My aunt does not want my sister to talk to me...
By cream97
@cream97 (29086)
United States
March 2, 2009 12:40pm CST
My aunt lives in another city. She lives in the same state as I. She called my sister on the phone because my sister was dealing with a problem in the family. And my sister was talking to her about who all that she will communicate with. My sister really wants nothing to do with the family because of how much they instigate in others affairs. They try to find out things, that you don't tell them. And my sister told her doing this time, that the only people that she really talks to is me and her daughter. That is all that she deals with. And my aunt told her not to talk to me, because I am in no way in a stable environment and that I am living in a motel. My sister told her that she will continue to talk to me because I am her only sister. And that my situation has nothing to do with our relationship as sisters. MyLot, I am not happy at all about the fact that I am staying in a motel. I am not.. But, if family is supposed to love one another, then shouldn't they embrace and pray for one another, rather than tear them down? My aunt is into the ministry. She stands up in the church and says speeches and prayers. Why would she tell the only sister that I have, to not talk to me just because of where I am staying at? I am not strung out on drugs, I am not stripping nor giving my body away to others.. I take care of my kids and I am a faithful mother and wife.. My aunt knows that.. A while back, I asked her to let me come and stay with her so that I can get on my feet, she would not let me. She felt that I would need a ride around. I told her I really would not. It would have been nice if she could help me at this time. Maybe, my situation would not be a situation as it is of now. I am not saying that it is her fault why I am in this situation. But by her letting me stay with her, it gave me a chance to get back on my feet and do better for myself.. Why would she tell my only sister not to communicate with me. I thought that family is supposed to be about love and understanding. No one should look down on another because of their living conditions.
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14 responses
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
2 Mar 09
Your aunt had a very strange way of acting like a Christian. In fact I think it is fairly safe to assume that her God would be very dissapointed in her. If you are a good mom, wife and sister, then where you are staying at the moment should have no bearing on anything. It is unfortunate that she would not give you a place to stay, in doing so she did in fact contribute to the fact that you are still living in a motel. I pray that you and your family will work out the situation and move into more permanent housing. Until then, hang in there and stay strong. Your sister stood up for you and in doing so, she should have showed you that where you live means nothing to her. You are a good person and your aunt should be ashamed to have done what she did. I am sure that later in life, Karma will pay her a visit and she will realise what she had done. Just remember that you are a good person and things will get better, God never gives us more than we have the strength to handel. Happy Mylotting.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
4 Mar 09
well unfortunately the majority of families i know are like that.. they always have certain people that feel they are better than others and make it known.. even worse when religion is involved!! my family was the ones that were the poor ones growing up.. it drove me nuts because my aunt would avoid us like poverty is contagious or something!! funny now that my family is doing better and when they invite her to things and offer to pay she is RIGHT THERE!! and we lived near her for YEARS but until they could pay for her (to go out to eat or go on trips) she wouldnt even VISIT us!! and trust me she HAD the money to pay her way.. my family is barely making it but still pays for her and it enrages me that now seem deems them worthy to hang out with.. that and her snobby friends are all leaving her lol.. my family are highly religious (other than me) and they just think anyone that doesnt believe and go to their church is trash and it really bugs me because i know growing up i wasnt allowed to speak to non believers and now that im not one i know they look at me like that 
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
4 Mar 09
although i should add that my family will do anything for me.. but there will always be the 10 minute preaching trying to save my soul with every visit etc.. but its better than total ignoring..
your aunts prob just pissed cuz your sister didnt list her!
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
3 Mar 09
This is what worries me about some church going people that claim to be christians. They talk about others, they judge them. When what they are suppose to be doing is lending a helping hand, helping in ways that they can.
It's a shame that family doesn't help family and they judge them. Until they walk awhile in their place and go through what the other one is, then they have no right to say anything.
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@cher8558 (425)
• Canada
5 Mar 09
Hi friends,
I am sorry to be so blunt, but your aunt needs to get a life. She obviously is bored with her life, so she puts herself into everyone else's lives.
She should be ashamed of herself. And to say she's Christian is just a joke.
I know you are probably feeling bad enough about your living situation, but you are a mom and doing the best you can. Don't you forget that and don't let people tear you down. You probably do enough of that yourself.
Next time you talk to her, (which I wouldn't) I would just say into the phone, you know what auntie, you need to get a life and get the hell out of mine!
Good luck to you and stop beating yourself up.
Cheryl
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
That is certainly a good thing to do. I really feel sad for such situation when family does not come together. It is supposed to be the family that should help out with each other no matter what. As what they say, blood is thicker than water. I do hope that your aunt will realize that what she is doing is not what a christian so do. Best to you always.
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Well I would hope that your sister doesn't listen to what your aunt says, that since your sisters, she would be able to talk to you no matter what the circumstance. I have a aunt like that myself, I don't like her very much, she's nosy and always trying to get in people's business, I know I wouldn't listen to her if she was trying to tell me what to do, I don't like to talk to her very much because the more you talk to her the more questions she asks, she just tries to find anything she can gossip about to her friends, especially if its something bad, that really gets her talking..ha. She's the only one in my family thats like that, and I have a big family, everybody knows her, and we all try to stay away from her. I pray that your situation gets better for you, sometimes we can't help the things that happen.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
Hi cream dear! I am glad to know that your sister is loyal to you. I really think that what your aunt said to your sister regarding you is mean. I have seen so many people very active in the ministry or in churches who are so self-righteous. they think that worshiping and praising God regularly gives them the right to look down at other people. Such hypocrisy and it is really, really very sad!
Take care and blessings to you!
lovelots..faith
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
I'm sorry..I'm sorry that you were caught up in this such situation where in family should care for you not to bring you down more..Your on the righteous side, there is nothing wrong on staying in a motel..i know your not happy but that is what it takes for now and i know your sure one of this days you will get out of that motel and you will stay in a better one..Let them be and don't let them get in to you..tell this to yourself, one day, someday--they will look up on you will tell themselves they got you all wrong...believe me--that happened to me many years ago and still happening but I'm strong and no one of them can pull me down again..
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
2 Mar 09
cream, there is nothing that irritates me more than a so called Christian who hides behind the cloth! Put it this way, if that's a Christian, than I don't want to be one! Your aunt is trying to cause a ruckus between you and your sister and the way she's doing it is down right mean and cruel! Your living arrangements are of no business of hers to begin with and to be judging you because of that is NOT a Christian at all but a low life hiding behind the cloth. Write her off once and for all because she's not worth even talking about. Hugs to you cream, for trying your best to make things right with your family!! I applaud your perserverance!! Keep your head up for it's going to get better!! It HAS to!!
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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2 Mar 09
Hi cream97,
I am really disgusted with your aunty, considering she is in ministry and in church, its just goes to show to that people like that is a hypercrite. she can't even help a family member and it is disgusting that she tells your sister not to talk to you. I think you are better off without her. You are a better person than she she is.
Tamara
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
2 Mar 09
Hello my friend cream97 Ji,
I understand taht you have been sailing in rough weather for some time now. But they
would end up soon as the day breaks. There ss a differenvce of age between you and
your Aunt, so causes difference of opinion, but your only sister ha sturned down her
instruction, so do you not feel elevated by this act. So not worry about Aunt, your
sister is with you. Keep thinking positive. You are solving your own problem. You are
living without anyone's support. This is great. may god bless you and have great time.
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@jshekhar (1562)
• India
3 Mar 09
Sometimes parents get over protective about their wards. May be your aunt does not have a good impression about you and that is the reason she does not want your sister to talk to you. And the fact that your sister openly told her that she wants to talk to you might not have gone too well with her either. as families, we are supposed to be together at all times but then, there are all kinds of people and they cannot be brainwashed into believing something.
I wish you two sisters all the best and I hope things change for the good very quickly.
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@wenwenwang (108)
• China
3 Mar 09
First plz don't feel sad for your aunt's activity. There are many high-hat people like your aunt living around us. Sorry for my words, but I do think so. Of course I have such relatives. It doesn't matter. You must live better in future, no matter what your aunt said. Good luck!
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