Nothing makes me feel worse than seeing my child sick.

United States
February 25, 2009 10:28am CST
My daughter is 19mos (today!!) And has been sick for a few days. And this is the first time she's ever really been sick. She's been coughing and just miserable. But still, tries to be as pleasant as she can while feeling miserable. And just seeing her like this makes me upset. I've been sick on and off too for a while, but I can deal with it. Just knowing that she can't do anything, or tell me whats wrong. Just really upsets me. I hate seeing her coughing and coughing and having to wipe her nose constantly b/c she absoloutely hates it! I've been giving her infant's motrin and I'm not sure it's doing much. =/
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• United States
25 Feb 09
Aww, I know how you feel. Our little one's have the sneezie and wheezies today, and have had them for a week now. The 6 month old is cutting more teeth so that never helps on top of being icky. Have you tried the soft aloe wipes? My son hates his nose wiped but seems to not mind it so bad if it is soft. We also just heard a news report a few weeks ago here in Minnesota that those under the age of 2 years should not use vicks vapor rub as it causes more mucas build up making them cough worse. So if their noses get too bad I get a warm washcloth to help soften the wipe. I hope she starts feeling better soon. If you are not against natural remedies eucalptus oil on the sheets (only a dab near where her head is at) will work to help clear up the nose. She's a bit too young for a netti pot, but if you are stuffed up try using a netti pot daily to washout your sinus cavity. They are very easy to use and don't hurt a bit. You can pick up kits at Wal-greens, Wal-mart, etc. Namaste-Anora
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• United States
25 Feb 09
No, I've never tried the aloe wipes. I've never used vicks on her, n I'm glad I haven't lol. Is the netti-pot like the nose tea-pot thing?? lol I've always thought the whole idea was weird.
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• United States
26 Feb 09
Yes, that's the netti pot. It's used daily in countries like India and works very well. It's very easy to use. Namaste-Anora
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
25 Feb 09
My youngest was 19 months yesterday.... I know what you were doing A couple of Julys ago. LOL My little guy has lots of issues so we have moments that are tough often. I get through it remembering that he'll be better on the otherside of it. I try to remember that i'm what he needs to see him through it. It's hard. There will be other hard things. But remember that it won't last forever. Hope she feels better soon!
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• United States
25 Feb 09
Yeah, haha she was born July 25 (obviously) lol. But that's cool they're only a day apart!!! lol
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I know what you mean, my first, my son wasnt actually sick, other than tiny colds, until he was about 3, he was throwing up and just looked miserable. It was so hard, because it was the first time I had seen him this way. My other two got sick sooner than that, and it is really hard when they are so young. They do always still try to be pleasant and still have fun, but you can tell they are "trying" lol..
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• United States
25 Feb 09
i know your pain. i think the worst thing ever was when my daughter had gastroenteritis and had to be admitted to the hospital. she was only 4 months old. they had to put an iv in her head. it broke my heart in two every time i looked at her. but then she would smile and let me know that she was going to be fine.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
25 Feb 09
The worst feeling in the world is to see your child miserable and not being able to do anything for her or to make it better. I am a mother of two and I remember one time my son was shivering I wrapped him in a blanket. About five minutes or so and his temperature was over a hundred. He was sick with a cold so I had been holding him when he started to shiver. Anyway, we got in the car and went to the doctor. The doctor told me I was a loving mother that was too protective. He said if your child is shivering that is his natural defense in warming up. When I put the blanket on him it caused his body temperature to go too high. I asked him what I am supposed to do when I see my children cold and shivering. He said to let them or I will cause a fever again. I had to take him home a wait for an hour before the fever went away. I guess we can love them too much.
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@sinokirin (900)
• China
26 Feb 09
hey, i have the same worry. my daughter is 2mos(now). The doctor said in the first six mos that the baby has strong immunocompetence,which comes from mum. But i am afraid when she was sick,how can i do for her. She couldn't tell me what she need and feel. i think i would feel sad just as you.
• United States
27 Feb 09
yeah, when they're that young there's not much you can do for them. which really really sucks
26 Feb 09
Awwww. I hope your little one gets better soon. If she doesn't improve soon I would take her to the docs and make sure she doesn't have a chest infection or something that needs anti biotics. It's always horrible seeing your child poorly and not being able to do anything for them. It's harder when they are little as they just don't understand. Make sure you take time out for yourself! You'll be no good to her if you don't! Good luck x
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Aww, I am sorry to hear your little girl is not feeling well. It is always hard when they are sick when they are little like that. It is not much better when they are bigger and sick either though. I hope she gets better soon.
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
26 Feb 09
I know when your child falls sick that is the worst time. You can not see your kids ill it really makes us feel bad for them. We really need to take special care of the kids so that they turn out to be the strongest persons ever.
@achinthya (1216)
• India
26 Feb 09
hi,as a mother we have to tackle this small small things and are just beginning to start,its really very difficult to treat the sick baby as they cannot explain only by crying they show there problems..last two months back my 2year old son got cough and cold and cough got so serious that the whizing started so have to start giving Nebulizer,at first day he cried but next day he looked at me and told mum I am not going to cry as it gives some relief though the steam it pass warms the eyes....Take care,my best wishes for her recovery..
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
I understand what you're going through.It also breaks my heart whenever my daughter is sick.It makes me upset knowing that she's hurting and that there is not much I can do. Aside from the cough medicine,she needs to drink plenty of water and juice.It always works.Oh,and a lot of hugs and kisses too. I hope your daughter gets better very soon.
@deanna2 (159)
• United States
26 Feb 09
hi i also hate to see a child sick as they cannot tell you what is wrong and i get upset because i think they should be getting better but doctors say it needs to run its course and yes motrin is good it helps with pain and fever and give lots of liquids
@sbhuttan (21)
• India
26 Feb 09
Ya thats really very true for me that i feel worse when I see my child sick. My baby is now 4years old. But I still remember that when he was just 5 months old he got severe chest infection. Because of which he got his nose blocked.He was not even able to take bottle feed or even mother feed properly. Doctor advised us to stop bottle feed. But I was really very worried as he was not able to breathe properly due to his blocked nose. he had to inject antibiotics twice a day which were very painful. if given a chance i would have prefer to take those injections in my body. But i was helpless. when I was not even able to see it my baby had to bear it. But what could i do than praying to God to Get my baby well soon.
• China
26 Feb 09
Even though I still in the term of pregnancy, I can still understand what you feel. All the parents hope their baby healthy and happy. I wish your baby to be healthy as soon as possible. And please be happy and be stronghaerted to influenced your baby to make her feel better.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
25 Feb 09
No one said that parenting was going to be easy. There are definitely hard parts, and seeing your child suffering and not being able to fix the problem is one of the first ones you'll run across. As time goes on, your child will get older and the hurts will get bigger, but you'll still feel just as helpless as you do right now. I guess this is good practice for the downside of parenting. It teaches you how to be there for them thru thick and thin and will help reinforce with your daughter that when things are going bad, you'll be there for her.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Sounds like you need to take her to a pediatrician. A doctor can tell you what exactly is wrong with her and give her the correct medicine that she needs instead of her getting what she doesn't need. Hope that made sense.... lol What I mean is, instead of her getting the over the counter medicine, she could get a prescription, or rather you get her a prescription.... lol for the symptoms she's having instead of taking a bunch of medicine that she doesn't need. Good luck and hope she gets better really soon!