Child support or No??

You are right, She needs to get a child support order through the courts, that way he has to pay what they say he needs to and not what he thinks that he has to, and that way his rights to see the child can be established also.

I agree with you. The promises of "help" are all well and good and if he actually stuck to that kind of help, it would be a fair trade-off. The problem with that comes when he for whatever reason doesn't feel he can or wants to help...then she will be stuck with supporting the child entirely on her own. He needs to be legally held accountable. If he is paying a fair amount then she will be able to buy the things the baby needs.

Child growing now a days are costly with all the costly medicines and vaccines.Also,the expenditure towards dresses,diapers as you told cannot be ignored.I think your son in law should hold responsibilities and provide some economical support for the baby.More than that,what your daughter needs at the most now is mental support.Why should not you try to solve the misunderstandings between them and make them live together again.The new baby can be a good reason for their union again.Try your level best.Cheers!

the medical coverage and other stuff that you mentioned are a form of child support already. maybe your daughter is making things a lot easier not on him but on herself: if she expects too much it may hurt her big time. but, i think, there are laws on this: not on whether a biological father should support a child but laws accept dna results to push men and hold them liable of criminal offenses if they do not give child support.