marriage???? is this the answer of happy ending??????

When you get married, you need to be sure about it. It is much easier to get married than to get out of a bad marriage. If you don't have trust, it will be hard to make it last. Do what you feel is right, and good luck.

I have to say if you have any doubts on how he feels and if he's truthful to you or if your going to catch him cheating again don't get married. Marriage never solves the problem. I would ask him to go through consuling before getting married, when I say consuling I mean marraige consuling for both because you both have issues. You need to get to the bottom of why he cheated and you need to have complete trust in faith in your partner. Love can get you a long way but it can't remove the existing problems. I wish you luck in your future but please don't think marraige is the answer to your relationship problems beause it rarely is...

Marriage is not an assurance for you and your partner to have an happy ending though he will be yours not just signing by papers also with the eyes of everyone. Doubting someone who have cheated on you is normal. But there's also a second chance. If you have doubt with your partner just for a single mistake, take your time and don't be on a rush. Besides, relationship isn't perfect and there will always be flaws anytime. It depends for both of you how you handle things to have your relationship in tack especially the love that you have for each other. Marriage isn't a game, and it is a life commitment. Have a great day!

try to find out whether he doesnt want your relationship to continue anymore.....but i opine rushing into marriage is not safest option....but if u have really assessed his affair with other person to be true .....then you may call quits!!!!!!1

i think you should think it over thoroughly if he love you truthfully. you should't marry him easily. i think marriage is important in our life. so marry a man who really love you so much. you will be happy all your life. wish you good luck.

When you marry someone you want to make sure you are marrying them for the right reasons. Do you love him? Is your relationship healthy? Is he trying to prove his faithfulness by proposing to you? You said that he previously mistreated you, what is the proof that he will not mistreat you again? Never get married to solve problems, marriage should be a happy joyous occasion. If you get married, and have children and he still mistreats you, you will be connected until those babies reach 18. Is that something that you would want? The real answer is in your question. If you are having doubts...don't marry him. If you have to ask us, what you should do, then you are having doubts. I know if someone asked me to marry him, came right out with the words and I loved him, I wouldn't hesitate with my answer. It would be an immediate response of "yes!" Please think long and hard before you committ your heart and a life with this man.

Better be cautious as breaking off an engagement is much esirer then breaking off a marriage. I feel you have lots of doubts regarding this relationship,then why are you going ahead with it just stop while you can,may be for the meanwhile postpone your marriage and think again, give yourself time to get certain about him. Its always better not to hurry this kind of thing and take time before commitng for life. I hope you choose the right path for yourself.

hello girl.. pag sure oi!! hehehe anyways, marriage for me is sacred.. marriage is not that answer of happy ending, specially in your case, that you arleady said that you're not that confident enough to trust him because of what your boyfriend did..why you accepted his proposal if the possibilities are you will get separated or he will still deny the fact that he's cheating on you? but just pray girl that he will change, or if not, theres lot of good man and you're still young and beautiful.. o diva!! charr!! hehehe

i believe that marriage is when both parties feel it is the time. it should not be used as a mean of apology or security. if you feel you cannot trust him, what is marriage going to change? the problems will remain, if not become bigger, even if you two get married. what makes you think getting married will change him? to me, marriage is only for people who think they can put up with what the other person has to offer for the rest of his/her life. if you can't even trust him now, do you want to live with jealousy and insecurity for the rest of your life?

Marriage is a big commitment for everyone.Before you make sure that your boy friend is the one who can spend his rest of time with you and will take care of you ,not lie to you then you can make a decision.It's easy to get married and so does get divorced.But it's very hard for you to recover from the bad marriage.It will hurt you a lot since you love him so much.And for me,I don't trust boy's promise,I just believe the fact.However,there is no warranty for life,love and marriage,it is up to you that whether you want to take a risk.Good luck!

Marriage does not guarantee a happy ending. If he cheated on you before, there's no guarantee that he will not do it again. My husband and I were together for 5 years before we got married but never on those five years did he cheat on me or have been untrue to me. I am one of the lucky ones. My husband and I have been married for five years now and we have a daughter. Till now, my husband always tells me that he can never imagine being with another woman. I'm not saying that your man will never change, but I am suggesting that before you decide to marry him, make sure that he earns your trust back. It's not easy to trust someone again if you have been hurt. I also do not think that it is a good idea for your boyfriend to offer marriage to you just to prove that he's sorry. His marriage proposal does not erase the fact that he cheated and hurt you before. He has to work hard to prove that he is really sorry and that he will never hurt you again. As for you, I suggest you think about your decision more. If you are having doubts about marrying your boyfriend, that doubt is telling you something and maybe you should listen to what your heart is really saying.

Marriage is definitely not the answer to happiness, and not the answer to you boyfriend too. To me, it seems like he is just trying to distract you about the cheating by simply proposing. I think you should wait and see if he really does it ever again, if you want to give him a second chance, because IF he does it again, you are going to be stuck with him through marriage. He will have control of the whole situation and it is only to his advantage. Please think about it carefully before you really decide to marry. I've been through a divorce and it is VERY overwhelming and stressful. Best wishes and good luck.

i think it is very good for a man to keep faith in his rest life after he met u and fell in love with u.u said your BF used to cheat on u but promised not to do it again.i take it for granted that u should be jealousy and insecurity sometime. there must be a gap between both of u two.i am sure marriage is not the answer of happy ending now,coz judging from your words,yet u haven't forgiven him completely.u stiil hesitate about this marriagement.why not wait long enough to observe whether he treats u truly enough.it is not late after u make out the answer then marry him with happiness.

If he cheated once, there's a good chance that he will do it again, but on the other hand, sometimes people do make mistakes... You'd have to go with your gut on whether you think he'll be able to resist the temptation next time it comes around. In a relationship, you're going to be attracted to other people at times. It's a fact of life. If it were me, I'd go with a nice and long engagement, to see how things go. You can always change your mind down the road. How long you're together before the ceremony doesn't really matter, considering you'll be together forever following that big day. Give it a few years, and see. You're still young, too. If you do decide to go find someone else, will you be happier with someone else that you love that hasn't done this to you, or do you think you guys can really get past it? lol This isn't really going to sound very romantic, but love isn't really that hard to find. It's finding someone who holds your interest and treats you well that's going to make things work in the long run...

getting married to him is not the answer to your problem. if he can;t be true to you just dating you what makes u think marriage is going to stop him. he's a player & you'd be better off w/out someone like that . a leopard does not change their spots. please think long & hard before u tie yourself up w/someone like him.

It is natural that we always doubt the people when we come across something wrong done by them. As you saw your bf with some other grl you have to take a stern decision that he loves you and he will not be cheating you. Marriage is not the solution for everything better consult with the elder people in the family before the marriage. Good Luck and have a nice day.

well ,it is hard to make a decision to stay or to leave .the first thing you should know it clear is :do you love him and he loves you as you thing it to be ?if so ,then be together ,and trust each other .if not ,leave him .

I think you should just break up with him.Nothing impossible if he cheathing you again.Find another person who really honest and good to you...

The question you need to ask yourself and him is why have you not discussed a wedding date?

hi, djcharlie, in my opinion , marriage can not solve any problem, it's not the answer to your problem surely. i think the faithfulness between two lovers is most important.