Why are some parents so strict when some aren't?

I liked the parenting of my parents and I try to adopt the same for my kids. My father was strict in the sense we used to be scared even to talk to him. But it was just a respect for him. Believe it or not I have spoke to him freely only after my marriage. As a child I used to be little sad that my father is not very free with me. But that made us to go in the right path. That fear of both my father and mother led us to the right path. Now I don't feel much for their kind of parenting.

I agree that there certainly seems to be a lot of different parenting styles. I think it has a lot to do with the way parents were raised when they were kids. Plus, some of it is probably just due to the personality of the parents and the behavior of the kids. I know I would probably be more lenient if I had a kid who was usually well-behaved but would occasionally act out. Now if I had a kid who was always causing trouble, they might be punished more because I would want to change the behavior.

my mom is great too.. i dont think we ever had an episode.. maybe its because of how their children act.. or maybe they're just paranoid that their kids might turn out the way they did.. haha

Well, each person has a different personality. Usually how they handle their children is also affected by the way they were handle as a child. Some are also influence by others and some because they are afraid about whats happening in the surroundings. Well, I guess the important thing is that they are always there for us. Regardless whether they are strict or not, the endpoint is they are always looking for our safety.

Hi, Question of giving Priority. Some parents are 'Tough', as they give discipline as 'Value'. Others only 'affection', thus discipline gets a back seat. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

Well as we know not all parents are the same right, so don't even wonder why Pedro's mom is not Juan's. Some parents will impost strict rules for kids because they wanted their kid to grow well and have a good character and are disciplined. Most parents that does not imply any rules are often said ,their kids are not behaving well. If you don't discipline a child in a way that God says, then you will reap a monster. Because man in nature are evil. You don't teach a child to be greedy, but you can see small kids, they don't like to give, did they teach them to be rude to you or to other kids too? nooo, they don't That is why, it is important to have them trained, disciplined and implement them such rules to follow so that you will mold their character. If you spank a kid, be sure you use hands not hard rod, that is for my opinion ok. But once you spank your kid because he or she had done wrong, you must explain to him or to her why you spank her, so that she may understand that you love him/ her and you are correcting him/her for her/his own good.

My parents were fairly strict, and I was strict with my kids, and now grandkids. It's a parents' responsibility to teach their children good manners and good values so they can become well-liked people and contributing members of society. Good parents set limits on behavior, and discipline their children appropriately when they step over those bounds. Some parents are premissive, because they don't want to inhibit their child's "personal freedom and self-expression," which is a bunch of bull and the best way to raise an unruly, rude and selfish child. And some parents don't have any control over their kids because they don't like dealing with conflict and try to negotiate with them. Kids raised this way will have no respect for their parents and the family will constantly be in an uproar. But I think we all try to do the best we know how at the time, as parents. Even the best parents raise unruly kids, and sometimes the worst parents have the best kids. Who knows what the real secret is?

Maybe they are like that due to how they experienced their parents treat them. Let's say, they didn't want their parents being too strict so when they became parents themselves, they didn't want their children to experience the same difficulties that they experienced from their own parents. Being angry at the right time is also a good indication that they learned well enough from their own experience. Let's say, our parents came from a large family so, there would be lots of brothers and sister perhaps. So everyone would have a different personality as well as attitude. Your parents could've learned from their parents on what and what not to do on giving discipline to their children. Say, the eldest happens to be more naughty than the rest of the children, by observing their parents and their eldest sibling, they could more or less distinguish the right and the not so right way of dealing with certain situations. After all, our parents are our first teachers so, their parents were also their first teachers. Your lucky to have open minded parents like that and know when to keep their cool or just deal with their children's actions. Well, you could say that it depends on how they were brought up and how psychologically they developed through the upbringing of their parents. (^_^ )

It could be a number of reasons .. some people are raised strict so they think that is way it should be done .. others are raised strict and think it is not way to be done .. some people are easy going and patient and some are over protective and some just don't care.. its hard to understand the reasonings all we can do is our best and if we see a wrong then we fix it or change it .. you would have to know the pother parents and their own background to try and understand why it is different to yours .. for me i was raised strict so i made sure my kids were given more freedom whoever if i didn't agree with soemthing i would tell them .. I think it would make a good study to see whether our up bringing makes us more for soemthing than it does against soemthing :)