Feeling Overwhelmed
By stardustw83
@stardustw83 (435)
United States
March 8, 2009 12:48am CST
Lately I have been feeling like not myself. I have been feeling that although my child is only 2 months old that im being over stretched by the need of him. I don't love him any less EVER. But some days i don't feel like I'm doing a very good job as a mother even when my husband tells me that I am. Last night was really bad i felt like i wanted to leave this world. It just seems some times that the only one that can calm the baby is me and the only one that can feed the baby is me and the only one that knows how to change the baby is me and me me me me me this is the one time i don't want it to be me. LOL what a strange wolrd when we become parents.
So i cried to my husband of course hysterically and then took care of my son what else can i do? I don't feel the need to be on medication after all these aren't thoughts that are happening constantly i NEVER want to hurt my child. I just think i let things get to me and get to me with out talking about them and not sure who to talk to especailly when you don't have many friends that are willing to listen. But thats a completely different subject.
Well thank you for letting me rant. Any advice is always appreciated and welcomed.
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3 responses
@Hgateway (204)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Stardustw83, please clap hand for excellent job you done.
It's natually that your want to do everything for your son and feel responsible for all for him. But, remember, you have to treat yourslef right and take care yourself first before you can present best to take care of your son.
My point here is take a hour or two break each day, whatever the time you think your husband can take care your son or anyone else you can trust to handle the baby. You got to pamper yourself a bit...to recover from the stress... During those time, get away from the baby and do whatever your like to pamper yourself.
I didn't learn the lesson after I had my 2nd child, I finally burned out and got sick badly and end up I can't take care my child for a while. Finally, I agreed to hire a live in nanny to help out the daily chore, so I have quality time with both of my kids. Later, I also realized I've set a high bar for myself and want everythning perfect for the family. So, once I set aside what's the right thing for the child or just my wish/want for the child, then it's easiler for me to let go some of my thoughts or even blaming myself of not be able to do certain things I want for the baby.
Hope these help!
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@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
8 Mar 09
thank you for the advice. I will try to apply it to this situation.
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Being overwhelmed is definately not something you are alone in. However, you do want to keep an eye on things. There is something called Baby blues, or Post Partum Depression. It's very realy, but it is easily taken care of with counseling and medications. If your anxiety continues, you may want to speak to someone about it.
http://www.medicinenet.com/postpartum_depression/article.htm
The above website provides a very good overview of it, for your reading.
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/women/pregnancy/ppd/general/379.html
This website has a video, as well as some helpful hints, though you've been given really great suggestions already.
The best thing to do is to keep talking about it with others. And make sure you're letting your spouse know what you are experiencing and share the information with him so he can help you cope as well.
Namaste-Anora
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
9 Mar 09
If it keeps up, see your doctor right away. They may give you something to ease your mind and body.
The person before me is right... take some down time, time for you to rest. Remember that you can't keep your baby healthy if you aren't healthy.
You take care and remember you aren't alone.
