Does anyone else have one of these?
By Loves_Storm
@Loves_Storm (36)
United States
March 11, 2009 2:00pm CST
Does anyone else have an ocd or ocd type tendencies?...I know I do. I'm the type of person that when I'm doing something it HAS to be a certain way. And if I'm doing something and someone comes over to 'try to help me' I get more irritated than thankful. The only person I let help me do anything is my soon-to-be-hubby. He knows the way I like doing things, the way I like them done and how I like them done and in what order I like them done. For instance, I have a 12yr old (soon to be) stepdaughter. We're trying to teach her how to do certain things. Like washing laundry, folding laundry, and cooking and doing the dishes. Well the last one she knows how to do, but we're trying to get her to wash the dishes in hot water and not warm(which her warm is more cold than warm), lol. But I was trying to show her how to fold the clothes and it she was doing a good job, especially for a kid who never had to do anything of the sort. but I was getting irritated(and trying my hardest not to let her see) b/c when she folded it, it wasn't how I fold clothes, the legs of pants were uneven and she didnt get the wrinkles out....but I calmly told her how to do it -'my way'-right. Like when she folds the clothes, I'll give her her clothes and let her fold them and do mine and my hubbies....and tell her she can do her and I'll do ours. It doesnt hurt her feelings any, lol its less work for her. But like I'm saying that's just a for instance. Also if I'm wanting something done a certain way and she wants to help, like doing the dishes...b/c she doesnt do it my way, I have her do them all including put them away b/c even tho' they DO get clean...it wasn't MY WAY...I know its stupid...but at least I've improved to the point where I actually let people help. It use to be that someone would come over to help, I'd tell them 'no I've got it' or if they were going to do something that I was going to do I'd get irate and go off... so is it just me, or is anyone else like this? If so how? my mainly extends to how things are cleaned...and funny thing is I'm the messiest person you will ever meet, I'm not by a long shot a neat freak, lolol
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@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
11 Mar 09
I can be that way with some of the housecleaning chores...especially cooking. I do not want anyone to mess with my cooking. When i am cooking, I am cooking!! It doesn't matter with towels, or other clothes how they get folded; however, I do want my socks folded together, so they stay together. LOL...My Dad use to make me and my brother pin them together when we were younger. And the mates to socks get lost so easily..that is definitely one thing that I am picky about. Other clothes can get folded anyway they want to fold them as long as they get folded...do me a favor and put them away too, because I hate that chore the most!!
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
11 Mar 09
Yes, for sure, I have some of those tendencies. One is the way I hang laundry on the clothesline. I basically hang things by length (longest go on the line first and the shortest end up near the house). For me, it just makes sense that the longer items go where the line is highest off the ground. I also "sort" socks and things and hang them by pairs so, when I bring the dry clothes inside, they are already folded and ready to be put away. Someone "challenged" me to just take things off the top of the pile in the basket and hang them that way, without picking and choosing. I was surprisingly stressed trying to do it that way LOL
I understand when you say "my way." My daughters forever tell me that their rooms ARE clean but they aren't the way I would do them and that's why I keep harping on them to clean up. In truth, their rooms are probably tidier than a lot of teenagers... but they're right when they say I want them clean to my idea of clean.
I'm working really hard at being accepting... at letting people do things THEIR way. It's so demoralizing to go behind someone and basically re-do what they've done because, whether you say it out loud or not, it's still sending them the message that they are wrong or not good enough. I SO don't want to do that to my kids so I have to try very hard to apply "my way" to the things that only I am responsible for.
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@Loves_Storm (36)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Im glad someone else understands what I mean!! like I said I'm trying to teach my stepdaughter how to clean...and that's including dusting the entertainment center, my way. But her idea of cleaning it is wipe off what you can see and not to move anything. But my hubby is trying to get me to meet everything halfway...to realize things are clean, not my way but they are clean. Still...for her rarely ever cleaning, and I mean rarely, like her only cleaning the litter boxes....she did a really good job..it may have taken her 2 1/2 hrs...but she got it done! And I'm trying to 'teach' her how to do it right so I won't go behind her and redo it, I agree with you, I dont want to make her feel like she completly failed or did such a bad job I went behind her to redo it. I know it would make me feel bad.
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@thepaperfanatic (58)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I have never been diagnosed with OCD but I definitely have tendencies towards doing things in odd numbers. In other words, if I need to remember something I say it out loud 3 times. If I locked a door, I have to check it at least 3 to 5 times to make sure I locked it. Is there a doctor in the house? J/K
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I am that way too. Especially when it comes to housekeeping. More times than not, I will end up just doing things myself because I end up re-doing after someone else anyway. My husband says I am a perfectionist, and he has never seen anyone clean the way I do. I just hve my own way of doing it and I know things are clean and in place the way I do them. I let others help, especially my husband and kids, but, when they are doing something, I have to stay out of the area or I have a tendency to as they say, nit-pick over their work. I feel that I am just showing them how to do it right, they think otherwise.
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@aquastar8567 (13)
• Canada
12 Mar 09
My OCD is really weird. I am a complete mess when it comes to my room, but if you move something, and I can't find it I get really angry. I need to have everything in its own place and I can't stay clean if my life depended on it. On the flip side, my school books, files on the computer, etc., need to be organized in some sort of way. If I am doing a group project, I have to be the leader and organize roles of the group and it has to be my way.
@jazzsue58 (2666)
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12 Mar 09
I'm responding to this because I want to get to my 20 posts per day target before my earnings are recalculated. So I guess my answer to this is a resounding ... yes!
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@csrobins (1120)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Haha no I have almost no ocd tendencies, I try not to because I would just take it too far knowing i'd nver be perfect. But my boyfriend is ridiculously ocd. Plus he's a germ freak so it's more to do with food. Let me share a few of his "things":
-has to sit on the right side of a person no matter what
-has to sit in teh smack dab middle of the movie theater or he can't watch it
-has to mak esure his food and his color of beverage don't match as to not get too much of the same color in his system
-no longer kisses me except on rare occasions or in the heat of the moment
-gets nervous when our faces ar close because he doesn't want to breathe in my breath and germs
-will not use public bathrooms
-only uses one cup that he know only he has touched.
-I times him yesterday washing his hands ten minutes because he said he had not washed them all day yet
There's more, but that's just a little inside scoop of my life with an ocd person
