Would you let go?
By mhuy2x
@mhuy2x (47)
Philippines
February 25, 2009 9:54pm CST
If your other half will tell you that he or she needs some time off alone, would you let go of her or him?
Why and why not?
10 responses
@xiaozhao0723 (25)
• China
4 Mar 09
yup,i will let them go.
I firmly believe that everyone needs space of their own even in a relationship.
We have a saying here:Distance produces the sense of beauty between people.I guess it has some points here.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Feb 09
this i don't bleive in specaily if you are married. there is no time alone or taking break. if my g/f told me that i be like oh well so we are breaking up, because it's either we are together, and we work things out. not no breaks in a relationship
@chabawel (329)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Cooling off can mean two things. It's either your partner needs to confirm to definitely move on from your relationship or your partner needs time to make sure that he/she still loves you.
It's hard to let go, but it might be good for you too. Just to let you know, once you cool off, don't expect that things will be the same again. That your partner may love you still. Just be prepared emotionally once your partner decided to finally break up with you.
All you can do, if you accepted to let your partner have time for himself/herself, to pray and have faith that whatever will be the outcome it is for the better for both of you.
@ninzy_winzy14 (34)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
i am actually on the other side of this situation. i have asked my boyfriend for space. we have been together for almost 3 years and i feel like i need to grow on my own and to find myself and that's why i needed time for myself. i could say that he just gave me my space but he never let me go. he was still willing to wait for me and he gave me my space.
so if he would ask me for the same thing, i would actually give it to him, and tell him that i would wait for him.. being in a relationship for that long can really make you loose a sense of self especially if you are immensely into the relationship. so of course i'd want to give the chance that he has given me so when we'd be back together, we would be both better versions of ourselves that could lead to a better life together ahead. =)
@cabinet24 (15)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
I wont let go that easily specially when that person has become a part of me for along time already. I would do my best to find ways to resolve whatever problem there is between us. But if I have given my best and yet he/she does not cooperate and does not feel any happiness with me anymore then that's the time i will let go. At least I wont have ant regrets and if's at the end of everything.
@Downunder_dude (407)
• Australia
26 Feb 09
Well, you don't really have a choice. If they want space and you don't give it to them it'll only lead to big problems within the relationship, including resentment.
I've definitely been there. My ex would never give me space, no matter if I asked her for it. It eventually led to me feelings hatred toward her about it.
I just wanted space... it wasn't forthcoming. I got angry and resentful.
@robertshay00 (446)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Yes we all need time from each other that person is there ready to make a dission about you 2 you need to let that person go to show the love... if that person want's you get ready for old drama to happen that person is hurt and this is a defence mode care for them let them make the right person DON"T go crazy for this person to care so much to make this choice for you 2 also get what you want in your 2 life's IT"S a big moment good luck
@DavidXu (8)
• China
26 Feb 09
yes, of course. I will give some time to do her own business,'cause u know,people need time to do that, we don't have a right to tell your other half to do or not to do something. It's not a smart way.
what we can do is to listen to her voice and try to give her ur sincere advice(if possible).
good luck!