jealousy!!! help

I feel your pain. What I did to deal with it was to explain to my boyfriend what he was doing that made me jealous and why it upset me. Once he knew how I felt he would stop doing it or do it a lot less. He would also reconfirm that there's no feelings for the other girl and that they're just friends. I'd suggest doing the same. Do your best to let go of the situation after that. If he continues to do it knowing that it bothers you then you should reconsider the relationship. If he stops doing it then you have no reason to worry :) All the best!

Maybe you are insecure feeling drive your nut, that is the one of the biggest issue. Trust is the most important fact between you and your boyfriend. You should talk to him nice and peacefully in person. Don't sparkle a fire of fight, it just getting everything worse. You have great chat with him then.

Hi, I can understand Ur feeling. U r over possessive.Jealousy is generating out of this possessiveness. Talk with him.Express Ur feeling.Only he can give U solace & right guidance. I assure U that U'll be feeling better & Love from his side will increase. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

we are the same my friend.i also feel jeolous if i were u.i ever in your position rigth now.always jeolous with my boyfriend.but i try to forget it.i try to believe in my boyfriend.i try to m ake me myself so bussy.but i didnt let he always keep contact to another girl in a long time.

ok lass first of all the fact that you acknowledge that you have a problem is the first step in recovery,.....second if youre having these feelings try sitting down with him and telling him how you feel but if you keep all this bottled up it will end up becomming a self fulfilling prophecy....third...find out whats causing these feelings of jealousy in the first place.....perhaps it is not so much who hes talking to online but the ammount of time he spends with you vs. how much time he spends on his computer in general....try planning a nice romantic evening just the 2 of you...no tv...no phones...no computer........good luck ....let me know how it goes

Sometimes you have to believe others.And he is your boyfriend!You should know how important belief takes a role within this special relationship.Smile when you talk to him,and he pay back the same smile.Appreciate the times you are with him if you truely love him,and forget the other girl who is really out of the thing.Maybe it'll be kind of difficult.Ok!Wish you good luck!

What causes a girl to get jealous is due to insecurity. If you love your boyfriend and you trust him that he won't cheat on you, then be confident about yourself. You know your boyfriend well than us. I want to share with you about my cousin's situation then. She is insecure about his bf's ex-gf. She gets jealous for no reason and argue with his bf about his ex for no reason. Her bf gets fed up with those jealousy, and they broke up. Jealousy for no reason does no good to your relationship, so do not allow yourself to be controlled with those unexplained insecurity and jealousy. With your illustrations, you tend to be getting possessive with your bf. You should be more thankful because your bf is adorable. I guess, he knows his limitations, give that respect and trust to him. Have confidence to yourself. Feel pretty and witty than those girls. Feel good about yourself and be proud that you are the girlfriend.

If you love your partner absolutely, you will not need, or ask anything in return. Is your relationship as Loving as you imply? Check within, to see how strong your love really is. Jealously can be a devastating emotion which if continued, will take its toll on your health. That very need to Scream, the Insane Feelings, and the Fear that you are needlessly carrying, will destroy your health as well as wreck your marriage. Jealously is all in your head, and is not an intelligent reaction to a natural everyday occurrence. Your partner has every right to talk to his ex, and you are well aware of this. My advise is," Give your head a shake and get on with your life!"

Jealousy is a scary thing indeed and it can put a barrier in a relationship where there needs to be none. I notice that jealousy is really something that is quite selfish in nature and you could start looking into that. Cheers!!

Honestly,this is a very serious matter especially when you get jealous to something which is not going to happen. Maybe you should voice out your thoughts and concerns to your boyfriend. You should give him some hints on things that he should avoid doing such chatting with his ex over the facebook without your knowledge. For your part,you should be confident with yourself. If you love this guy,you should trust him. Don't ever let your jealousy over your rationality. Cheers,good luck!

you attitude is the point and you pay more you lose more ,so try you best to improve you fascinating is a good way finally you own him is the aim

It can be tough. If it helps, just try and think about how you'd like your boyfriend to act if you were out talking to one of your guy friends.

jelousy is for INSECURE people.

you have the right to got jealous but dont make it over.try to talk to him that you are jealous if he will continue or he can delete if he want you to be more comfortable or to avoid talkin with that girl.be strong jealosy is just the way to express your love towards him

Yes your this behavior might very soon bring your relation to a full stop. Try to control your feelings,if you have such feeling stop yourself right away or else don't let him know about your this feeling else you might loose him soon. Trust is the most important thing between any relationship, without trust no relationship lasts. Build up that in yourself an see it works wonder. Let him free, say that you trust him, he will come more close to you. Relax dear and don't get scared, God has made love and a partner for everyone so don't panic you will get the best which is made by God just for you.

I know how you feel. I usually get jealous to if my boyfriend is taking to his ex. Luckily, I don't know how he do it but my boyfriend borg helped me lessen my insecurities! He assured me he won't cheat and will only love me. Trust is a big issue to him to since I want him to feel that I'm the best girlfriend he can ever have, I told him I trust him. Its hard at first but if both of you will work on it, it will be easier! Talk to him about it so it will not drive you insane!

just love him with all of your heart and be open to him. i think if he really loves you, he wont jump into another girl or win back his ex. In this generation, we know there are flirty girls out there and we cant always guard our boyfriends. What we really need is his word of assurance that he loves you. Despite the fact that our wont always tell you " i love you", you can always see it based on his actions. jealousy will ruin your relationship and it will come to a point that he feels he is controlled by you. Guys can always have the right to talk to everyone, we dont have the right to stop him from doing that. happy mylotting!

I used to be a jealous person, too, but I am not even remotely jealous any more. I think it comes with how secure you feel about yourself, your partner, and your relationship. Jealousy can ruin your relationship. It will push your partner away if you are always mad, jealous or accusing him of anything. I know of one case where someone finally DID cheat, just because he was accused of it all the time anyway. Have you talked to your partner about it at all? Does your jealousy cause fights, or is this something you feel, but don't let him know about? Look deep inside and try to figure out what is causing you to feel this way. If you know he loves you, and you don't think he would ever cheat on you, then you should not have anything to worry about. I wish I could tell you exactly how to stop those feelings, but you just have to figure out how to build up your feelings of security in your relationship. Good luck. I hope you overcome it.

JUST BE MATURED ENOUGH TO HANDLE EVERYTHING.BECAUSE A MATURED LOVE CAN ACCEPT ANYTHING, "BUT" if you smell something fishy about your guy, try to read he's action, if there is something different then break him up, it's not your lost, because your the one you love him most. do get my point. so for now, try to be amtured okey? trust is the foundation of a good relationship. jealousy is a green monster in a relationship and it ruin yourself. okey?

in love trust is the most important. if u cant traust him then ur realtioship will not last for long . give him his pwn space . otherwise he will get frustrated & then will leave u without any reason