Did You Ever Get A Friend Request And In NO WAY....

OH YEAH! A few, actually. I had this one guy request me, out of the blue, from my perspective. I had no idea where he got my name from. So, naturally, I always go to the person's profile page and look there, and often go to a couple of their discussions to see what they have to say or what their interests are and what they like to discuss. If I think I have something in common with them, and I don't think they are rude, cruel, a bigot, or otherwise have a negative aura, then I add them. Well, this guy only had a few posts and they were all religious fanatic type stuff. Geez, in one he posted that he was God. So, I had a novel idea, I was in that response of his, so I figured he would be notified of my response, so I asked him why he requested me right under where he was saying that he hadn't put in ANY friend requests since he had started the new account. His was cancelled, apparently. Strangely enough, his request disappeared from my queue, where it was pending for me to deny or accept. So I went back to the discussion where I had posted under his response, and he had told me to delete the request. I still have one guy "pending" because he requested me, I denied him, and he requested again. Now I won't have to keep denying him, he he. I've checked his profile twice, and there really isn't anything there that interests me, and he is new, too, so I'm in a bit of a state of paranoia at present. And I know I'm not the only one.

I used to accept everyone regardless and give them a chance. Periodically I will go through my friends list and delete non active users or people that have 'disappeared' for one reason or another. Lately with all the phony trolls requesting my friendship, I just leave them hanging because I know they'll be gone soon. Why they even ask me, I can only think is so they can use the pm system to harrass me. And if someone is on my list and we 'fall out', I leave them on my list. I believe in second chances and if we manage to work things out, they are still on my list. But there are some users that request my friendship and then use the pm system to send links and such which have nothing to do with making friends and those I delete right away.

Hello Sweet My personal favorite friend request is when I look at their profile they are on mylot only to spam and scam others... have not started any discussions I would be involved in and have never participated in any of my or my friends discussions xoxoxoxoxoo

Some people I wish to request to be my friends but have no guts in requesting simply because they are outright outspoken in their discussions and have put certain criteria who to admit as their friends. And there are people who always response to my discussion but never request to be my friends. I wanted to request them to be my friend but I wait for them to make the first move cos I don't see any reason why they shouldn't since they have responded to my discussions repeatedly. If they don't request mean they wish to stand neutral and I respect that. Now I seldom send my request for friends and only get others to send their request to me. I don't care about what discussions they made previously when it comes to approving them as discussions are made out to be controversy on purpose to hook for readers and responders. They may not be what the person are like behind their discussions.

I add everyone and then if I find that their discussions are stupid, mindless or insulting, I delete them. If they are really bad, I will report them.

So far, most of the friend requests I get are from decent people. Guess I'm lucky that way. I do check out the discussions they've started before I ok it though. Can't be too careful!!

Yes I sure have. I have always been very choosy in who I accept as a friend that is why my list is so small considering the length of time I have been a member of myLot.

I tend to get friend requests from young people in the Phillipines... don't know why...

pyewacket, Till date, I have yet to find someone with that audacity and yes, I would be hesitant with the request if it does happen to me. I hate to say this but I am quite sure that the other party would not even bother about requesting especially if they are on the errant side. It is just a matter of pride and ego here and I would like things to stay that way, because, we would not be seen chewing at each others' tails and mocking the spirit of friendship. Cheers.

Unfortunately I get them too often. Usually its the young men (under 20) from a foreign country. I never know why they want to add me as a friend? Sometimes I can tell just by their topics they have created that I don't want them as a friend.

In answer to your question, no; but I was thinking, maybe he wanted you as a friend to keep him on the straight and narrow. He might not be any good with women (one wonders why) and needs someone to teach him the right way to behave.

I get a lot of newbies asking for friend requests. By newbie I mean newer than me! So far I have not had any reason not to accept anyone and so far I have responded to some of their posts and vice versa and all is well (fingers crossed!). I can certainly appreciate the fact that you don't want a chauvinist Oink Oink as a friend, I know I wouldn't! Guys like that get under my skin badly and believe me it's not in a good way! If any of my friends post derogatory comments I would delete him/her.

When I get a friend request, I usually take a look at other discussions they've either started or responded to. What I'm looking for is common ground...somewhere that we've interacted with eachother. Otherwise, how would they find me? If I see nothing in common, and their discussions started are of no interest to me (like if they are all relating to CTP sites) then I add them, but keep track of them for a month or so. If there isn't any common activity, I delete them.

isnt that great when that happens? i always get a good laugh when people do that i can rip them up one side and down the other in a discussion and they still want to be my friend like WTH dude are you stupid? LOL

No not really I just hate when younger people want to be on my friends list. like 16 or 18, I really have a problem with that. I want more mature people.

Well when I first joined I used to accept everyone that asked. I had to rethink this idea when I discovered that many of them had no similar interests, which made me wonder why they wanted to be my friends. Now I check their profile and go through their discussions and responses to try and learn something about them before I let them be my friend and I would never let a chauvinist be a friend because once they are a friend they can pm you. I would probably try and re-educate him but never let him be a friend. My partner just sighs when I get that bee in my bonnet because he believes that I am wasting my time trying to change them but I can get carried away sometimes. I cannot understand why people ask to be friends when they never reply to my discussions. I wonder where they find me.

I do not get many friend's request, I used to accept them without much thought though currently I take some time before pressing the button. Differences in opinions add some spice as long as they do not go way overboard. I have friends who have certain views which are opposite to mine. This does not bother me as long as they are prepared to have a civilised discussion. My preference is focusing on common grounds, which can help us to become better people. Several members received unexpected friend's request from me because they may be from the same country or of the same religion. Several are females but at the moment I am not interested in having a deep relationship, contrary to what some people may think. all the best, rosdimy

I haven't gotten friend requests from people whose discussion I find offensive, but that may be due to the fact that I usually hang out in the "Writer" and "writing" sections. Kind of hard to start an offensive topic there unless you really try to :P However, I have had quite a number of friend requests that I rejected because I had simply no idea why they did a friend request e.g those people with single digit posts and who had never posted in the same discussion as me before. Guess it's not so much a case of "I'm not adding you because we have different views" but more a case of "I'm not adding you because I have absolutely no idea of what your view is"

Hey there! He's in to you! lol Maybe after all the discussions that you guys made back then got him interested with you.

thank god so far people here have been so kind with me, the discussion I started and the response I made. if some one were rude to me, for whatever reason, I would not give him/her a damn. I don't like those who don't respect others.