My sons surgery.
By Thoroughrob
@Thoroughrob (11742)
United States
March 8, 2009 10:50pm CST
As alot of you already know, whe had basically no choice to do the surgery. In January they told us they wanted it done within 6 months or they would not do it at all. They have scheduled his spinal fusion for March 19. I have such mixed feelings over this. I know that we have to do it, but it scares me to death. Right now, I can take care of him. With all the very high risks, it scares me to death that something may happen to make it so that I am not able to. He has Cerebral Palsy, which is just like a brain injury. Normally, when they do this surgery, they can watch the brain waves and tell when they are causing stress or putting things in a bind. Because his is already damaged it will be harder to judge. Sorry that I am dumping on you guys, but my husband is not the least bit nervous and can't understand why I am. Please pray for us, and especially for him. His name is Bryan and he if 14. Have you ever had to do something for your kids that scared the heck out of you?
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
9 Mar 09
My daughter is 37 and just had surgery and I was crappin' my pants. I think woman are the worst worriers in the world. I remember asking my husband one time, "Do you even care?, you seem to worry about nothing." I'll always remember his answer, "Why what good would it do to worry? and besides you do plenty of that for the both of us." Well he was right I did then and I still do. My prayers are definately with you. The one thing we never think of when we worry is the fact that in todays world modern medicine is far advanced to what it used to be. Naturally you're worried and you wouldn't be much of a parent if you didn't. Just remember to put your trust and faith in God and never forget your friends here at myLot are always here for you my dear friend. Bryan is young and I have faith things will work out for the best. Take Care.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I do believe that women are the worriers. Your husband sounds like mine. Thanks so much for being here.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
10 Mar 09
I pray that this surgery is successful and that Bryan comes through it with flying colors. Please take a deep breath my friend. I send big huggers to you.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Thanks so much. I was just really having one of those moments. Thanks for the hug, I really need a few good ones.
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@KarenO52 (2950)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I'll say a prayer for you. I haven't had to go through anything like that, but my brother in law has cp, and my mother in law had to make the decision to get surgery on his legs when he was 13. He had it done at Cleveland Clinic, and they had to cut tendons in both legs to try and straiten them out some. They said if they didn't he'd be in a wheelchair in a few years. Now he's in his forty's, and he can still walk around on his own, but his legs are still bent.
My husband is like yours when it comes to worrying about the kids. I think I do all the worrying.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Mar 09
We have already done that surgery, for the reasons you said, but his legs have gotten worse and now he is in a wheelchair. Thanks so much for the prayers.
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@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
I'm sorry to hear your predicaments my friend but I'll pray for you and your son to survive in this ordeal. Just be more faithful in the unceasing love of God and He will see you through this difficult situation. Sometimes there are just events in each our lives where we have to surrender everything to the Divine Mercy of God, please do. We'll pray for you.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
it is really such terrible thing to hear if any one in our family will undergo surgery. we really lots of prayers this time. we have to make sure that we have lots of support to. my prayers are with also. wish that every thing will go well. i have not experienced such big operation nor any of my family yet thankfully. and praying none in the future too. wish you blessings and health to your family.
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@tav_8164 (151)
• United States
10 Mar 09
I am very sorry to hear of your troubles. I believe that everything will go fine and whatever happens is for the best. You are a strong person and your son is a special boy who is obviously loved greatly. He is lucky to have you and you blessed to have him. Good Luck:)
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I was just wondering the other day about when his surgery was scheduled for. I couldn't find the previous post where I thought you mentioned it. Bryan continues to be in my prayers for a successful, uneventful, surgery. As a mother, I cannot imagine the stress you must feel with the upcoming surgery. I'm also keeping YOU in my prayers, to give you peace of mind and comfort throughout this whole deal. Don't ever feel like you're 'dumping'...that's what friends are for! Your hubby might show a cavalier attitude, but I'm sure that's only because he's probably trying to be strong for both you and Bryan. You know how guys always try to not let their feelings show?! Sending you a giant 'Mom to Mom' hug, and know that we will all be thinking of him and your family.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Mar 09
It is coming quick. I am so glad they did not drag it out longer. Thanks do much for the prayers. My husband can hide his feelings very well, but sometimes I need to see them! Thanks for the hug, I needed that!
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Thanks for the prayers and energies, I try to stay positive, but need to also prepare for everything.
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@monkeykingaround (896)
• United States
20 Mar 09
My prayer always be with you. I hope your son is doing fine right now. I hope that the surgery goes smoothly for him. I wish you guys the best of lucks. I don't have kids yet, but I could understand why you are so nervous about this ordeal.
May god be with you and your family.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Yes. I think what helped me the most was finding a doctor who I trusted . It was a process to find the right one. My daughter had problems when she was a baby. She is fine now and she is 22 years old. Will say prayers for you and your family. It is very hard when your child is sick and faces difficult medical problems.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I have to say that the doctor is great, he has even called on the phone a couple of times, just to check in. Thanks so much for the prayers.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I bet your son is in surgery as I am writing this. I have prayed for your family on and off since you wrote and told me about this. I am so sorry he has had to go through this. I know it will be a long battle for him. I wish him an easy recovery.
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I will pray for all of you. It's tough when you have a child that needs surgery even if its minor. I can understand your nervousnous and apprehension. I'm sure you husband is nervous too, but is trying to stay calm for everyone's benefit. I would speak to the surgeon and voice your concerns. Any surgery is risky, however if the benefits will make his life better and it is needed, you have to have faith in the doctor's ability and knowledge. You need a strong support group to help you through this difficult time and I know that you can count on the members of mylot to be available for you 24/7. We are your sounding board should you need to talk, and your support group should you need anything. You need to stay strong for Bryan and that is enough motiviation to get any mother through. You are not alone!
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Thank you so much. It is so nice to know there are so many caring people willing to go through this with me. I am going to need all the strength I can get. You guys are great.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I will pray for you, your son, and your entire family. I think that deep down, your husband is nervous, but is saving face for your benefit as well as your son's. I bet when it is really happening, you'll see a bit of a change inhow he acts. Then again, maybe he just KNOWS that everything will be fine. Maybe his faith in God is allowing him to feel so calm. I have never had my children have to go through a surgery, but I have gone through a few when I was a single Mom, and I was scared. I had two back surgeries in 3 months, and each time, I made sure that there was something in writing stating that my parents were to take my kids if something happened to me, I made sure to tell my kids just how much I love them, and I made sure to pray. It is not easy, especially for you, being the parent and having to it in waiting while your child is in surgery. Trust in God that he will be safe.
In the meantime, I will pray for all of you.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Thank you so much for the prayers. My husband does that with all problems. He will not talk them out. He lets it all bottle up inside. He has one friend that he really talks to. I did not realize he was opening up to him, until I saw him when I was alone one day and told him I was afraid my husband was not dealing well with a situation, and he did not tell me what he said, but assured me that he talked to him and he is not letting it all mount up. I just wish he would talk with me, but I think he thinks he has to be strong for us, but I don't always want strong. I keep telling him that.
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