Would you be with ur family or to a nursing home when ur old?
By agmamayo
@agmamayo (804)
Philippines
March 4, 2009 11:31pm CST
Life is short these days, everything around as move faster than we thought. the life expectancy of man becomes shorter too, so did you ever think of what to expect when u grow older and you can't move faster like u used too, and be more dependent to others. If the time comes your getting upon the senior citizen ages would you like to still be with your family and friends or be settled on a nursing home till the end of your breath. Think of it for it is never too late to plan for it.
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@emilie2300 (1882)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I d rather have my family take care of me just for the simple facts of all the negativity going on in nursing homes today. If my family couldnt take care of me then I d go to a hospice and wait my time. I just dont know about nursing homes now these days you hear so much neglect.
@emilie2300 (1882)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Your welcome. It is very true they been through so much and they cant fight for there selves any more and should not have to go through any more pain and suffering then they need to.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Incidence of neglect happens in nursing homes too,it is not good for those elderly people to feel neglected. So i am with you Emilie, that it is better to be with your family and spend your last moments with them. A family members love is much more beneficial to our elderly parents, helps them feel contented and much happier to enjoy their last moments on earth. Thanks for the comment
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@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
6 Mar 09
If I could not take care of myself any longer I guess I would go to a nursing home and hopefully make the best of things . I would try to keep my house as long as I possible could , because it seems going to a nursing home strips you of everything plus your dignity . My mother was put in a nursing home last summer and it broke my heart . She wouldn't move in with her family members . At first it was very hard for her . It took a few months before she excepted the way things were going to be . Today she is doing much better and is alot happier , but at first it was very hard . I personally hope I never have to face that .
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Well if I couldn't take care of myself I guess it would be a nursing home though my kids say I will never see one as they will be taking care of me.....if they put me in a room..with a computer and my craft things I wouldn't bother them...but if I was very sickly....then it would be a nursing home.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Good choice Jill, Your kids do have a nice thought of their mom. They really love you so much that they want you to spend your time with them when you get older. They really appreciate the importance of parents, and i congratulate you for having them Jill. Thanks for the comment.
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@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
6 Mar 09
The best thing ever, is living by your own, by the advanced age you can.
I personally, don't want to be a bother to anyone. I know, from experience how people getting old are changing, even though they don't feel it. It's hard to seee a loved one getting old and having many problems.
A nursing home is the best solution, but it has to be a very good one, to be sure that you get a human recognition, not just being another number that waits for it's turn to die.
But, anyhow you plan it, it's not up to us .life happens around us, when we are busy making plans...there are so many surprises in life...but still, it's good to dream.
@theonerm5 (365)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I would rather be with my family. I wouldn't like being in a nursing home.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Thanks for the comment Theo, most who commented have that as an answer and i do choose it too. Its really hard being old and away from your love ones, strangers cannot not give you the kind of care,love and laughter a family of your own can provide you.
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@mystic888soul (390)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
i'd rather be wit my family..it's a different feeling when you are with your love ones..
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Being with your own family gives you the feeling of security, contenment, confidence and overwhelming love which other people cannot provide you. Strangers dont know what you really feel, while a simple difference in your acts, or a change in your mood, a family memberknows what you need or feel. During times of need, they are always there for you and ready to help anytime of the day. Thanks for the comment mystic.
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@eztuner (450)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Getting old is a blessing, but also a Borden! I hope Iam living half of my life at this point in time; I only have one daughter that lives in an other country than I live. I know life can change in a moment and there is no way to know for sure what the future will bring, but if my life were to remain as I expected to be, I'll be able to be at my own home with my husband in perfect control over my affairs. So be it!
@vivian642008 (71)
• China
5 Mar 09
if i have my own family, i want to live in my own home. don't you want to live freely? if you live with your parents, you have no more free. maybe you must get up early. you must eat dinner on time and so on. i don't like live with others. but i will visit my friends and my parents. do you agree with me?
@surveytaker29345 (489)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I would rather be with my family when I am old. I think nursing homes can be a very nice place for those who do not have a family, but for those who do, I think it is nicer to be home. While saying this, I do not have any children of my own yet, and I may change my mind in the future. I know my grandparents do not want to live with the family when they are unable to care for themselves. My grandfather's mother did this and it took a toll on their family. They do not want to be a burden for any family member and have a plan set up for when they are unable to care for themselves. Personally, I would have no problem with them living with us, but it is their decision.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
it is really fine to be in a nursing home when you get old the folks there would do whatever it takes to help you and make you feel comfortable there, however your right that it is much better to be with your family during that time, having a family member by your side is better, making you feel secured and in times of need they are there, and they can really provide you well because they know more about you as compared to the employees of the care home. Thanks Survey for the comment
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@eabaterina (501)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
of course i want to spend it with my husband. my children and my grandchildren can come visit us in our own home whenever possible and during holidays and special occasions like birthdays, etc. i grew up with my grandmother and parents so i feel i will also spend my days with my own children and grandchildren =)
@NuttyMomma (901)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I hope to never be dependent on anyone but my kids and I have discussed it and they decided among themselves who gets mom and who gets dad. I think it's funny. It is a long way off. My parents are still alive and they will never be in a nursing home, I will take care of them when and if the time comes.
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
my friends and i talked about it and we come up with an idea that we will stay together, the 5 of us in a home of our own.. we would not bother our family on taking care of us.. we believe that the company of each is enough for us to survived adulthood.. i think that cool! what do you think?
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Wow, thats even better miztress, you have a point there, being with your friends is like being with your own family too. They know what your needs, what your likes and dislikes are, and closer bonding between all of you makes your life much easier to inititiate when you get older. Thanks for the comment miztress
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@jelani (9)
• United States
5 Mar 09
well i am young. but to tell you id preffer with family. but um some elderly people would say nursing home because they get to meet other elderly people. but i dont like it because my brother works in a nursing home and the elderly people really all they do is sit around and do nuthing. but no offence but wait to die practily they dont do anything the nurses and other people practicly do everything for them.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Good choice DNS100, being with your own family is much better than being with someone else you dont know. The point is others dont know what u really need as compared to your own family who knows u head to toe. They know how u feel if something is wrong with you, they know if your cheerful,happy or sad. The beauty of being with your family is that it makes you feel much secure and compleasant in life. Thanks for the comment again.
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@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 09
I would really like to be in my own house, no matter how old I am, and hopefully stay independent and mobile till the day I die. It's frightening to think that I have to depend on others to help me move, or do other personal things for me, like my hygiene. Maybe you're right - we should plan for that.
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
6 Mar 09
I would definately want to be with my family when I have grown old. I think family is anyday better than the nursing home.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
I want to be with my family when I grow too old for my own good.
When I can no longer take care of myself. I want my family to be there
to help me and comport me. Even if I will all my memory I will always
depend on my family's love and loyalty.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Cool,its a good idea too,being with someone close to you when ur old and dying is a best way to leave earth happy and contented. A nursing home can really help you about your activities of daily living but it cannot give you the true,passionate and caring love of your family and friends. We all like to leave this world in the happiest moment we can ever had like when we first saw the smile of our mom and dad when we were born, so as much as possible we could see the smile of our children upon us when we take our last breath, might seem funny but its contentment thats old folks seek.
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@candy811123 (334)
• China
5 Mar 09
I think I would go to a nursing home till the end of my breath.When I was old enough that couldn't take care of myself,my children would be busy to working and other things. I wouldn't like to bother others life.Nursing home is a choice for me.Anyway,good luck and happy mylotting.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
same here...i'd rather go to a nursing home. why? because i don't want to burden my family and loved ones to take care of me when i'm old, immobile, ugly, and sick. LOL. Please don't be offended with that description, I was just tryin' to make fun of myself.. It's still possible for a person to age beautifully and gracefully =)
