Do you make sure to maintain speaker phone etiquette?

You are absoulately right that putting someone on speaker mode, without his/her consent is against the etiquettes. I normally do not put any one on speaker mode, because I know if do so every one in the room can hear his/her voice and it could be embarassing for him/her. And if by chance,others in the room knows the caller, they can further embarass him/her by answering simultaneously to him/her. Likewise, if I am talking to someone, I would not like me to be put on speaker mode, without telling me. If he tells me that he is going to put ne on speaker mode, I will converse accordingly, knowing that others are around and will not talk about any indecent or silly thing. Your friend, who is the victim, must inform your other friend about her annoyance and embarassement and she can tell her that this is against the ethics and if she continues to do so, she will have to think twice, before calling her. Putting someone on speaker mode, without telling him/her looks mischievous to me. Good Post!

The only time i put people on the speaker phone is when it is an official call and when there are other people who need to hear and give thier inputs. That is always after i have informed the person on the other end of the call. At the same time i find it very annoying when people do it for the heck of it. Very recently in fact asked a colleague not to do it, when he was trying to have some fun with another person. Bad etiquette on his part without taking the consent as well as disturbing the others around him.

Hi Mimpi! I'm just taking a break from my busy school life. I miss you. I think it took me months or years before I got to visit. Hehehe. How are you? And to answer your discussion, yes, I think it's rude to put someone on speaker phone especially if he/she strictly doesn't want to and said so. It's okay if no one is around and if the subject being debacled, is also the concern of the people that are in the room; like in a meeting or in planning an activity. Anyway, take care always my friend. I will come back and I hope you will give me some update on Mylot community. Miss you! (^^,)

Hi mimpi dear! I do find that kind of behavior very rude. I have been put on a speaker phone before without asking or telling me first. I felt disrespected and my privacy being violated. I never put anyone on a speaker phone unless it is necessary for me to do so and that I have asked the one on the other line for permission to do so. I do share the same sentiment as yours my friend. Take care and blessings to you dear! lovelots..faith

It definitely is rude to put on the speaker phone and have people listen in to a conversation which the caller considers to be private. i never use the speaker phone except when I am talking to my brother-in-law and my wife is sitting next to me and wants to join in on the conversation.

No you are not the only one that finds it rude. They have no right using the speaker phone at work, and allowing their fellow workers to hear the conversation between the person and whom ever they are talking to. I am sure the person on the other end of the phone wants it to be a private conversation, sometimes one never knows when the conversation is going to change to something you would not want others to hear. If your friend asked this person not to use the speaker phone when they are talking, then the person shouldn't use it. If I were your friend I would not talk with this person while the were at work anymore. That is so rude. Great topic Mim. Hugs Mary

It is sad and unfortunately this friend will soon reduce sharing her personal problems with such an insensitive friend of hers and the friendship would get strained.After all she needs her privacy and that is why she calls the friend.If this one does not understand it and is insensitive then how will this last?.It would be the second one's loss. It does n't take much and strictly speaking, one time request is enough for the friend to ahve stopped it.If she were busy, she can easily tell her that at that that precise moment , she is unable to spare an extended 10 minutes of her time. I always feel that friendship also needs maintenance -by way of being sensitive to another person's wish and not offending another person's feelings.

I don't actually have a desk phone at work (we use Skype) so it's not possible to put people on speakerphone that way. I do have the facility to do this on my mobile though and mostly when I receive calls on my mobile I will speak through the actual handset or use the handsfree kit if I am driving. BUT on the odd occasion that I need to use the speakerphone feature I would only do so for a few moments if I'm in the kitchen or something but I usually say "I'm just putting you on loudspeaker for a few moments" and it's always when I'm alone anyway. I don't feel any need to share my conversations on the phone with others unless it's specifically a conference call at work and then the person would know they're on a speaker anyway.

Hi Mimpi, I think it is not too nice to put someone on speaker phone unless you told that person and he/she doesn't mind. Somehow, it is quite obvious when someone does that to you and the speaker's voice will suddenly become distant and soft. Unless it is your superior, I will usually insist (not that I encounter such a situation normally) on proper courtesy. Else, I can easier pay that person back in his own coin by switching to speaker phone mode too. Let's see how he likes the favor returned! And when I am e.g. listening to music on my phone and a call comes in, I will first reply on my hands-free. I will bring the receiver up to near my mouth and speak. If that person has trouble hearing me, I will unplug the hands-free and switch to normal handset mode.

No, you are not the only one, mimpi. I find it rude, annoying and inappropriate too. Especially given that your friend has made specific requests concerning it. The only time I have ever used a speaker phone is when someone else in the room with me needed to hear the other side of the conversation and everyone has been aware of the situation.

ahh i wish more people think like you do! my colleagues at work loves to talk on speaker phone and sometimes it drives me absolutely nuts. i don't really mind, but when they start to have long conversations and talk loudly without thinking that it might just disturb other people who are sitting near them, i get really irritated. it makes me more annoyed when i am busy and have to focus at what i'm doing, it's like i can't hear myself think! i dont know why these people can't just pick up the phone and talk, is it so hard? it's not wrong to use the speaker function but i suppose you have to take into account your surroundings as well.

I will not use a speaker phone unless no one is around or we are having a group conversation with friends and family. It is rude and annoying to use it, otherwise, and anyone who does needs to learn some manners. They should show this person this discussion so she knows it is not just her friend but that we all agree.

Hey mimpi! I find that using a speakerphone is so rude and annoying to begin with! I hate speakerphones! I feel that if you don't have the time to use the phone and hold on to it then don't make the call! It is difficult to hear the person because you can hear the noises in the background and it is rude because you feel like others are listening even if they aren't! I don't like to speak when someone puts their speakphone on and I don't like to do it to anyone else! And I wouldn't do it without telling someone that I have done it!

I don't like it either. I got caught like this a few years ago at work. I phoned my friend Carla who worked in the IT department with a guy called Tim who I thought was really cute at the time. I was speaking to Carla and asked her if someone from her area would come and check out my computer problems, I jokingly said, "Send lovely Tim, please he is such eye candy!" The phone went quite for a while and then Carla said, "Paula you are on speaker!" I wanted to die right there and then and yes lovely Tim did come and fixed my computer and I could not look at him the whole time he was at my desk. So you see from the day I have always been very careful what I say just in case I am on speaker phone with someone who like Carla forgets to tell me! Very rude!

I don't actually have a desk phone at work (we use Skype) so it's not possible to put people on speakerphone that way. I do have the facility to do this on my mobile though and mostly when I receive calls on my mobile I will speak through the actual handset or use the handsfree kit if I am driving. BUT on the odd occasion that I need to use the speakerphone feature I would only do so for a few moments if I'm in the kitchen or something but I usually say "I'm just putting you on loudspeaker for a few moments" and it's always when I'm alone anyway. I don't feel any need to share my conversations on the phone with others unless it's specifically a conference call at work and then the person would know they're on a speaker anyway.

Oh my! I was not logged in right and guess my response got eaten. I hope myLot found it delicious! Well, I love speakerphones but do always warn the victims when switching from the handset to the public mode. That just seems like the courteous thing to do!

Very often while travelling in the train I have noticed girls talking on the speaker phone. I do not like this habit at all. I always make sure my phone is on handset mode when I speak. Even if I am all alone and there is nobody around to hear me talk!

Yeah, i think that is inappropriate. I seldom use my speaker phone and when i do i make sure to ask the speaker's consent first and only if the topic concerns not only me but the people who are with me at the time of the call.

i hate speaker phone. last time i put someone on speaker phone i was about 11. i hate being put on speaker phone, and putting people on speaker phone.

haha.good idea!