ending a relationship...........

you know to start with, my husband is a good man in so many ways but he is definitely a bad person in hundred ways! i mean when he gets mad, he can kill my kids! even me! at first im not sure i can discuss this out in this publicly posted discussions, but im kinda really bothered until now since he nearly killed my youngest son. I have 4 kids anyway, my eldest is 14, 2nd is a daughter at age 11, 3rd my youngest son at 10 yrs of age and 4th my youngest daughter at age 3. Well going back to what is this all about, Im trying to get answers to what is bothering me for long, it all started when i accompany my mom to attend a seminar, and that day really did marked my mind that i wanted to plan of leaving him for good! He nearly killed our son! My 3rd child! He hit him on the head buy a plastic chair (a kid chair) and my son had gone surgery because he wounded him so much that needs to be sewed of. Right now, discussing this, I really don't know whet to say, actually he's like this eversince we stayed here in our place. I mean my parents house! My mom even build a house outside the main house due to my husbands "ATTITUDE"! So many times we have separated (not actually literally filing it into court to get a separation legal) i mean is everytime we have this kind of argue or every time we encounter any kind of problem, he go to his parents house and come back after a year or months. But rigth now, since he's moms house is being ellited by a bank, there's now way he can go. That's why I am thinking of how to leave him without him getting hurt or mad at me. Regarding my kids, well they wanted their father to leave to work abroad and be far from them to avoid hurting them physically, but not to leave as being legally separated from me and lost their father. And you know what! what my husband don't know, is that, eventhough he had hurt our son that way, my son still love him! I, I really don't know how, when or what to start in my life....I don't wanna talk this out to him, because he doesn't listen! he gets angry all the time we talk about what he's doing and how he is to our kids!!!I really can't understand him!

OMG, it is hard to believe and I am really sorry for you to have to go through all this. I just don't know what to say in this case because the man is not only a husband but also a father of 4 children. I can't picture a father that hits his own child with a toy chair that sent him to hospital for the stitches, that's really cruel and violent. Well, if you think that this situation can never be fixed and if you keep hanging on to this relationship, someone is going to hurt more or even killed by his violent acts. In this case, I suggest you to silently seek help, get some counselling advise and they will suggest on what to do. If you think by doing that or you have already done that, that takes you no where, then consult with an authority source would be an ideal in this case. After collecting the information, they might interfere and give the guy some warnings. I don't suggest to go this way but if you have to, you really have to and don't forget, when an authority source interferes, the man can have two ways: backing off and gradually changes his attitude or his temper might escalate due to feeling of being humiliated, then the situation might be worsen. Well, it is all up to you to think of what to do and what to do best for yourself and your children as you are all victims of the violent acts. Best of luck my friend and hope to hear some good news from you soon. Cest_moi