He said he would stand by me ...
By jess07
@jess07 (319)
March 8, 2009 7:15am CST
Hi,
Ive started many discussions about my relationship. We've been together for 5 months now, but we have some majeur issues at the moment.
I have a couple of big problems in my life at the moment, and i can't seem to get other them,I am really hurting and he had said he would always be there for me .
But the other week, he slept round my best friends and it seems that he seeked comfort in her, i won't go into details...I forgived him, even if i didn't get the hole truth.I even forgved her, but yesterday he said he was going to a discothéque with her and i got angry and he said "I'll tell you what, you live your life cos i am sure gonna make the most out of mine" ...
I'm lost, i have loads going on in my life and it seems he is just trying to hurt me more ..
What should i do ?!
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12 responses
@nut_nut (251)
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8 Mar 09
baby nobody on the earth is able to take care of u as well as u can yrself, nobody else can read yr thoughts. but that certainly isnt an excuse for behaviour like that!! you need to change yr thoughts be the strong woman u can be and ask yourself if you are happy, what you want and need then go get it girl !! :) have a lil faith in you. get what you deserve :) or just do something that makes you feel good for that lil boost....im running race for life for cancer research for example...check it out :)
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good luck girl, make it work for you. its not selfish to think of u sometimes
@binglxl (14)
• China
8 Mar 09
can i ask you a question?
where are you come from?becouse i think it is different at different country ,at lest i think..
i am an chinese.i think in our country it is so bad to you.and i suggest you left him.find a man who love only.
but i saw some hollywood movies,i thought it is common in US.is it right?
@jess07 (319)
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8 Mar 09
Hi!I come from France, and well lets just say that the more women a man can pull then he's a big man and everybody says well done.
But if the girl does the same she's a wh****.
But we're not all like that lol
I'm an old fashion girl i want a loyal husband, children ...
Thanks for your response Binglxl, i'll ber what you said in mind
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
I feel he is a bit ungrateful for what you just did for him. You already forgave him for whatever they did to you which for me is unforgivable but you did it. I think you should now move on than being with this kind of a guy who is really irresponsible and ungrateful. Just think that at least you already know him before you really got too serious with him. Move on with youe life now and I pretty well know if you get over this you'll be a much more stronger person than you are today.
@jess07 (319)
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8 Mar 09
To be perfectly honest, i don't know if i really have forgiven you know, i think i've tried to put it behind me and try to make a better relationship out of it.
I really wanted it to work out so i tried my hardest to forgive both of them and tried to move on from the pain and the bitter feeling of unloyalty, lies and hatred ...
And it just feels like he takes all of it for granted.
Thanks for your response
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@forslahiri (1042)
• India
8 Mar 09
hi,
U r GREAT ,b'cz U've the courage to 'Forgive 'him.
Pl listen to conscience now. Ur heart possibly saying "I still Love Him".
But even this time if U r soft,he will take advantage again.
Without loosing cool, U should have a one-to-one discussion with him.this will give U the direction towards Ur future course of action,in Relationship.
Remember,Hypocrits colour will not be unknown forever.
=Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
8 Mar 09
After reading the lines I got an idea that you are being used. A really committed person can never be so unstable. Though he has said he would stand by you I feel there is a rotten fish near the corner. As it is not yet too late you better take care of the whole issue and give to it a serious thought.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
8 Mar 09
You are definitely being used and deserve so much better. Let this one go and find one more deserving of you. I know love is blind, and we can't tell our hearts how to feel, but that's when we have to start using our heads and do what is best for us.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
8 Mar 09
well i would think kick his butt to the curb, and your best firned for fooling around with him. best friends aren't suppose to do things like that.
and to me guys (why guys don't like me) will say whatever to make you feel like crap something, and specaily if you are dealing with issues some will say all the right things you want to hear.
get rid of the zero and get yourself a hero
@iamsolucky (1241)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
I think your boyfriend is not really supporting you. He only wants to be with you when your in happy moments. Just based on what you post here, a guy will never think of how can he be happy alone if he know his woman is suffering from problems in life. He maybe can request a "self time" when he needs to do other things like work but he will always end the day calling you how are you and how you feel. He wont even think of searching for happiness for other gals. Trust me, I already experienced this low moments in my life and i also share it to my boyfriend of 5 years, and he never think of going away and search happiness to other gals. He is so concern of me, i am so lucky to have him. I hope you can get the right man for you.
Happy mylotting! 
@candy811123 (334)
• China
8 Mar 09
I think he is unstable.You should consider about your relationship carefully.If he wanted to stand by you,the first thing he should do is not to hurt you.Anyway,take care of yourself and give you my best wishes.
@lonmar71 (89)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
don't believe every word he says. he is not helping you. he doesn't really care about you because if he really loves you then he wont be sleeping with your bestfriend and he wouldn't hurt you that way. it's better if you break up with him this early. believe me you deserve a much better man who will love and respect you and who will treat you right.
