DO you judge people based on the cleanlieness of their house?

I most certainly do . I try to keep my house tidy and organized. I might not be perfect but I like to have the place look half decent especially if guests drop in unexpectedly. The looks of a house can tell a lot about a person. Personally I feel very uncomfortable if I enter into a house that is very dirty or smells bad. I know that not everybody is perfect but I believe that everyone should show a little bit of decorum in the household.

Nope, I don't judge people by the tidiness of their houses. Actually, Personality is much more important. Maybe they are living a hard life and are struggling to make it better day by day. Maybe it's tough for them and not liking them would just make it tougher for them. So, no, I don't.

I do not judge people by the cleanliness of their house. I judge people with what is inside their hearts. Of course if the house was so dirty and cluttered that you couldn't find a place to sit or if there were dirty dishes stacked all over the place, and cockroaches as well, then I would think twice about eating there. But as a whole some dust around the place does not affect how I would judge the person who lives there.

If I felt that, then I would be such a hypocrite! *lol* Naw, my house is never clean, I have four children and two babies. They are always making messes and when they do clean, it's never a good job. I don't know what to do with them. But, as for houses that are clean, I would have to think either the family has too much time on their hands or they are way too particular about their "stuff". My mother is like that. That's why I haven't been over there in awhile because of my babies always touching things. I'll wait until they're out of that stage. *Pleiades

I do not eat in certain homes. I don't hold it against the people but some homes I don't eat over. I live in my small home, with 4 kids, a teen, 2 adults, 3 cats, and two dogs. Clutter happens. No big deal. Dishes are done every day. The vacuum and broom get daily use. I don't mind a toy or seven. And if my guests can't handle it.... oh well. No one has to visit. Someone before me said those spotless houses were scary..... I understand that totally.

Not exactly...though I love clean houses and healthy calm environment but that isn't easy to maintain when you are working(there may be cases rare ones...) sometimes I couldn't do it myself...So I dont feel I am lazy or my Standards are different from others... I judge people by their behaviour and I dont want to change the way I am!!!

I like it fairly clean but not at the point of being obsessive. In other words, you do not have to eat off my floor and I do not put the mixmaster and the toaster in the cupboard after I finish with them (or I would never use them again.) I do judge a person if they are an out and out slob, but I do think if the person has a small house or an apartment there is not much that they can do to keep it presentable. Just as long as the cupboards and the counters are clean, and the things piled neatly, and I do not trip over anything on the floor. Oh and the stove has to be clean and the stains removed.

Hi stacyv81! I don't judge people based on the cleanliness of their house. I admit that I am uneasy eating in a home that there are cockroaches around but that does not mean that I will refuse dining with the people who kindly invited me in their home. I admit that my stomach will get a little queasy and will doubt the cleanliness of the plates I will be using but that does not mean that I will think less of the character of those people. I have met so many people and some are related to me who are so meticulously clean and really would react negatively on people whose homes are not that clean by their standards. It is not nice when I see them react this way. I always keep my home clean of dust, dirt and any insects but I can't say my home is spotlessly clean and germ free. I just do the best I can do and I think that is the way with other people too. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

I can't honestly say that I wouldn't be friends with someone with a dirty house. I can honestly say that if I were going to go visit them, I might choose to stay outside on the porch or something. Yes, I would judge them by calling them lazy. I feel like there's a big difference between clean and cluttered. A home can have cluttered shelves and coffee tables and still be clean. But if a home has dirty floors, counter tops, dishes laying everywhere, or trash in places other than a trash can....then that's just DIRTY! If they don't care, then that's just their problem. I just hope that they aren't raising kids in that kind of environment! It's possible that a very clean house could have cockroaches, and it would not be the person's fault by any means. If you've recently moved and needed boxes, you could get them from there. Also, if you're a big buyer on ebay and buy from other people, you could indeed get them from that person. I would be scared to eat in their house....as I said earlier, I would probably just choose to stay outside and say a quick hello rather than coming in and getting cozy. Honestly....yes I would judge them. If it was a single person or couple, then I wouldn't let it get to me too much. But when children are involved, it really disgusts me. Most likely those children will grow up and live in the same filth that they grew accustomed to while they were growing up.

I wouldn't jump to judge unless it was just completely nasty/filthy. If the bathroom toliets look like they haven't been cleaned in months or the kitchen has gfood and nasty pans everywhere, I may be a little judging. But if there is just random clutter that isn't a huge pigsty then I wouldn't. Because sometimes people get busy, I myself do. Sometimes you're just too tired to make the hosue spotless every day. So then no I wouldn't judge but if it looks like you haven't lifted a finger in months to clean then yes I would think they were just lazy and wonder how someone could live like that.

Hi stacyv81...My answer is absolutely not!..I was not put on this earth to judge people. Its not my job nor anybody elses. There could be many reasons why someones house is not clean, many children, too busy making ends meet, sickness or injury, and just lack of skills. If I were any kind of friend and were concerned about the conditions, I would try to help them out, not run them down. Their house has nothing to do with their personality and if it does, I would try to help. I know personally of a young mother living with 2 kids, a brother, and his girlfriend who are no help at all. She works hard to put food on the table and pay the mortgage for her home which is nothing spectacular but what she could afford. While she is at work, they mess up the house badly...throwing wrappers around , not removing dirty dishes etc. She has repeatedly talked to them about this but they wont change. She gets so tired and frustrated that she just gives up. However, she is a wonderful person. I have actually gone over and cleaned up or done special little things for her, given her tips on how to make things easier etc. She loves her brother and will not put him out. I try to work with her instead of against her and I feel I have helped her greatly as I have seen differences. She has a heart as big as the outdoors, would never lie or steer anyone wrong, but her house is messy. Would I judge her because of it? Absolutely not!! And my house is not messy but however if you are coming over to critisize my home as everyones standards are not the same, then stay home! I want friends who come to see me and not my home!!

No, I don't judge the person on the cleanlieness of there home. I know that people come from different walks of life. And what is clean to me, might not be to them, and what dirty or cluttered to me, might not be for them. We all are different. For me when a house is spotless, I am totally uncomfortable in it. I feel like I can't even talk because I would be afraid If i accidently spit while doing so, it would be a major sin. and with that being said even the cleanest houses still can have bugs. Though, I attempt to keep my house as clean as I can, I have two young children who like to drag everything to the living room. I have to wonder why we gave them rooms, lol I am a stay at home mom and I clean daily but it doesn't seem to help alot of the days, because as I am cleaning up my daughter whom I am staying at home with during the day is going right behind me and pulling everything right back out. I have been to a few homes that I would not eat at, only because it was the dish pile was so piled up and had things growing on them. Just not my style of living.

I guess I've never been that sort of person. If a person's house is not how I would keep it, that is their business. It wouldn't ruin my friendship with them or my family relations. I can recall my mom always make comments about my dad's mom's housekeeping, and to this day it really angers me that she had to be so belittling about it. So what if people let their dishes sit in the sink and do one load at night. Who cares if someone let's laundry sit for a day or two before folding it? Does it really matter in the long run? I think at times people forget people's reasons for certain things. We don't all have the same schedules or ways of doing things. I would hope that people don't judge me based upon my house. Sometimes it's really neat, and other times it looks like the windstorm came through. (I have two children at home now).

Yes, I always judge people based on the neatness of their house, especially of their washingroom and kitchen.If a friend with a dirty kitchen, I would scared to eat with him/her.lol!Sometimes I think if a man had a dirty house,I could understand him, but if a girl had a dirty house, I thought the girl is lazy.

I try not to be judgemental, but am never comfortable to be in a house which is badly kept. I am always scared of finding something objectionable in what they serve me. Perhaps the people living in untidy houses have their own qualities, or perhaps dedicate more of their time for other things creatively - but I feel that the standards of cleanliness in one's house speaks a lot about her/his personality.

If I care enough about someone to visit them then there are other aspects of their personality that I've already come to know & love. Besides, there are times when my house looks horrible depending on my schedule and what I've been doing, whether or not I've had kids here. I am finding this hard to answer because I have been in dirty homes and my own home gets pretty bad too. Also, there is a great difference between clutter and actual gross filth. It is clutter that I tend to see most often and no...I don't judge them. On the other hand, I dated a man last year briefly. He had long hair...i love that & his clothes were very shabby which I didn't mind as they were clean and he kept himself clean. He was a drummer in a local band and I was impressed with that. We dated for a while before he invited me up to his place for dinner. His place was a horror show to put it mildly. It would take to long to describe it effectively here but lets just say...there was very little floor space. He'd been doing dishes all day and there was a mountain still to do opposite from the mountain that somehow balanced on the opposite side of the sink. He fixed spagetti and when he opened his oven to put in the garlic bread, he removed several more dishes. When he was ready to serve, he moved the crock pot out and OMG there were mouse turds in the corner behind it! I got thru the dinner and continued to date him a bit longer as he did have many good qualities. I think a filthy house like this that is obviously a way of life does actually say something about the person. As it turned out, he did not work much and did not put much effort into finding work. Rather he spent all his energy complaining about how down and out he was and mooching off from others, etc. We are still friends and I'd still hang out with him and he can live how he wants....a deeper relationship...no...not what I'm looking for in a man.

In my case, I probably would, because how you are at homes defines almost all aspects of who you are. It would be unlikely to see someone so driven and committed to his/er work when her environment isn't clean, in the first place. I don't visit other people's houses, rather they visit mine, so it's better to keep the house in tip-top shape than just be caught unaware that someone's coming over and everything's a mess.

if it is always dirty, like the second or third time i visit, its still messy, then it speaks of the persons living there, but if it was messy because there was an activity or they were busy that day and when i came back its more tidy than before, then no,i will not base it on first impressions of the cleanliness of the house. there are people who can be tidy and messy at times like me haha, but i don't leave things messy for days, its such an eyesore.

I really hate to "judge" people. I am not perfect. I have a close family member who is the nicest person, very intelligent, good job but her house is disgusting!! she has pets and aside from the smell from the animals she doesn't pick up after herself. I'm talking half-eaten dinners, empty take-out, laundry, garbage - you get the picture. I go to her home but don't stay long. The smell gives me a headache. My home is clean. I am not "crazy" about it but I like it to smell good and appear neat. I think some people are just not bothered about what kind of impression they might be giving people. I am not worried about what people think, I do it for me.

i would say that i do judge people by the cleanliness of their homes to some extent. I only judge them negatively if their house has like insects in it and they are to lazy to clean up. I personally come from a home with four children and it is always a little cluttered. nonetheless my mom as best as she can with cleaning up after us and i think if that is the case then people shouldnt judge her if they come over and the place isnt perfect.