hate being judged for my age when trying to rent a house

I understand and in a perfect world we would be judged by the content of our character. Unfortunately people have no experience to rely on other than the appearance of the person they are meeting for the first time. They do not know you do not have parties and you admitted that you did at one time. If you want to be judged diferrently you might have to change your look, at least when going renting a house. A professional business suit or conservative dress go a long way to creating a positive impression. If I was renting a house and someone showed up in sloppy clothing, tattoos and face piercings I would be cautious about renting to them. I am not saying you are that way , but you get my drift. I am sure you have done the same thing to other people. You look at someone old or of a different colour and make some assumptions. You will always get people judging you somehow, whether because you are pretty or ugly, dirty or clean, and may other things that make a first impression.

I am a homeowner and if I were to rent my house out I would be more inclined to rent it out to a 20 something woman in college than a 20 something man. Still an age discrimination but I would rather trust a young woman with a child than a young man without a child. I am sure there are other people that would be willing to rent a house to you.

people tend to judge people for no reason at all and i also didn't like it when people did it to me... it has to stop... people need to realise that if they don't have a solid basis, they are not allowed to make any judgement at all regardless what the matter and situation is until everything is clear... good luck anyway with your house renting... hopefully you will be able to rent a house soon... take care and have a nice day...

hi do you really look young and love partyin...wowwww...well certainly they have a point though....okay i think you should convince them about how difficult it is for you to raise the child and how hard working and dedicated mother you are.hope you will get some nice people this time

My daughter is 26yr old and she has 3 kids, she never really said she had a problem like that, but what I hate is when you looking at apartments online and then you call them and the rent is higher than the price you see online.

some people hold the traddition view:they think it's abnormal for yong people take children along,so they judge them by their ages,they are so unreasonable!

Unfortunately this happens far to often. It's probably best to understand what they expect to see, and then to try and project that image. Much the same as going for a job interview.

I think it impolite to ask too much about one's privacy,especially when the required person has a wish to keep it in his or her own mind.However,in our life,there are so many affairs in which someone let out our privacy without our permit.In my city,if one wants to rent a room,his or her very personal imformation have to be regestered by the owner of the house and the police,though many of us think it unjustice .

HI, I'm sorry you're having this problem. I had similar problems when I was in my late teens and in my 20s. It's hard, and it's insulting, and I imagine these days it's much harder, with the economy and the way that some people are nowadays. Try to understand that just being a landlord doesn't make one rich, and so they are just trying to protect their finances, and family and if they lived there before renting it out, then they may be worried about neighbors they've known for many, many years getting mad at them. I'm not trying to say they have a right to insult and mistreat you -- just trying to give you a glimpse as to why they may be acting that way. I have some suggestions. First, when you talk to them -- before seeing them in person -- or email them, make sure to tell them you are 26, so they don't see you and assumed you are much younger even without reading the application. Tell them about your job, and your daughter. If you have or can get references from places you've lived before, let them know you have them and will bring them when you come to see the house. In other words, before they see you, while you still have their attention, make your case (positively and politely)about how responsible you are, and that you have references and record to back it up. I assume you're going to college part time, and working full time. IF so, point that out. If you are full time at college, and part time working, then probably best to not mention that. Good luck. AJ

poppoppop111 I think the biggest thing that you have going against you is that you are going to college and that's not fair. College kids on the whole, are known to have loud parties. I live in a college town and we do have them. The surrounding neighborhoods are trying to keep the amount of houses that are being rented to college kids down. They even have a law on the books where a house can have no more then three people in it, one being the owner and no more then 2 unrelated occupants. The owner has to have a liscense in order to even rent the property. It's the college kids that have the parties that have given all the other college kids, that are there just to study, a bad rep. I'm a renter in a apartment building, not a home owner, but being I live in the heart of the buisness community I have seen students that patronize the bars, leave drunk and trash the neighborhood as they leave. You have a hard one too prove and I wish you the best of luck in finding a house. As a piece of advise, don't volunteer the information that you are going to college. GIve that information only if it is asked in the interview by the owners. DCMerkle

Hello there..My son and his wife had the same problem. He is 22 years old and married and they both work and have rented before. Besides references, they wanted a co-signer for the lease. They were both very insulted. Owners need to realize that not all young people are destructive. The stereotyping needs to end...I know older people who cause more damage than some younger ones.

it really an unequal experience for you, but your anguish can't change anything that happen to you. in china,there has a proverb:if we can not get what we like,we have to like what we can get(????).good luck for you