am i wrong
By ashwini28
@ashwini28 (37)
India
March 8, 2009 7:14am CST
i lie very small small things to my hubby n its not intentionally i lie but sometimes to avoid few questions or wen he is very curious of somethings.I just tell them so as to avoid fights or i get more cautious n i get cought.i really dont want to lie but u know may b past experiences make me tell them. is it only me who lie small things or everyone does that.i really feel very bad when i get cought coz my intention is not that i want to hide frm him it is just that i dont want any complications..........
am i wrong
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4 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
I do believe that those small lies that you unintentionally do will become bigger and bigger especially if you were able to got through with it the first time there is a bigger chance that you will do it the nest time another opportunity happens and sooner you'll just realized that these small lies had already grown out of proportion as it become habitual to you. So if I were you, I try to be as honest and open person that you are to your husband. One of the basis of a strong married life is trust and lying is the very first of the things that will erode the foundations of marriage.
@ashwini28 (37)
• India
8 Mar 09
ya, thanks..i ll follow that now.but u know it is no where that i want to lie.i actually kinda person that i dont intend to remember things unless n untill they r important but when he asks me about few things which i dont remember i say something or the other.n if i say that i dont remember he says ,how could finish this certification or how could you finish your masters wen u cant remember this,it is just that u need to have interset in remembering things etc etc so i say something or the other which will no way effect anyone but i get cought. :(
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
You see, every time you unintentionally lie there you are always caught especially if your hubby does know what to ask you to determine if your telling the truth. Anyway one benefit if you can be as honest as you can be is that even if you are ask as many followup questions in your life you will never be afraid to answer wrongly because you know the answer to his queries. But if you lie about things then you just have to be always careful with your answers because if you will connect all the answers in your question you will get inconsistencies in it therefore you'll get caught eventually.
@ava152007 (641)
• India
10 Mar 09
Hi
Sometime it happens to everyone, But I sugest you to avoid leing, becouse it will become bigger and bigger problem later, Now you feel you avoided small fights but it will lead to big fights or more worst situation, So please try to say everything to your hubby, sometime it will lead to some fight but it will be solved then only, If you continue lieing then he may loose confidence on you and may start doubting you. Be careful!!
@searchingwithin (31)
• United States
9 Mar 09
A bunch of little white lies can easily ruin a relationship...lie by lie. If he finds out, how do you expect him to trust you to be honest about the big things? He won't.
Communication, trust and intimacy, are what create a solid foundation, and in order to have good communication, trust and intimacy, you have to show your vulnerability, because that is part of being honest, and shows great strength.
