To love or to be loved...

Oh God that is a true dilemma. If I were her, I wouldn't do anything rush. I'll take time to test myself. For sure I'm going to let the other guy go (the one who's not in love with me). Then I'll try to wait and see if I can fall in love with the guy who loves me. (I think it's easy for me to fall for someone who already loves me in the first place). If after some time, I can just sense that nothing's working, and that I just can never never love the guy who loves me, I'll have to let him go too. I'd rather be alone than to be someone I cannot love. . . .What about yoU?

i would rather choose the one that i love..i dont want to be unfair to the person who loves me by choosing him because im rejected by the one i love..and one more thing in loving i do believe that you dont ask anythin for in return..i'd rather love than to be loved..

It's best to be in the relationship with someone that you love and is your friend. I was in a similar situation. I was dating a Dr, a very succesful surgeon, and he wanted to give me the world. But I didn't love him, there was no spark no passion. I had to let him go and I fell in love with my friend of a year and we started dating. He didn't and still doesn't have tons of money but we have fun together, he makes me laugh and I truly love him and he loves me. Leaving the Dr was the best thing I could do in my laugh. When we are struggling and trying to figure out what bills to pay, my DH will ask me if I wish or had any regrets leaving the good life behind? I say NO!! I wouldn't change my life for anything or give up my husband or children.

I believe that our life depends on the choices we made. However, I also believe in faith and destiny. The fact that your high school sweetheart left you for another woman is already a sign for you to let go. Your heart might still be with him, but that shouldn't stop you from having a worthwhile life with someone whose already there beside you. Give that guy and yourself a chance for happiness. Who knows, love and faith always moves in a way we can never comprehend. But all in all, it's always for our best. Good luck and I hope you will have happiness. (OMG...I'm sorry, I'm not reading well.... that message is for that woman, if it's not you..:))

its nice if both has the same of level of love.. in my opinion, if i love somebody i want him to love me also.. if he cant give that kind of love, then no reason to stay with him.

Hi mila ! I was in a situation sorta like this before . I was dating a wonderful man that would have given me anything I could ever want . I didn't feel the same way about him as he did for me . I had to be honest with him , and let him go to find the love he was looking for . You have to respect the lady for not being a liar and telling the guy she loves him just to get what she can out of him. There are alot of women out there that would use the man for nice things and money. She surely shoudn't go back to the one that dosen't love her back ! There is no good future in either one of these situations. I think she should go without having a man around for awhile , and hopefully soon the right one will come along that she deserves , where the feelings are mutual .

mila18bunker, No offense and no intention of being condescending here, what is the point of staying around one that who not only doesn't love you but have left you for another girl? My fair lady, isn't the answer pretty obvious for you here? I think you can wait all you want and as a matter of fact, till the cows come home - you will still not be able to be with your once upon a time high school sweetheart. I just find your inflexibility and stubbornness, foolish and oblivion on your part. I can understand if the circumstances had been different and that there is a commitment from your high school sweetheart. But to wait aimlessly just deserve some of my $0.02 cents worth here. In relationships, I think you need to be clear and remember that it is us who choose our partners and never the other way round. Yet, that choice must be accompanied with the very conditions that needs to be fulfilled before we can exercise that right and one of it would be the condition of availability of the other party. In what you have related here, I can only say that you should not be wasting time on either party but to move on. Who is to say that there will not be anyone better than your present high school sweetheart and that you will not have any feelings for this other person. Not all prospects will be presenting similar traits like the 2 men here, so IMO I feel that your time will be better off getting to know new people or enhancing your socializing skills and opportunity to allow you to do just that. This strategy would definitely have a much better pay off than lurking online, offline and reveling in your narcissistic affection for an unavailable him. Take care and have a nice day.

I think both men would be wrong for her. The love of her life, well he can't be trusted, and will probably cheat again. The lovely guy who would give her everything, well what's the point if she doesn't love him, its hardly far on the poor guy. She is better to wait until Mr Right comes along....love is out there for everyone, it is better to wait and let true love come her way, and have a happy life

If I were that woman, I'd go with the man whom loves me back. There is no need for me to prolong my agony by making myself miserable because of a stupid guy whom left me for another girl. Surely if the man you says is in good faith, I know that sooner or later I will also learn to love him back. There is no need to rush things right?

If you really want to chase the high school sweetheart, whose heart is not for you, you are simply following your ways of "heart" without using your "brain". The call of heart must be used for better things like compassion, forgiving, unconditional love and not for any "I want it this way, in my way". If one is too strong in one's desires - "This is what I want, and I would fight for getting it", more than heart, it is one's egotism that is playing active. If one fights and gets it, he is bequeathed with all the negative aspects of it, which he/she is sure to have overlooked earlier. In such situations, pragmatism is the best. Choosing what comes to you rather than what you chase many times may prove to be in accordance with what is destined to you by God. Accepting it might pave way for better things in life.

To be loved is happy,to love is hurt.I would be loved by my man.i won't love a man if i know he doen't love me back.it means love feeling will be gone fast if he has no response to me.i will try to know more of wealthy guy if i am the woman,also try to forget the unworthy guy.love couldn't beg just create by you

if i were the woman, i would choose the one who loves me and i love.if you choose the one who love you but you don't love him,you will not fell happy.if you choose the one you love but he dosen't love you,you also can not be happy.only the person who is your pricess will you have a happy life.