I begged, I pleaded, and even kneeled down, but.....

If i'm not mistaken, he's the one who got mad at you when you came in late on a date because you cannot leave your work right? Hmm, could it be that it's just one of the intances where he's making it appear that everything is your fault and he would get mad so he's got a valid reason to leave you. Everything could be a scheme and if everything didn't work out, then that's the time where he will tell you upfront that he want out of the relationship. Guys are pretty much lousy when it comes to breaking up. I'm surprised though that you didn't see it coming. I don't mean to depress you more but it's unlikely that a he'll come back in your arms when he's the one who broke up. I should know because i did the same.

I am not to sure what is the issue about Ysabel, and I am sure that you are feeling the pain although not to the same degree. You seem to have claim all the responsibility to the problem of the relationship, however I believe that whatever happens both parties have a role to play. Perhaps it is good for both to cool down and re access the situation. if after the some time you both still feel the same way, then it better to move on. However if there is still feeling for both then you can decide how you want to get better together.

Let him go, if he loves you then he will come back to you, if not then it was not to be to start with. You say it was your fault or was it just in the background and waiting to happen, we can't make a person stay with us that don't want us. We can lower ourself to beg and plead and promise, but we are only delaying what is going to happen in the end. You are a better person than to have to beg someone to stay with you. I know the hurt and pain, but life does go on and you will find it is better to let go than to be merisable wondering when he will leave you. It is not something you done but something that is his problem, he will probably find that he isn't really happy no matter where he goes. Hold your head up and tell him you don't want me fine then I will find someone who does.

I just dun understand him.. It's only a small matter but why he's kicking such a big fuss over it.. To thinkg that it last for 3 weeks?? IS he such a petty guy?? I guess there's something that causes him to blow his top, but the reason is definitely not u.. U are only triggering what's brewing inside him.. For that, he had made a wrong decision by breaking up with u.. Since that's the case, move on.. U dun need a man like this.. U need someone with more patience and more dependant, rather than him, being childish..

I am sorry to hear that .Why not tell your fellings to him ,and listen to his heart sound.I hope that will work out.

I'm sorry about that. But trust me the pain will go away, and once it goes way, you'd be able to move on with your life. Don't beat yourself up for this guy. One thing i learned you could never force anybody to do something they don't want to do. If he wants his freedom just let him go, by giving him his freedom, you'd set yourself free too, you might not realizing it, but it is true. Trust me you don't want to ever be with someone who can't love naturally, you'd be miserable, and him too. It is better now then later. There's someone out there who will love you for who you are, don't waste your time with jerks and foolish men. Good luck, i hope you get to feel better. Remember by letting him go, you are setting yourself free too. The pain will go away Ysabel.

often when we hurt people, it seem like they can't forgive us. but sometime the hurt is deep. but we can say sorry to them, and its up to them to forgive us. but if it was meant to be he will be back, if not then finding away to deal with it is often hard. sadly ive hurt lot of people in a short time, and asked forgiveness. but if he dont want to be with you, need to releaze it. and just go on with your life. forgiving yourself is the first part of it.

I knew the feelin'. I was in that kind of situation before i already moved on long time ago. I feel sorry but one thing i can say is don't hurt yourself too much of thinking about him, move on and be strong. There's more exciting and better life and better man for you in the future. Happy posting.

im sorry for your pain and that you are going through such a hard time. i too knwo what it feels like to lose someone you love but time will heal your pain and you will move on.. best wishes

Everything happened for a reason. Just think you're not meant for each other. You must be thankful this happened earlier. Just pray to God for you to get over this. It really hurts but it's a part of life, sometimes we have to feel pain before we experience true happiness. Someone you deserve more will come along. Just keep yourself busy and go out with friends. There's sunshine after the rain, remember?

awwww.... sad girlie... but u kno .... wen u show ur weakness to others ... thy alwayz take adv. of tht ... so i feel u shld make ur weakness ur strength.... U shld make him realise ...wat he is missin in life is U .... I kno how it feels... but u r da only 1 who can help ur self out..... i hope u lll b out of this in few dayz or a week ...

I absolutely know what you're feeling because it happened to me as well. About 5 years ago a guy that I had been going out with for 3 and 1/2 years dumped me for reasons I still don't understand. I felt like he was "the one" for me and to this day I still wonder.. But, I've accepted that he's never coming back to me and I'm moving on. You will too someday. There IS a light at the end of the tunnel and there will be other guys that come your way. Just do your best to get through it and as more and more time passes you will start feeling better.

Hi Ysabel! Sorry to hear things are far from peachy with your things right now x But i think 1st, others do know how you feel right now, and can understand and relate... Its just a sad fact that loving some one can be the most beautiful and worth while time of ones life, but the end of love is always the most painful! All the good feeling and time are all undone, but all in one go rather than the months / years of your good times :o( I think the thing with love is it can only be love when both people feel the same love for each other, as soon as one person doesnt, its gone.. and cant be fixed So im afraid you dont really have a choice... You could chase after, trying to fix things but at the end of the day if he's clear in the way he feels its not going to help at all. He says its for his own happiness? Well take that advice... Whats going to make you happy? I know you think him right now, but if your truthful with your self, he doesnt = happiness it just = easyest right now? Dont stress your self out, try and think whats gonna make you happiest in the long run. Iv found from long term relationships the pain can stay for a year or so, but wha treally helps me get over pain is to keep busy... Go shoping, join the gym, hang with friends, meet new people, shear your pain with others, and things should start fitting together when your ready to make your self happy again. And you have to do this before you can move on and start again?? Hope you get some sleep soon! ;oD

I feel for you, dear Ysabel. Yes, it can be very painful to break up with someone who no longer have the mutual feelings. You can let yourself have a period of 'mourning' but after that you need to move on. There is no point of turning back when the door is closed for you even if you have begged, pleaded and kneeled down. Be strong and stop being emotional about it. Get up and move on.

i am so sorry to hear about what is happening to your relationship... i hope God will give you the strength to go through this hard time and time will heal your wounds... please be strong and keep your head up... life still have to go on without him and i believe you will be able to meet another wonderful man again in the future... take care and have a nice day...

Yes, the pain will go away. Time is the best healer. On the other hand I think it was way decent of the guy to come clean about it and its in a way better for you too. I know how bad heart-breaks can be (I think every woman knows it) but if you put this experience to good use, you will benefit in your future relations. You will be stronger and will be able to decipher any loopholes from the beginning and try to plug it or look for other relations. Each relation has its own experience and makes us more mature.

I will quote what Kuya Rene (a renowned psychic in the Philippines - www.renemariano.net - Phil. tel. no. #632-8436346) wrote in his book on "Spiritual REality,"When you convincingly perceive that the one you love has a change of heart, even if your love for the particular individual were so true and intense - you would have to set that person free, and you must accept that fact, no matter how painful it would be. Remember, what is the use of continuing to love someone who no longer reciprocates your feelings? Loving someone who has loved somebody else can cause you to experience agony on earth."

Hey ysabel...I know u are feeling right now and all i want to tell u is "give it time" and take it slow...If hes the one for u than he will come back..we cnt force love and only give love so let him go and meantime i want u to take care of yourself.Spend time with frens u are comfortable and plese dont do anyhting uncalled for.Take care...it will only passs

Everything that happened has a reason. Just think you may not really meant for each other, pray to God to help you get over this. Someone you deserve more will come along, you must be thankful this happened earlier. It really hurts but it's a part of life, sometimes we have to feel the pain before the real joy. Keep yourself busy and go out with friends. I wish you happiness...

HI FREIND,How are you ,i can understand ur feeling as i also have gone thru all of it ,but i never tried to quit the reln and waited for the time to heal everything and guess what i was right time made all good and now i live with my darling hubby happily ,so my dear time is a great healer everything will be fine.god bless you happy my lotting