Oversensitive child

My son is the same way but he is mentally challenged and I am seeking some behavior counseling for him I haven't started the sessions yet because we are waiting on some paperwork and the like from the state but it will happen one day lol. I would talk to his Dr and find out if it's just a passing thing or what. I would say counseling but he is a little young for that but you never know the Dr might suggest that. Good luck.

Do not give him attention for the behaviors you do not like. Tell him "I cannot understand you if you are crying." If it is just a learned behavior to achieve his goals, he will respond to your refusal to reinforce his behavior by being more reasonable. Otherwise, you can have other things like hearing tested.

I was a child like that and since the adults around me didn't understand, for the most part, it took me a long time to grow out of it. Your child is fortunate to have a sensitive nature because he will be able to develop empathy, something a lot of people don't ever develop. You need to talk with your boy and tell him that sometimes people think things are funny that really aren't. They think that they are kidding with him and don't realize that he takes it so seriously. Teach him to kid right back, but don't expect miracles because sensitive children rarely have the skills to give as good as they get and enjoy it. Enlist his friends or a couple of yours so he can watch two people tease each other and enjoy it and he'll learn how to act when he's the subject of good natured teasing. That's about all I can tell you. Talk, talk, talk! If it's just that he doesn't get his way, you need to make him realize that's life and try to get him to look at it like a challenge and think of other ways to get what he wants, be creative. If it's just sensitive feelings, you can help him through it but you need to make him realize that hurt is part of life and he can help himself avoid that hurt with a positive attitude and a good dose of humor.

I think he's just being a kid and has his different mood swings just like us adults do.

This is a problem with many children and people will probably tell you it is the way he was raised. This is not necessarily the case. You do need to find out exactly what is making him cry so you can help him get offer the issues he is having. You may want to try counseling if it is not something you can handle. Who knows? He may have a problem that has been overlooked such as autism or other mental conditions. There may be nothing wrong with your child and he just gets tired and needs a reason to cry. You have to be the one to find out. Maybe take him to a pediatrician and they can give you advice. When I delivered my baby the hospital gave us booklets that said children don't come with instruction manuals that's what doctors are for. I thought that was the most ridiculous thing I ever heard. Doctors are supposed to be for fixing what is broke. Evidently pediatricians do a lot more than that. They are also parenting counselors. I should know because I have asked my pediatrician just about every question imaginable.

I was and still am, exactly the same way except that I was shy and hardly ever had playmates. My sensitivy controls my life. I wish that I had had some kind of help while I was young. Because now everything is ingrained that it is horribly difficult to try and overcome the problems you mentioned even though now I am getting professional help. I would suggest talking to your pediatition about this and ask if he/she thinks. Maybe it is something that can be helped early before it overtakes his life. Change is much more difficult as you grow older. Good luck and your son is fortunate that you are even seeking advice regarding a problem that affect his whole life.

some kids are like that, hell some adults are like that, just reassure him and tell him how wonderful he is, don't chastize him for being that way it will make him feel worse.

I feel for you because my son did not stop crying till he want into high school. I swear he cried at the drop of the hat. I would do everything to get him to stop crying. I was advised to put him in a cold shower every time he cried, that did not work and does not work so do not try it. Yes they grow out of it. I find they do not cry as much at school and when they are not around mom as much as they do at home. Good luck my friend. My son is now 28 and just had his first baby. My son is very sensitive and loving. I thank god for him everyday he was just a had child to raise.

I wouldnt say he takes things the wrong way more that, that is simply how he shows you what he is feeling and there is definitley nothing wrong with that! Some children are more sensitive than others again its not a bad thing and not something I would worry about or even be looking to control or change its simply who and what your son is, simply make sure he has plenty of oppurtunitys to discuss with you how he feels and if he has anything worrying him knowing that he can talk to you about it might help him to become more confident to discuss his problems rather than just crying out his frustration. Also dont forget he is still very young they learn a lot in these early years and he will in time learn to talk about how he feels rather than just crying or getting upset for now its obviously how he deals with things just reassure him that its truely ok never put him down for crying or showing what he feels to be honest im happy when my girls express them selves thats a GOOD thing no matter how they do it and remember in time they all learn to express their emotions in ways society deems more acceptable but that doesnt mean how they express them while little is wrong xxxxx

I think this is often conditioning by the parents, a child responds to attention and at one time or more an adult has given this child special attention when he reacted that way. The best plan is to ignore him or have him go to his room until he's over it. No needs to be mean just explain that no one wants to see or hear him when he's like that. It will take awhile, but don't shame him, or get mad, just very matter of fact, handle this. It's not something that is at all unusual. The problem is when the adults over react, ie: Dad gets mad because he's embarrassed, and Mom become protective of the boy. If everything is handled as though this is not something socially proper, that it need to be handled in private, it should stop soon. just don't make a big deal of it. that is how I was told to handle this. And it worked

Do you react to him doing this? If he is getting attention he likes when he reacts like this, he might be doing it on purpose. My daughter used to cry about the smallest, tiniest boo-boo. I, being a first time mother, went nuts about every little scrape. It had to be cleaned, bandaged, taken care of and her cuddled over it. I basically did it to myself. She got such special treatment when she was 'hurt', she made it happen more and reacted more. My hubs (having dealt with children before), took over. Her next boo-boo she brought to dad. He looked at it, patted her on the head and said it was no big deal (glaring at me to shut me up) and told her to go play. It took about a week (his vacation) to break her. Can you believe, the dog ran her over, sent her flying in the air and she landed on gravel, got scraped all over, blood running everywhere, and she trotted off like nothing had happened? I do not understand kids!

Hi bamakelly; My son is 17 now, but I recall him coming home crying all the time about something someone said or did. Each child is different.

Well he is learning to get attention by having fit tantrums..I had a son who was doing that..and what I did when he would do that..I would say..son, stop it, you want something ..talk..come now..tell me what it's all about. He would continue so I would say..okay..when you r ready to stop crying because mommy can't do anything. Then I would walk away..he would stop crying and finally would come to me. He finally learned that crying wouldn't get him anywhere..

I have a child that is like that....actually my daughter who is 6 is total opposite and she can handle her own, but my son who is 7, is a normal child, loves to skateboard , be with his friends, but man he can cry alot when someone says something mean to him. he is so sensitive and it can be hard to see but i think every child is different and he seems happy other wise , maybe thats just who he is...i was the same way growing up, i just started to let let things or people words get to me a ocouple years ago and i am 28!!

My son at 9 is just learning (hopefully) how to handle such situations. I’ll narrate two incidents here. First was the local store which we visit regularly and the guys are known to us. One day my son asked for a can of flavoured milk and some boy said ‘Oh you want milk, do you…” well I did not actually listen to the tone as I was busy picking up things but according to my son, it was quite insulting, insinuating perhaps that a boy of 9 wants milk! I do know of boys in early youth (like this one) who get fun pulling the legs of younger boys but my son was so hurt and mortified that the next time we went to the store, he would not go ahead and ask for the same can (he loves chilled flavoured milk) and kept on pushing me. I put my foot down, I was sympathetic to him yet very firm that he would have to deal with such situations himself and mommy wont be there all the time. He finally (albeit grudgingly) went ahead! Second one is with my parents neighbours. My son stays with my parents after school and often on weekends so that the neighbours know that he is a regular there. Since I am an only child, it helps my parents to have company at home and me too in picking him up after my office. Now there’s this one elderly gentleman who’s a perfect nosey-poker and once or twice he caught me saying sarcastically ‘oh, you are so lucky, you don’t have to do anything for your son’…as if it should matter to him! The other day, my son and me were just leaving my parents house when this same person accosted my son and asked him where he was going…my son said ‘home’ and this person says ‘home! I thought this was your home (pointing to my parents house)’…my son of course understood the barb behind it and it was such a trouble for me convincing him to stay back at my parent’s home the next day after school. So you see, people and children in general are going to be cruel, attacking, sarcastic types and yet some of us would have kids who are sensitive and if not handled properly, they will gradually withdraw into their shells in later life. So be sympathetic, be understanding, by supportive but be firm too…tell your child either to brush off (mean people will be mean and its their problem if they are mean) or to demand and retain what is rightfully his (no matter how much people may tease him for holding on or wanting).

I call my younger daughter, who is now 15, my sensitive child. In fact, she and I are quite comfortable with the definition of her being an empath (http://healing.about.com/cs/empathic/a/uc_empathtraits.htm). She was the kid at school that cried when SOMEONE ELSE got hurt. Even still, she cries at music, tv shows, movies... and sometimes she laughs at herself for crying. She is well aware of her sensitivity and will say things like, "oh jeez here I go again!" When she was little, I used to tell her that it was ok to show her emotions. I tried explaining by saying that hurt feelings are like a sharp, spikey ball spinning inside us and, if we leave them inside, they keep hurting us over and over. If we let them out, it stops hurting. Admittedly, I've been frustrated by her crying at times because I felt it was an inappropriate reaction to a particular situation (and I hate that on a couple of occasions, I let my frustration speak for me and told her "she needed to grow up")... but, overall, as she ages, I see that her sensitivity is becoming more and more managed. It sounds like your son cries when he's frustrated. Teasing, even silly ribbing, can be hurtful. Kids as young as your son don't really understand the subtleties of humor or sarcasm yet and I'm sure he doesn't always "get" when people are joking. He'll mature out of that, I'm sure. You might enjoy this article: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/08/070803141811.htm In it, it mentions that children start to understand sarcasm around the age of 6 but don't grasp the intended humor of it even until they are around 10.

I can understand your problem ,But this is a quite natural phenomenon in this age group.Some times it may happen that your overprotective nature may be the root cause for it.This kind of oversensitive nature or behaviour usually resolves as the child grows.I suggest you not to worry a lot about this problem.

your child sounds like my child when he is tired already. but i guess, with your child, it's just his personality. he probably would grow up to be a sensitive soul. not bad for a soon to be fine, young man. how do you cope when your child cries? do you cuddle him? with my child i let him be. he becomes more agitated and cries a lot when i attend to him.

Hi there, according to your description, it seems that your child is a little oversensitive. Parents can be an good example for their child in the daily life. You may want to communicate with him as often as you can. And if such things still happen, you may want to see some expert on raising children. I think it is a hard work to teach the child to learn to fit the world. It's the period that they learn to get along with others. So they need instructions and encouragement.