worrying about the families, the society and all and she decides to abort the child. Morally, it is wrong and I think the girl is responsible for making love prematurely. They have no right to stop a little life from coming into this world.

i am 99% against abortion. the only reason that you should choose to get one , is if the child is going to be disabled in some way, and you know that you will not be able to handle it. for all those who use abortion as a form of birth control, i hope you burn in hell. if you are stupid enough to not use anything and get pregnant, stay pregnant, and have the baby, give it up for adoption to someone who is actually responsible and WANTS A BABY. don't just go get an abortion because its not time for you to have a baby in your life. you shouldn't kill that child. give it to someone who will take care of it, and then when you are ready, then get pregnant again... but dont' use abortion as a safe way out, IT'S MURDER, AND EVEN IF THE COPS DON'T THROW YOU IN JAIL- GOD SEES WHAT YOU ARE DOING, AND HE WILL PUNNISH YOU FOR IT IN THE LONG RUN.

There is only one way that I personally would support abortion. That would be rape, girls use alot of excuses as to why they got pregnant. If you are responsible enough chances of getting pregnant are very slim. They teach teenagers at school about birth control and if they dont have the funds to get it, its provided for free. They are also told that all of it is confidential. Grown women also have the same options, theres also the day after pill. It doesnt terminate an existing pregnancy but it gives more chances in preventing it. If they happen to get pregnant even if they take all the steps to prevent it and dont want a child there are many options. Theres a lot of couples that cant have children and would like to have one. They can give the baby up for adoption. Personally I dont agree with the people that say they did it for the sake of the child. Saying that they wouldnt of been able to provide for them. excuses I say...like I said there are other options.

well..of course unwanted pregnancy many a times is due to wedlock...also there maybe medical reasons but that is called a misscarriage..

Abortion is allowed in my country.i knew some friends went to aborte because they think it is not a good time to have baby ,but they were not contraceptive.surely,it hurt uterus if aborte many times.one of my friend aborted two years ago.now she wants to have baby again,but it is not easy anymore.

I had an abortion but not for "social" reasons or due to any medical issues with the fetus..I had it because due to our sudden situation at that time we had to do what was best for us mentally, emotionally and so on...We (when I found out i was preg again) WANTED the baby, we were happy about it...things changed very quickly....And I DON'T regret having that abortion...it was necessary... I am also a survivor of rape andn IF I'd gotten preg from either of those rapes I WOULD HAVE ABORTED without a second thought..Dealing with the trauma of rape/brutal rape was hard enough for me...carrying my attackers baby to term would have killed me..in fact it wouldnt have happened - there wouldnt have been a "to term"..

I would like to see more funding going into prevention. More funding for birth control and more classes to educate people. Prevention is better then pain. Yes, adoption would be wonderful, there are so many who cannot have children but do want them!

I agree, but unfortunately there is an attitude of some women, that this is my body and if I dont want anything growing in there I dont have to have it. Thing is though it isnt the baby's fault and what about their rights? I dont understand the selfishness that comes from someone doing this for that reason, or a social reason. I am not going to say that I judge people who do it, I just do not understand it. I am also not going to say that there arent some instances that I do not understand. I just think that if the only reason you are doing it is a completely selfish reason, It probably shouldnt be done, but again, my opinion.

I don't really feel that it is mine or anyone elses place to judge the rights and wrongs of a womans choice to abort, have or adopt a pregnancy. Everyone has the right to make the decision that they feel is right for them. What is right for one will not necessarily be right for another. Apart from the small minority that use abortion as a form of birth control, women think long and hard when making the decision to have an abortian. There reasons should not be disseted by others.

To each their own, me personally, I don't think I could ever go through with it.

I compeletely agree with you!