I feel sad right now. What should I do?

@elysium (169)
United States
March 8, 2009 10:30pm CST
My boyfriend got into a car accident after a truck ran passed a red light. He is in a coma right now. I feel really depressed right now and can not stop crying. I keep telling myself that he will come out of the coma, but whenever I see his face, I end crying harder. My boyfriend is the best person that appeared in my life. What should I do? Is there a way to encourage myself?
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@mansha (6298)
• India
9 Mar 09
I have no words to console you just pray sometimes when medicines can not help prayer does. He will be allright I am sure just keep your fingers crossed. I came across a wish page recently I am giving you the link I know its just a stupid net page but yo never know what may work or may ot. Try it out and make your wish. I hope some miracle will happen. If you can not I shall make a wish for you. http://www.real-wishes.com/wish/888.php?ts=1236503048&month=03&year=2009&wish=~8,888~8I8wish8My8husband8gets8the8posting8to8Delhi8and8I8pick8p8a8job8in8a8god8Company8in8Delhi8~8,888~
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@mansha (6298)
• India
10 Mar 09
I felt the same way too t gives a kind of hope doesn't it?
@mansha (6298)
• India
9 Mar 09
sorry the other link may not work here is site address http://www.real-wishes.com
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, mansha. Thanks for the reply. thank you so much for giving me that link. It helped me to calm down my worries a lot.
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@angel2009 (210)
• India
9 Mar 09
Do you have faith in god? All through your life have you done any good work? could you ever bring smile in anyone's lips in all your life? Then pray to god each and every moment of your life that for the sake of all those little good works you have done, for the sake of all the smiles you have brought to others, beg of god to cure your boyfriend. Pray when you are awake, pray when you are asleep, pray each and every moment and beg for your beloved's life. I am sure if true love really exist, and if you really really love your boyfriend he will come out of his coma successfully.Touchwood. Have faith and God bless you and your beloved. Be strong dear..You will definitely see the silver lining at the end of this cloud. Please let me updated.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, angel2009. Thanks for the response. I do believe in God and I do pray for my boyfriend. But I wish that my prayers would be answered quickly. My boyfriend is still in a coma, but I know that he will wake up from it.
• India
11 Mar 09
That's the spirit.. Takecare dear and all the best!!
@dio123 (1788)
• India
9 Mar 09
Do not get depress, thank God he is still with you and pray hard for him so that he can come out of Coma soon, have faith and be positive this will help you and your boyfriend, may god bless you both
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, dio123. Thanks for the response. I do and will continue to pray for my boyfriend. I just with that God can grant prayers immediately.
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I am so very sorry this happened to your boyfriend and I feel really deeply for you. The best you can do is try to remain positive. Keep talking to him, keep telling him how much you care for him. Try to talk to him in a positive way. They say that they can hear you, so try to be positive. Unfortunately there is not much you can do but pray, hope, love, and keep talking to him.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, ladym33. Thanks for the response. I do keep talking to him because I know that he can hear me. I also know that he will wake up. The ultimate thing I can do for him is pray.
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• United States
9 Mar 09
I am truly sorry you are going through this, but please don't despair. Things will get better. When you visit your boyfriend at the hospital talk to him, I believe in my heart that he can hear you. Always talk to him in a possitive light. Remind him of all the wonderful things you did together and that you look forward to doing more. This will also help you. If you still continue to feel depressed go seek help from a psycologist or your local clergy.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, mcdimples. Thanks for the response. I will do my best to keep positive and will continue to talk to him.
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@mdawson (70)
• United States
9 Mar 09
im sorry to hear about the accident. hope the truck driver gets what he deserves. your boyfriend will come out of the coma, just give it some time. we all will pray for you. when u are feeling depressed talk to someone u can trust. and be there for you no matter what. everything will be all right just give it time.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, mdawson. Thanks for the response. I am glad that my boyfriend was able to survive the accident. Your right. My boyfriend will wake up soon. I just hope that I am the first person that he sees and remembers when he wakes up.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
9 Mar 09
You should pray. Most people nowadays do not appreciate the power of prayer far less believe in God Himself. My best advice to you is to pray. In my expereince, and I do have experience, there is nothing better that you can do.
@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, Bluepatch. Thanks for the response. I do pray, but I wish prayers could be answered immediately. Prayer is the ultimate thing I can do for him.
• United States
9 Mar 09
I am sorry to hear about your boyfriend I will keep him in my prayers. I know it's hard to think positive right now but it's what you need to do stay strong for him. It's not easy when we see the ones we love get hurt like they do. I hope everything will turn out ok keep us updated.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, Remembering1996. Thanks for the response. Your right. It is not easy to see love ones hurt. But I know that my boyfriend will wake up. My boyfriend is currently in a coma still, but I am glad that he was able to survive the accident.
@hershiez (464)
9 Mar 09
Awwww....I am sorry to hear that, elysium. T_T I suggest you to think positive like what others told you. Crying is not bad. It will help you release the pain you are feeling. Have a breathing exercise also. It will help you to be calm. And always think that God is always with us. God bless you and your boyfriend.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, hershiez. Thanks for the response. I am trying to stay positive, but it so hard to do that. Although, I am happy at the fact that my boyfriend was able to survive the accident.
@ronit_mat (176)
• India
9 Mar 09
i have never been asked for help for such a condition. but the best thing you could right now is be with your boyfriend and talk to him as much as you can.. you know people in coma can hear what you say..the moe you show him that you care about him the quicker he willl hopefully get better...
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, ronit_mat. Thanks for the response. Your right. The best thing I can do for him is to just be by his side. I know my boyfriend will wake up soon because he is a strong person.
@twixyluv (27)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
so sorry to hear that. pray for your bf, trust in in the Lord, He will never give you burdens you cant carry. be positive always.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, twixyluv. Thanks for the response. I know my boyfriend wll wake up from his coma. And your right. God will never give me burdens that I can not carry.
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
..im sorry to hear that.. the best thing that u can do now is try to be there for your boyfriend at all times.. even if he doesn't see you he's aware that your always beside him.. and dont forget to pray always.. prayer is the most powerful than all..
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, mizstress. Thanks for the response. Your right. The best I can do is be there for him.I know that he is aware that I am near him and will always be. I do pray, but I wish my prayers would be answered right away.
@lighten (30)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 09
Sorry to hear about that elysium, my prays for him for speedy recovery. Anyway, you should stop crying and try you best to always be there for him. Talk to him eventhough he's in that state, and never lose hope.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, lighten. Thanks for the response. I will always be next to him at the hospital because I do not want to miss the chance of when he opens his eyes again.
@akki16 (81)
• India
9 Mar 09
Do not fret ,he will recuperate very soon.Let us pray for him.u should better leave it on time . Time will heal the wounds. Believe in god n yourself. Try to have outings with your family. Try to be in a crowded place. Do not leave yourself alone.patience is always sweet. U gotta wait. He will be with you very soon .If he is the best person, best things will happen to him. Do not loose hope.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, akki16. Thanks for the response. I will try to do all those things that you suggested to be able to encourage myself. I will wait for my boyfriend to wake, no matter how long it takes.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
9 Mar 09
I can understand the situation. Be positive. I know it is easy to say. But what can you do? please also pray so that he is alright.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, subha12. Thanks for the response. I am staying positive, but it is hard to do that. I do pray for him, but I wish God would be able to answer my prayers immediately.
@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I am sorrry to hear that , i will pray for him and hope he will survive, The only thing you can do t=at this moment is like others said think possitive and pray pray pray, speak with him ask him to come back.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, zabawaus. Thanks for your response. I do keep praying, but I just wish God would be able to answer my prayer immediately. I do talk to my boyfriend. Even though he is in a coma, I am sure that he can hear every word that I am saying.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I am sorry you are going through something so horrible. Try to be optimistic, and when you go ee hime, look for signs of improvement. Talk to him, like he is sitting up next to you and respomding. Hold his hand, and tell him how you feel. It is okay to cry, it is okay to show emotion, but at the same time, remind yourself that he still has a fighting chance. Ask his family and the nurses if there are any improvements. As for yourself, force yourself to get up and keep a normal routine each day. Get a shower and put on nicer clothes. He does not want you to wither away, he wants you to stand as strong as you can. As I said, focus on any little positive thing you can find, and talk to him, hold his hand, and even kiss his cheek. If there comes a day when you just don't feel that you can handle going to the hospital, it is okay to stay away.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, lynnemg. Thanks for the response. Your right. My boyfriend does want me to stay strong. Even if I do not want to go to the hospital, I am still going to go. When he wakes up, I want to be there to see it and not miss it.
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9 Mar 09
Well. it is really difficult to handle such a situation like what you are suffering right now, but you must remember that you are hoping and actually wishing that your boyfriend will wake from coma so you must keep telling to your self that you are standing still becuase of him, that you are fighting the fears, the pain, because you beleive in him. It will be difficult but you must stay in courage that no matter what you believed.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, lacusGravil. Thanks for the response. I do know that my boyfriend will wake up because he is a strong person. I will do my best to fight the tears and the pain and try to stand strong. I know that my boyfriend would not want me to remain weak during hard times.
@playapal (894)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I feel so badly for you elysium. No one really knows the right words or advice to give in a situation like this. Please know that your friends here at mylot are thinking of you and praying for both you and your boyfriend. If you want to talk I'll be glad to listen and try to encourage you. Stay with him as much as possible, talk to him all of the time, I really think that coma victims can hear you. Hold his hand and talk to him about the good times that you have had together and the good times you will have in the future. Remember that people are here for you. Please keep us posted on how he is.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, playpal. Thanks for the response. I also believe that coma victims can hear what we say. My boyfriend is still in a coma right now, but I know that he will wake up soon because he is a strong person.
@fino1982 (55)
• China
9 Mar 09
I am sorry to hear that. But you should be strong, and try not to cry. You had better consult the doctors and ask them what you can do for your boyfriend.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hi, fino1982. Thanks for the response. I will try not to cry anymore. I will also try to remain strong as I know that my boyfriend wants me to remain strong during hard times.