Don't Shoot! It wasn't me!

It was so you and I can prove it with honest outside sources, DNA and printing in black and white. But you're my friend. You must have had a reason and because I believe in you, I will stand you by you no matter what happens. Because if I didn't, then I wouldn't be much of a friend would I, and friends like that you can do without..........

oh lord yes. i tried to explain it just ended in a big ugarment. so i was like whatever. i express myself its up to them to belive me or not. but if i have proff then i let them hear, see it

Yes, i have experienced before being accused of something i didnt do... thankfully my friends believe my reasons and they found out that i am telling the truth.

Hi, TLChimes! I know what you mean! That is what happened with me and my sister many years ago.. I would not deal with her, and they thought that I was the reason why we were not talking. I tried to tell them that my sister was the one that was being mean so me.. She was the one that was causing the strife between me and her. So, I got so tired of being blamed, and that is when I stopped saying anything.. As time went by, they saw her for who she really is.. Now they understood why I kept my distance from her.. But, now we are pretty close.. It was like this many years ago.. In life, we sometimes will have to let things be, and sooner or later the truth will come out.. The guilty one will look guilty. And the innocent one will be innocent. It is all just a matter of time when the truth comes out.

things like sometimes is unavoidable. some people like to blame others. sometimes people first impression on you will make them find some thing to blame on you. cause i feel that some people will just prejudge some people they just newly met. and so they will try to prove that they are correct in their beliefs about a particular person. if there is some incidents that seem to point the blame to you for example then she would definitely blame it on you. that is the way i see it. sometimes people will not blame the real culprit cause they will think that those people are not capable of doing those things and so i think that our own personal opinion really affects our judgment.

hello TLChimes I was so naughty when I was a child. So if there was some mess on the house, my mother would immediately think that it was me turning the house upside down, and I got the punishments. Most of all my sister did something very wrong, and I was the one got punishments. I hated to explain myself also, I would stand straight on the floor and glare at my mother when she punished me. I promise to myself, I will fight back if someone(except my family) bring false charges on me. If it doesn't make me a loss, I would end the friendship, I don't waste time on that person anymore. If it does make me a loss on that, I would take any action to make him got his guilty. Have a nice day.

I just had it done to me second time very recently. I had a close friend (at least I thought so)and our hubby's are in the army so we were preparing for a party and her husband was not there but still she was asked by our commanding officer's wife to come and do emcee at the party. Shje started cribbing about it to me, I told her its useless to crib but if she has a roblem she should go directly to the senior lady and tell her that she can not do it. By chance I had to leave the town on a very short notice the same night and when I came back I was told by other ladies that this friend of mine wnet to the co's wife an told her that I ahve asked her not to come for the party as she does nto need to. If elt very betrayed as I had never said anything like it to her. I confronted her so she said she was upset by the way I brushed her off that day so she went and spoke to the co's wife. Inever spoke to her after that ever. Recntly same thing happened with the wifew of my husband's coursemate,w e had to make some tapestry and our deputy comndr's wife had asked me to give some to her. This lady went to the comndr's wife and told her she can not do it. When we were chatting I told her it was no big deal as everyone was doing it even ladies senior to her were enthusiastically doing the work. She got stuck as she had taken permission from comndr's wife(who does not stay in station) and was scared deputy's wife might tell otehr senior ladies that she had refused to do the work. So she came to me saying that should she go and tell comandr's wife that I am insisting that she should do the work. I told her why me, deputy's wife gave her work, comndr's wife told her to let it be where do I come in picture. Next day when she met comandr's wife she told her that I have told her who is comandr's wife to say her let it be when deputy's wife has given her the work. I was summoned and I tried best to explain things to my comandr's wife but she refused to believe me. I evne asked her to call her in front and let her explain but they never believed me. I got so bugged up that how low people can bend just to rise in life and they will even back stab their own friends.

Some people are just going to believe whatever they want to. If you explain yourself and they don't want to believe you, they won't. It is frustrating. After awhile, it is not worth the effort to explain yourself. It is not possible to change someone's mind once they have it set. In the case of a friend, yes, it can be enough of a problem to end a friendship and sometimes, a marriage.

You know I am always being blamed for things I didn't do but never anything serious. I'm not sure how I would cope with a friend accused me of something serious and really thought I was guilty - I think I would be devastated although I am sure if they were a true friend we would be able to work through it. xxx

Sometimes no matter what you say people don't believe you .. Even if you had a video tape of you somewhere else at the time. LOL!! I usually let them find out on their own how wrong they are and take it with a grain of salt. We're human and we're fallable. I love my friends and usually my friends come to me and ask out right if they have and questions or concerns and accept what I say to them. There have been times when that is not the case and I forgive them of thinking otherwise.

Hi Chimes! I don't have class A and class B friends. I have friends and acquaintances. If an acquaintance accuses me of doing something which I did not do, thet's his/her problem. Maybe the truth will come out but it won't make a difference either way and I move on. It's different if it is a friend of mine accusing me of doing something I didn't do. I will be hurt that he/she could even think that I would have done it and could even accuse me and believe whoever is telling lies. However, I will wait until all the evidence turns up and he/she can then see the truth and see that I was not responsable for having done whatever they are accusing me of. That will happen eventally and I will be there for them when it does. I don't discard friends so I would just await the time, gathering proof, feeling hurt but waiting.

I get that sometimes and it really irritates me to no end. It seems since most everybody lies so often, they don't believe that anyone can be as honest as I am. I just have to be like this. There is no other way that works for me. I already have insomnia and I don't need any lies to keep me up at night. The stress of everyday life is enough. But, usually, when people take the time to get to know me, the realize that I am brutally honest, good or bad, like it or not.

i have had it end a friendship before.. and yeah like you i sometimes think it wont matter how right i am or innocent they will believe what they want to.

I always get accused of stuff I have nothing to do with normally is weird silly stuff and I just laugh it off but there have been a few times that it was major stuff and I fought tooth and nail to get my name cleared with the accuser one person decided to go their own way and I didnt sweat about it because if that is how they think of me then i am better off without them in my life

I never explain or defend myself. I don't like talking and trying to convince anyone of the error of their thoughts. Cheers!!

Hi TLChimes, I once was told off my my best frind of telling something to someone, I really can't remember what but she was hoping mad with me and I just calmley told her I have not said anything to anybody, but in the end we found out who was stirring it and blameing me for it and my bes friend said sorry to me and we are still best friend, that incident happened many years ago. Tamara

I thought this question really a little difficult to solve,sorry,I possibly really does not belp you busy`~~~~~~~~~

Oh, indeed it does hurt. And there doesn't seem much you can do because no matter what evidence you have it never seems to change the mind of the one doing it. It merely gives them more fuel for the fire. I'm like Irish, I have a brother that got away with murder, and a lot of his "messes" were blamed on me. After awhile I just didn't pay it any mind. I knew what was correct and I just took comfort in that. Eventually he grew up and out of it, and we both began to see that mom was playing favorites. She'd tell him how great I was, and she'd tell me how great he was. Twisted, but we learned to take what she said with a grain of salt. I would think that if they were a friend and doing such things then you'd need to make sure you were absolutely sure they were doing said things. To accuse a friend falsely is not very nice, and can be very hurtful to the friendship if you find out indeed it was an imagined slight, or a misunderstanding. I hope things work out for you. Blessings-Anora

that does seem to happen alot with siblings as it did with me and my sister she would do something and i would get accused of it usually it would be money missing from moms purse or something and i would be blamed even though i would tell mom i didnt do it she didnt believe me if i wanted money i would ask for it not take it but i guess sis didnt feel like asking and we had great parents never wanted for anything we were lucky how come whenever she would start a fight with me i got punished how fair is that?? eventually mom found out who the honest child was.