I pissed off my mom

I'm going to answer you as someone who is a "mom" and someone who is a "daughter". Which, you are in the same position as well. How aggravating is it for you to watch your niece and your child having problems? That's probably how aggravating it is for your mother! If you and your sister haven't figured out how to resolve your problems by now, your mother isn't going to be able to help you! Yes, mothers are great for being able to talk to, and yes, we would like for our mothers to be there for us always. But, mothers are people too! lol They get tired of hearing their kids comlaining. If your mom doesn't want to hear about your problems with your sister, then give her a break. Find a friend to complain to, or come her to myLot and vent here! My children are still young and they don't get along...sometimes it gets really old trying to teach them to respect eachother. I've pretty much figured out that I can't "make" them like eachother or respect eachother. They are going to have to figure that out for themselves. Sometimes brother and sister just don't get along! That's life! Also, from the "child" point of view. I know that my mother had to listen to me and my sister complain about eachother for many years. She never seemed to take sides too much. I think, maybe, she just told us what we wanted to here. My mother is gone now. I think that she worried about my sister and I very much and I feel bad about that sometimes, but I also know that sometimes, brothers and sisters, or sisters and sisters, just don't see things the same way! I had a similar problem to yours with my sister and I am still dealing with it a little bit in my own children. Her children are older then mine. When we got together her children didn't want my children "bugging" them. My sister never taught her children to be patient and kind to the younger once. My daughter ended up being able to find a way to get alone with them, but then she somewhat turned on her brother, so when we got together she was spending time with her cousins and then the three of them would leave my son (the youngest) out and he would feel bad. My mother couldn't fix the problem. I couldn't fix the problem. My sister didn't SEE the problem. Fortunately, life goes on and eventually children grow up, make their own FRIENDS and if they don't get along with their family, then they just have to focus on friendship! Bottome line? Give your mom a break. Confide in her when she is in the mood to listen. When she isn't in the mood, find a FRIEND to talk to! Take care.

I think you did the right thing by telling her what you were going through, after all you were only venting, you weren't asking her to solve the problem, and you should tell her that...what's the point on having a conversation if all you are going to do is paint a nice pretty portrait for her benefit, is not the truth. I'm so sick of having to pretend and shut up so that we don't upset other people, what about when people upset us? We only live once and we should go through live doing what we want and telling what we think, let's get back to reality and stop living in the fantasy trouble free world and the reality is that sometimes we are annoyed or unhappy and it would be nice if the people we love take the time to listen and offer support(not to be mistaken with solutions)instead of withdrawing when things are not as pretty as they would like it to be, just as we would do it for them.