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i'm so sorry about your grandmother. it's very hard to lose them. i'm sure she would understand why u couldn't come. she wouldn't have wanted u to lose your job.

I'm so sorry you have to live with that, but I'm sure your grand mom would understand. Even though you may have been physically apart, you both were always connected in your souls and bloods. I'm sure she can feel you. May she rest in peace.

i am so sorry to hear bout this news. i lost a great and loving aunt too last month and it was really very sad. but i read something and shared it here at mylot too. it is about people or i mean our love ones who left us already "those we love dont go away, they walk beside us everyday. unseen, unheard, but always very near. will always be loved, gently missed and held very dear." so yes it will be very lonely but they will still be with you to giuse you.

sorry to hear about it.you should go there for last time to see your grandmom i am sure its worth it.

It's ok. Your grandmother will understand if can't make it because of your job. She understand that it is for your well being. She must be really proud of you wherever she is right now. Like your mom, just be brave and just learn to accept the inevitable. Just pray for her soul then she will be happy. Just focus more on your job eventhough it is pretty hard because you and your family are still grieving on the passing away of your grandmother. Condolence to you and your family.

Hello my friend . I am very sad to hear of your loss..Please accept my blessings and sympathies for all the family. Dont beat yourself up over not being able to go see her. Im sure she understands. The most important time is the time we spend with loved ones while they are alive. Not the time spent after they are gone. You said you spent a lot of time with her as a child..This is what is in her heart..She understands.

I am so sorry hon, what a rotten place to work that would not let you take some time off for that. That place has no heart.

oh thezone, I am so sorry for your loss, you must be heartbrokenPlease don't punish your self because you didn't get to see her at the end. You were obviously very close, and your Grandma would not want you to be feeling guilty. She is with God now, and a better place, so think of the good times you had together, and be happy she had a long life with your love and the love of your lovely family

In this economy, impossible choice. I can't believe your work would not let you go long enough to do this. They are the ones who should be feeling guilty about it. My condolences.

That really sucks! I do feel for you. However, I am sure if you told your boss that your grandmother was going to die, he would've let you off. At least most people around here would do so. That'd be pretty heartless if they didn't. Personally, if someone close to me was going to die, especially if I hadn't seen them in a long time, I would stop at nothing to see them, regardless of the consequences! But, that's just me.

No matter what we do we make decisions that in retrospect wish we hadn't. Your Grandmother is gone physically but you can still talk to her and in memories enjoy the past relationship. You can be glad that your last sight of her was not as she lay dying.

Know we wish you healing love. Take comfort in the time you had Gram with you. I know that it is a hard time but together you will make it through. Be well, friend.

I am so very sorry for your (and your family's) loss! What an awful time. :( I know you feel guilty but try not to. You know your grandmother is not at this moment in time dwelling on the small percentage of her life when she was sick in the hospital. I think she remembers the better times and the people who love her, and so should you. Again, I am very sorry for your loss.

oh i am so sorry for your loss :( . i completely understand your feelings because i am also very very close to grand mom infact more than even my mom. So many times it happens that we get mistaken with our priorities in life . you get call from your ailing mom and your in a meeting at office , we just disconnect the call thinking we ll call later .. . Without realizing that may be need you more at that time then u need the job or job needed you . i always run this check before taking such tough decisions in life. just ask yourself " after five years how important will this thing be to me " . you will not believe our job , meeting , interviews ,appointments which we give so much importance over our family , friends,kids have no relevance or importance in the course of events in life .

It is unfortunate you could not get off of work and see Grandma for the last time but what is really important is that you did have a good relationship with her while she was alive. So many elderly people are neglected by their families and it seems like your Grandma was one of the lucky ones.

Don't torture yourself any more than you already have done because it will not alter things. You will be able to have time to be with your Mother who will need you more than your Grandmother will now. No matter how hard or how much you think about what you should or could have done, it is done and something will happen to make you realise yours was the right decision. She will be near soon and you can be there and she will not be cross with you for this. You have your memories, cherish them and do not ponder on something that can no longer be altered. You're in my thoughts.

Oh this would be so difficult. I really can't believe that your job does not understand. Of course my grandparents raise me so there would really be no question as to job over seeing them again. But Weigh your options. You know where they are going and tey are gone so if you think it is worth losing your job then go if not then don't and don't regret it. It is your decison.

im so sorry for your loss, i feel guted right now, and it's not even my grandmother, im so sorry honey, i think you should have gone to see her, but im not trying to pin anything on you to make you feel bad, i mean you didn't know that she was going to pass. ask for some time off, so you can help burry her, im sure that she would hbe happy to have you do that. shes in a better place now, and im sure is looking down at you, and very proud of you.

I am so sorry for you loss. Losing someone that is so dear to us is always difficult. Take heart because your grandparents both know what feelings you are having. They will understand. It's a hard decision to make between sustaining yourself with your work or seeing someone you love for the last time. I understand your dilema with not being able to get there because I have been in much the same predicament with my job over my father, who has not passed away yet but is close to it. You should not feel guilty over this. Sometimes we don't have control over things though we wish we did. Employers behave more today as though they own us and don't feel the need to treat us with basic human decency. With the economy faltering as it has been, no one can afford to lose a job they already have. There is no guarentee that you would be able to find another one quickly. Grandmothers are very understanding people. I know because I am one. If it were me and my grandchild couldn't be there for the same reason, I would want them to know that it's okay, I understand and that I love them more than words can convey. I trust that your grandmother felt much the same way as I do about my grandchildren. If this is the case, then you have no need for forgiveness, guilty feelings or redemption. Your grandmothers arms are wrapped tightly around you tonight as she cradles and comforts you.