No More FedEx Guy Discussions - Atleast For Now!!!
By singlemommy
@singlemommy (2955)
United States
March 5, 2009 7:59pm CST
Well, some of you will probably be happy to hear about this, others who liked my discussions about Mr. FedEx won't, but I'm afraid that this will be the last discussion started about him, well, at least for a while or unless something major develops (which with the way things look, won't).
Fact #1 is that the company that I work for didn't pay their FedEx bill, thus, FedEx has suspended their account until they pay their bill. I totally understand why FedEx has done this, they can't ship for customers who don't pay. The bad thing about it all is that because they won't ship for the company I work for, I won't be seeing Mr. FedEx until it all gets resolved, so I guess there will be no more FedEx Guy updates.
Fact #2 is that I guess I'm feeling a little down on my luck when it comes to Mr. FedEx and I guess it is probably time that I face the biggest fact of all, that he isn't interested. He knows that I'm interested in him, yet, he hasn't made a move, so therefore, he must not be interested. It's time I should move on. There is no reason to keep trying to make something happen that isn't going to happen, right?
Fact #3 is that I've been trying to lose some weight, maybe if I lost all of the weight then it would get his attention and he would be more attracted to me, but then again, if he doesn't like me now for who I am, then there is no reason for him to like me after I lose the weight either. Basically, I want him to like me for me, not for what I look like. That goes with any man, period.
Fact #4 is if something big does happen, if for some reason a spark shows and it starts a fire and we hook up, then I will let you guys know first because you've been here reading it all from the start.
Thanks for reading it all, for all the encouraging words, for all the honest opinions, and above all for being good friends and listening when I needed someone to.
So, now, give me those opinions, am I doing the right thing by "moving on"?
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25 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
6 Mar 09
i think u are. what do u know about him personally? he could be married or whatever, u are probably well off the way u are. the next one might be worse. just concentrate on your kids & having fun w/them.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Mar 09
i'm glad he is single. i was worried about that for you. there are worse things than being alone, since i assume u are divorced u already know that. lol. good luck to you & your kids. i'm glad u have them. kids are so special.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Well, I do know for a fact that he is single. You are right, I need to concentrate on my kids and have fun with them.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
The thing is I think you focused too much on him at that time. You forgot one thing in it does he really show any interest in me? Only to realize that he may be taking advantage of you because he knows you are already attracted to him. That is quite easy for us guys we could take advantage of you or we might as well totally ignore you.
Well for now I guess you don't need to move on since you and him didn't start anything serious yet. It was all flirting and there was no serious dates or something to that effect. So no need to say that you have to move on. Well if I were you I would really stop writing about him since doing so will just make you more attached to him and your line of thinking will never shift. Make this thread that last one and make this a closure of whatever you have in there then find something that you would be interested in and focus on that. Soon this thing will become a thing of the past.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
6 Mar 09
You are so right, It's not really a "moving on" process since there never was a relationship. I guess basically, it was something on my heart, so I wanted to write about it and that's why there were so many discussions about the flirting.
I'm not really upset that nothing is going to happen or that it didn't happen. I know someday, hopefully soon, I will meet the right guy for me.
You are so right how men can play on a woman who really likes them. They know just how to do it.
Thanks for following all my FedEx Guy discussions.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Yes, That is true men can become so deceiving at times. They could do that because there is really nothing to lose on our part we could play on you and we won't get pregnant or anything might be happening to us. But for you girls its a hard thing to fully give in because you have many to consider before you really go into a serious one. Good for you that you are careful about those things.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
6 Mar 09
From the way you have mentioned it so logically, even a mad romantic like me things you are doing a very correct and mature thing. No point in fretting over something that wasn't there in the first. I remember a saying in this context:
"If you love something, set it free...if it comes back its yours, if not...it never was"...very maudlin and silly but very true.
I am sure you would definitley find true love, maybe you just need to search a little more.
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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6 Mar 09
I wrote my response before reading the others. Something I do so that my opinion is not influenced by others.
I have now read them and see that my view is completely different to everyone elses!
I just wanted to explain why I came to my opinion.
In my life I have wasted so many chances. Not had the guts to take the bull by the horns. Waited for things to come to me. I have so many regrets about not speaking up or going for something. The one love of my life I didn't stand up and say... hang on a minute... what about me? Ok if I had of done the outcome may have been the same. But if I'd stood up and declared my feelings and told him how I felt it might have been different.
The feeling of having tried and knowing for sure, whatever the outcome hurts alot less than not ever really knowing.
Life's too short and if you want something go for it. It's much better to be hurt and know than spend a lifetime wondering what if?
I'm not saying my opinion is better than anyone elses but I just wanted you to know where I was coming from. You need to put yourself and your children first and do what is best for you.
all the best x
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
7 Mar 09
That is really a great idea to not read everyone else's responses before you give your opinion. I do appreciate you opinion. I see every point that you have made. I think my major problem is that I've been rejected so many times in my past that I don't want to be rejected any more. Maybe things will happen and I will get up enough nerve to ask him out and "take the bull by the horns".
@mummyofthree (2715)
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6 Mar 09
If I was you I would take advanyage og the fact he is not going to be calling for a while.
Do you know his number? Can you get it?
Call him!!!
Pick a few dates that you can definately get a sitter for. Call him and say that you know you are being very forward but wondered if he fancied a drink/meal/whatever you feel comfortable with. Tell him the days you are free and see what he says.
If he is interested but just never quite sure that you were being more than friendly, he will jump at the chance and a date will be set!
If however he's not interested he will make excuses and turn you down. Yup gut wrenching moment I know!
On the plus side you will then know for sure. No more what if moments. Better to regret what you have done rather than what you haven't.
And even better you will be able to go to work in the comfort of knowing you won't have to face him for a while!
I've been reading your story post by post and really can't decide wether this bloke is interested or not. To be honest neither of you seem to be doing much more than being "friendly". The rest of the workplace knows you like him but at our age do we really pay much attention to rumours?
Go for it!
What have you got to lose? NOTHING!
Good luck x
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Well, yes, I have his number. I did text him, but he didn't text me back, so I figured that was a sign that he wasn't interested, so I don't know. Maybe I should go for it, I guess I have a major fear of rejection. I guess I will just have to wait and see how much "nerve" I get up to do something like that. Thanks for the well wishes!
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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6 Mar 09
Hi singlemommy,
Oh, thats a shame you won't be ssing him for a while, but you know you shouldn't lose weight for anyone but for yourself and if he likes you he maybe too shy to ask you out if not there are lots of others you will meet then again take the bull by the horns and ask him out. When I was working at this place once I met someone and I liked him and one day I asked him out, six months later I asked him to marry me and now we have been married for nearly 29 years, so you never know. Hugs.
Tamara
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
6 Mar 09
True, you never really know what "might have been" but maybe it's meant to be that way. I do hope that I find the love of my life soon.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
6 Mar 09
Yes...yes! Time to move on, and time for you to put the "hurdle " of the weight loss to bed, too! I truly believe that, one can create a transparent barrier when one is feeling inadequate about something! And that vibe is picked up by another!
I also truly believe, that if you wish to lose weight, it should be for you, first and foremost...as I find that people find it easier to love you, if you love yourself, comfortable in your own skin! Not the big ego love..but a true respect for yourself! Mr. Right, is just around the corner..don't lose faith!
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I think losing the weight will help me love myself more. I want to feel like I have a nice body. It will totally help my self esteem. I'm certain if I can gain confidence in myself then I will find the right guy for me.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
6 Mar 09
OH! who needs fedex anyway,you should just concentrate on you and your weight lose,and you should only being losing weight for yourself and definately for no man,when the right one comes along he will fall for you, not what you look like or how much you weigh. So quit feeling down and think about all you have accomplished and it did seem like fedex was'nt good enough for you.Keep up the good work on losing the weight you want to lose and dont you dare give up because he isnt around right now.Your friends are here for you and will listen when you need us.Good luck and take care.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
i am not familiar with this fedex guy. i guess i am late to hear about this fedex guy. i think that it is just right to move on if he just showed interest then it is great but at least try to be prepared and live normally life again. so that you will not be disappointed if he does not show any interest and keep your option open. maybe Mr. RIght is just somewhere out there and somewhere inside your work place. we can't tell. you many not have not giving much attention to MR right.
hopefully something will come good out of this thing like he would some interest and so that we could hear more of this Mr. Fedex guy.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Sorry to be so blunt but I don't like what you said at all!!Fact #3 that is! You should not have to lose weight for a man to like you!If that is what it would take to get his attention then he is NOT worth it! I know how you feel though, really I do. I always wanted to lose weight, thinking if I did more guys would like me. 
Even now, I am with someone, but I still have insecurities because of my weight. He says he loves me all the time, but I feel that if some skinny chick walks by I will lose him. I don't want to lose him, but if that is the reason I would then he wasn't worth it. It's amazing how our weight can control how we feel and think. Isn't it? I just want you to know you are beautiful no matter how much you weigh. Yes even for myself I would feel better about myself if I were to lose weight, but don't have a man be the reason for weight lose.
Even now, I am with someone, but I still have insecurities because of my weight. He says he loves me all the time, but I feel that if some skinny chick walks by I will lose him. I don't want to lose him, but if that is the reason I would then he wasn't worth it. It's amazing how our weight can control how we feel and think. Isn't it? I just want you to know you are beautiful no matter how much you weigh. Yes even for myself I would feel better about myself if I were to lose weight, but don't have a man be the reason for weight lose.1 person likes this
@suzzy3 (8341)
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6 Mar 09
What't wrong with the guy is he blind someone like you could really make him happy,well don't waste your time on him anymore,move on to someone who will appreciate you for who you are,never mind.Men are simple unless you jump up and down they will not see a thing.
@jackyzbj (21)
• France
6 Mar 09
Maybe it takes time to recover from ur crush on him.
Anyway, don't push urself too much. If u think of him, then think of him.
Let ur thoughts flow. It's not wrong.
Just don't make any moves to get his attention.
BTW, I think every guy values the beauty more than a woman's thoughts.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I was told many, many times when I was younger to never put all of my eggs in one basket. I guess this is what I'd say to you. In other words, don't give up on the hope that you two might get together. But don't expect just that. Be on the look out for someone else that might be trying to vie for your attentions.
Many times we don't see that someone around us that we see often is interested because we are so into geting someone else. Thereis none so blind as she that will not see.
Also do what you want, do what you need to do for you to be happy. Be you! If like you said someone doesn't like you for you then you don't need him.
Lose weight if that's what you want to do. I suggest that you start eating right, things that are good for you but in moderation. Exercise starting off slow and then building up to more.
The best of luck and wishes to you.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Yes, you should definitely move on. I've been reading your posts and have seen how much you liked the FedEx guy. You were like a little girl waving at her little crush. On the other hand, the FedEx guy was like a little actor pleased with the ego-busting female who seemed to be elated and excited whenever he's around. Who wouldn't want that attention, right?
I don't know about you, but for me, I like guys who are mysterious, who doesn't smile much, and who's someone I don't know has got a crush on me. That goes to my boyfriend too. I guess FedEx guy is just ego tripping. It's like how fans do to their movie stars, they're just fans, they're not the types they'd like for a relationship.
Now. I'm not saying you stop liking the guy. Why don't you contain yourself and perhaps ignore him the next time he comes around. It might raise his curiosity about you if suddenly you stopped going gaga over him. 
Lose weight for the right reasons. Love yourself more. You've been through enough pain, let someone else make the effort and let someone else go gaga over you for a change, okay hun? You're all worth it! 
Lose weight for the right reasons. Love yourself more. You've been through enough pain, let someone else make the effort and let someone else go gaga over you for a change, okay hun? You're all worth it! 1 person likes this
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
6 Mar 09
You are one level headed lady and i know, no matter what happens, you will have your head firmly on your shoulders. The fact that you have accepted it, means you are ready to move on in life and very rightly so. You will find somebody who will love you for yourself, so chin up, smile and carry on. We are with you all the way. good luck.
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@menger88414 (17)
• China
6 Mar 09
i think you should pay more attention on youself,right?go on with weight-cut in a scientific way to make youself look better and attract some guy who really deserve your love.then you can pass fedex with your bf proudly
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