When to have more children?

I think wanting more children isnt selfish, I think that it is not selfish at all to want to raise children, on the contrary it takes a lot to do that. I had one in 2003, one in 2006 and one in 2008. I think that just like anything else that has to do with family, it is all about what is right for you and your family. If you feel it is the right time, go for it. If you feel you need to wair, wait. I have always wanted a lot of children. My last baby was born with a congenital heart disease and I feel I would be so stressed and worried about another baby having that that I might not be the best place to grow a baby. However, I feel that if it were for the sake of my baby I could pull through, so even though there are conflicting thoughts, we must take a really good look at the situation from all angles and decide what is truly best for ourselves and our families Just my two cents worth! =)

hello. we won't meet the same question with you because we are not allowed to born more than 2 children, that means we only can born one for each couple. aha. that's our country policy, but this can't stop me have a think that if i were , how should i do..aha. i would like to born the 2nd child if all the things goes fine and our situation permitted, because i'd like my son have fellow to play with on his childhood. happy mylot.

I have only one daughter for right now and she's blind. She needs all of my attention and it would be kind of difficult to take care of two or have her wonder why her brother or sister could see and she can't. It would just be harder on her..I think. I would love another child and maybe if this relationship I am in right now becomes super serious he'll want a child of his own years down the line. We'll see.

I don't have personal experience on this but I do have advice from a friend who has enjoyed a happy marriage for a long, long time and whose children grew up to be decent and loving people :) My friend said that they only time they had kids was when BOTH of them (she and her husband) wanted to - not when one of them wanted a kid, but when they wanted a kid at the same time. It seems like a good strategy :D Thanks for the response on my discussion!

You have given me a difficult topic! I'd like to have more children but we are forbidden to give birth more in our country, that is every coulple only have one child. That is the policy ruled by law!

hi, hw r u ? actually wat i am say one kid enough, (becoz lot of problems are come in future incase lot of kids) u have a lot of childeren, u and ur husband affection is reduce. so one is enough, this is my kind information. take care

My husband and I have two, though we only planned on one. Our son was born August 12th of 2002, after a miscarriage in 2000. We hadn't planned on having anymore after our son because of my health. I have pregnancy induced medical condtions that get horrible, and unbearable. So after 4 years of not having another we went off to get my tubes tied only to find out I was pregnant, wow, what a shocker. So August 11th of 2007, a month early our devious daughter arrived. So our children are 5 years almost to the day apart. There are days I enjoy them being that far apart, because I get to have the hands on with my daughter that I did with my son. He's in school during the day, so it's just me and my little girl, and then in the evening, it's a family thing. Then there are other days, where I think my lord what have I done, I had to start all over again, going threw the sleepless nights, the fits, the diapers, and teething, all that so called good stuff, lol... I honestly think, it's personal choice on how long you wait to have another baby. If you and your husband have agreed and are ready, then go for it. If you both don't feel it's right, then well don't, lol. When trying to decide, take all things into consideration, time, engery, money, and health. If all those things are standing in the good, and your both up for it, try to have another, and if the lord is willing, he'll give you your bundle of joy. Best wishes!

actually, my husband and i were the ones who decided one child is enough. but along the way, he got carried with the happiness that a little one brings and he asked if we could have one more. i said no. the beauty in the no. of children isn't in the quantity but in the kinds of children they would turn out to be. a lot of people are saying to give our son a sibling but if our sole reason for not being able to support him financially would be because of another sibling then it's unfair for the child. i've had those moments when i was growing up. a lot of potentials aren't properly nourished and guided because the parents' attention have to be on the smaller ones. but if you really wish for one more kid, i think they suggest 3 years after your last birth as an ideal time to follow it with another pregnancy. other than that, your health and even the health of the baby is at risk. you have to have a tiptop condition for if your body isn't fully recovered yet (first two years after last birth) then bear in mind that that's where the baby would live in for his / her first nine months.