Biggest Parenting NO NO!!

Shutting your child out. There will be times when they will need us and if they think they can't come to you, they won't. My 22 year old calls us instead of drives when he's been drinking. The 16 year old had his 14 year old friend talk to me about her maybe baby (thanks goodness there was no baby) My 8 year old talks to me when the world just isn't making sense. I have a talk to me about anything policy and it helps them with so many life things and it helps me keep in touch with who they really are.

Aside from all of my parenting rants I think the most important thing to never do is make your child feel stupid. Growing up my dad always galled us girls, dummies, idot, and would tell us to pull our heads out of our a**. If you tell your children this then they may always belive it. So that is my number one no no.

Speaking as a gramma here lol...I think one of the most huge things I see young parents do that is bad, is when they tell their child 'no' they get wishy-washy. If you have said 'no', then you better stick to it. Kids learn quickly that if they harp enough at this kind of parent, then they can probably get them to change their mind. I think it teaches kids to be manipulative, and that being wishy-washy is undermiming to a parents authority with their child. I had a girlfriend who was that way with her kids, they grew up knowing they could manipulate Mom if they made her feel guilty enough, and that when she said 'no' it really meant 'maybe.' Another thing I see far too often is parents who rant when reprimanding their children, or worse, call them stupid. I always thought it was better to approach it that while their action might have been stupid, they are not...everybody makes mistakes, you just learn from them and 'go on.' It's one thing to find out, as a child, that we've made a stupid move, but a whole nother thing when they call the child stupid for doing it. How can a child learn respect for themselves, and for their parents and others, when they're made to feel they are not worthy of their parents love? I think it also teaches children that name-calling is ok, and that bullying and belittling a person is ok....it's never OK! When I had a beef with my kids in public, I removed them to where I could talk to them alone, or we would leave. I never ever thought it was ok to embarrass them in public, much less rant and rave. Just my .02 cents lol.

There are lots of them as far as I am concerned but the biggest 2 would be lying to your child as then they wouldn't be able to trust you when they needed help and support the mostor not setting and sticking to boundaries! Contrary to popular belief children like having boundaries and knowing what they are and it helps them in so many ways. xxx

I feel no parent should humiliate their child. I've seen parents say things in public like "Look at how stupid you are", etc. And it's always over the smallest infractions. I don't think any child regardless of what they did should ever be humiliated in public or private. Emotional abuse never goes away! To me, though I don't condone physical punishment of any sort, is worse then physical abuse.

as a mom, i only want my child to grow up the best they can be. foe me, there are sevaral parenting no no's for me which i also learned from my parents. first of all, never ever make your child feel like they have no worth, do not call them names such as idiot, stupid, ugly ... and the list goes on. do not fight with your spouse in front of your child, if you have a problem talk privately about it. no yelling at each other and hurting each other nonsense. when a child sees their parents this way, they're more likely to be the same when they grow up. always set a good example for your child. never show them bad manners. kids are very intelligent. they copy whatever they see their parents doing. avoid cussing in front of your kids. never ever neglect your kids. do not leave them alone at home or somewhere else without a guardian looking after them. when at the mall or anywhere else always hold their hand, do not let them go or they might get lost. so those are just some of the things i learned as a parent, i'm a new mom and still learning more but for me those are the basics.

according to me the biggest problem for the parents is to decide the level where and how much strict and linient they should be to their children. Though it depends on conditins, nature of child, environment where the child are grown up etc etc, the parents should not be over strict or otherwise. The going away from either limits spoils the child and they may become, rude, misbehaved, ill-mannered. Just find out that demarcating line of the do's and dont's for them, as u mould them so they will become.