Does your man always look at other women and ask you to be like this and that?

Nope, my hubby would not dare do that to me. If he tries to compare me with other girls, he will be in big trouble. LOL Anyway, I don't think that it is good to compare your spouse with other women. Men who do that to their wives are rude and heartless. Why on eath did they marry their wives in the first place if they are not happy with the way their wives look and behave?

First of all, if a man loves you he would love you just the way you are. I know it sounds cliched, but it is so true. I have been in similar kinds of unhealthy relationships and all that does is undermine your self esteem. If a person is satisfied with the way they are they should not be pressured or browbeaten into being anything else, they should be loved and respected for who they are, anything else could, in my opinion, be considered a form of abuse. Furthermore, if a man or woman admires certain traits in a person not their significant other, they should have gone for a person with the desired traits in the first place.

No, my boyfriend doesn't, but his father sure does, and I can tell you right now that he is paying for it. What I mean by that is, his wife is leaving him. Go ahead guys, go a look at other women, just wait until the one who loves you and is good for you leaves you. That'll serve you right.

My husband doesn't ask me to change anything. As a matter of fact, he gets upset if I tellhim I want to domy hair differently because he says he loves me just the way I am. If he was the type that wanted me to change, I think i would be secod-guessing how he really feels. I think both men and women should like who they are and not try to change for others, especially whenit comes to appearances.

no i can honestlly say he hasn't, i have said i wanted to look a few ways, and he tells me no, that he loves me as i am, and that he wants me to look like me not someone else.

I really despise the man as the same as you mentioned.But I think if his suggestion is right maybe I would accept. And if he always do that, I would let him out! Luckily, my husband is not the man always look at other women.

i am lucky enough to have not gone through this. my man likes me for who i am. i would be very upset if he ever wanted me to act like someone else. i am who i am and you can either like me or not.

Honey, I don't have a lot of patience for that kind of talk. My answer would always be, "if you want a woman like that, go GET a woman like that". I'll find someone who WANTS a woman like ME. I do realize in some cultures and in some situations woman can't always take a stand like that. I'm glad I don't live in that type of culture or situation.

My man has never told me to be like another woman. But we're all humans. I know he looks occasionally. As I have. But it's one thing to look than to act on it. It's human nature to be attracted to people. That doesn't mean you have to act on it. As for him telling you to be like that or do/be like other women. That is just wrong and disrepectful. If he wanted a woman differently than you, he shouldn't have been with you. (Not saying that in a mean way) People are suppose to love the person they are with and not try and change them. We all have flaws, there is nothing wrong with that. It's about loving the person in because of and in spite of the flaws that make us human. I would put my foot down and not let him do this to you anymore. I would not accept it.

What would I do? First I'd knock his head off his shoulders. Then I'd tell him if he wanted that, he'd better chase it. Because that is not ME! I don't put up with crap like that. If my guy doesn't love me for who I am, then he can take a long walk off a very short pier.

it is really annoying when a husband again and again tells this and look at other girls and point out things, my husband have never told me like that and i feel i am lucky by gods grace. i know how a women feel when her husband tells this way but i think we have to spend our whole life with our husband and why not make things according to how we like so it is better to know our husband well and try to know how he wants us to be and better try to be that way. just imagine even a girl like many things and expects more from husband and if we feel something is less and need to be changed to satisfy ourself. it is the same situation even with him and somehow we love our husband and we always try to be according to him and why not do it a few things which is good and even we can accept it but it is not that we can change completely at an extint even husband have to manage as we also just cant leave our own image and completely change ourself there are our likes and dislikes too.

If a guy truly loves you, he will accept everything about you. Cephalocaudal! (head-to-toe). If he wanted you to be like this, like that or like other women or b*tch*s out there, dang! It's a crap! Comparing you or your someone to others is not really good in a relationship.

Men looking at other woman is not a bad thing. After all we look at other men and go "oh he's cute" However there is a certain point where it crosses a line, there is always going to be gorgeouse women out there and I dont mind if my bf looks at them but if he were to start telling me that I should like that or I should do that I would be walking away right then and there. If im not good enough for you then im probably to good for you. Did that make sense? lol

I went through the same thing with my ex. He always told me what to wear, how much to weigh, and most very thing I did. I finally realized I am a smart women and can make my own choices. If he did not like me for who I am, then I do not need him. He always made me feel self conscious and I lost so much self esteem, no one is worth that. I had a hard time getting my faith back in making my own choices, he said he had problems with commitment, so he actually had an add in a singles book for 6 years, I guess he thought he would find someone better? He is still single! I on the other hand will never let anyone treat me like that again. He would say things to other women, big flirt he called himself, but it hurt. No one will ever run my life or hurt me so much again. Ladies look for someone who cares for you beauty on the inside, the funny thing was I had done modeling when younger, so I knew I had to find a great guy that cared for my inner qualities, just like I do now for a man, that is what really counts is what someone is inside, not their looks. We have nothing to do with how we look on the outside, we can thank our parents and genetics for that, what we can do is be the best person we can be and treat others how we want to be treated, so if there are any nice guys out there anymore I hope I meet them someday!! Be yourself and do not change for ANYONE!!!

If a man told me I should act, dress, talk, dance like another woman, I would send him packing. I am me. Take me the way I am or take yourself off. This goes for women wanting to change men as well.

Wow wow wow , If my husband ever asks me to look like another woman, i make him regret it. And he already knows that he cant even imply such thing , If he wants me to look like another woman then he is free to go and marry that woman :) So no way!!!!

When my mom and dad got married, my mom said that my father had a big crush on this sexy actress and kept a pinup of that woman in their bedroom. Well, my mom said that when such things happen, you should just ignore...

He never said that but recently he has been saying a lot like why can't you do that and this but he didn't do comparison with other girls but that is good enough to piss me off...

I don't mind he looking at other women,but i do mind he asking me to be like this and that.Everywoman has her style,does not follow others.If every woman has the same taste,it will be so terrible.i am what i am,if you don't like ,go away.

Unfortunately men will almost always look. I have met very few guys that won't look at a girl walking by. So if you have one who doesn't look your lucky. If this guy can't appreciate you for you then he shouldn't be with you. (I'm not saying you in particular just stating) He should never ask you to be something that you aren't. Now if you "use" to look a certain way or behaved a certain way and he wants that back, well then he may have a point. I say this because in a lot of cases women will "let themselves go" and sometimes we need that reminder that we need to start taking care of ourselves again. But I also believe that he should care for you no matter what. But, as a mom now and a soon to be wife I find it hard at times to make myself look and even feel like I use to. My soon to be hubby always tells me I'm beautiful even on the days that I have bedhead hair and look like crap (in my eyes) so I can't be more thankful. He does look though and I love when he knows hes looking, he knows he's been caught and he still tries to act like he did nothing.