If given the chance, would you be a stay at home mom?
By sandymay48
@sandymay48 (2030)
Canada
March 14, 2009 5:36pm CST
In such tough economic times, its very likely that both parents need to work these days and then some!...
If you were given the choice, and would be paid either way, would you be a stay at home mom and do all the proper housework and child care? Or would you rather someone else did it and would rather get out every day to a different environment?
The stay at home Mom, does not include talking on mylot all day! This would have to be done at night like others. You will have an 8 hour day of straight work.
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14 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Mar 09
Well Sandy, I am not Mom , but a papa also needed too for a Mom to be a mom and therefore if I were a Mom, I would prefer to be 'stay at home' mom. Because I love my children and I know till they are 8 or 9 tears old how badly they need the caring , love, affection and all from their parents.
So what I an not a mom I know the need of a child ( This I have goatherd from my study of child psychology.) Its a cruel act by the working mom who gives hardly 4 hrs to her newbie. And after my child attained its maturity sort of I would if I wished look for some job or else I would not. For me the happiness and character building of the child would have been the first priority and if I were in service I would resign for the sake of my beloved child.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
15 Mar 09
Good morning..oops! Its evening there!! You are about 9 hours ahead of me!! Well, hello mama Rajib!!...Or I can change your name to Rachael...
You are right, its so important to spend the early years in particular, nurturing and building our childrens esteem and character. Showing how to love and develop a moral character.
I have 4 children and stayed home with them all.
The problem today, is that everything is so expensive, that it takes at least 2 salaries to survive. HIs, hers, and someone elses too!..
Most cannot afford to stay at home as we would like to and its really too bad. The world may be a better place if we were there constantly for the most important years of their lives.
You are right, its so important to spend the early years in particular, nurturing and building our childrens esteem and character. Showing how to love and develop a moral character.
I have 4 children and stayed home with them all.
The problem today, is that everything is so expensive, that it takes at least 2 salaries to survive. HIs, hers, and someone elses too!..
Most cannot afford to stay at home as we would like to and its really too bad. The world may be a better place if we were there constantly for the most important years of their lives.1 person likes this
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Mar 09
Okay, no problem, thanks for the female name too.
. See this is the second time I have crossed the yardstick and did well. So what I am a male I know the psychology of a woman as well as of a child. Those mother who leaves behind their six month old babies with the babysitters and go for the extra bucks are cruel creatures. Is not your husband working and providing you two square meals? Then why deprive the baby?
\Racheal.
. See this is the second time I have crossed the yardstick and did well. So what I am a male I know the psychology of a woman as well as of a child. Those mother who leaves behind their six month old babies with the babysitters and go for the extra bucks are cruel creatures. Is not your husband working and providing you two square meals? Then why deprive the baby?
\Racheal.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
14 Mar 09
I would love to have the best of both worlds. I like working outside the home as it gives me a chance to connect with other Moms. I also like staying at home and spending more time with my kids. I've pretty much been a stay at home mom for the last four years, but I'm also a single mom, so while I've been staying at home I have been stressing about: housing, bills, debt, and survival. This is not what a stay at home mom is all about or should be about. Being a Mom is a full time job, even if you work outside the home. You still have to be available to your children if the school calls and says....come pick up your child, he's sick. You have to make dinner when you get home, you have to do the laundry and shopping on the weekends, as well as fitting in time to clean the house. I do not know of any Mom that is not a working Mom. Some Moms just choose to work outside the home...it often adds more to their plate. But like I said, I would like to work part time, and then be able to be with my kids the other half of the time. The best of both worlds.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
14 Mar 09
Hi buggles64...I agree totally with what you are saying. We all like to be able to stay home to raise our children, but then again, we all need some time out.
When my kids were young, I stayed home as I could not afford a sitter or daycare anyways, but if I could have stayed home and got paid, that would be my option along with a part time job to get out once in a while!
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
15 Mar 09
Definitely, we all need to be able to get out of the house...pursue our own interests and connect with others. It's very good for the mental health, you come back to your family renewed and energized and ready to tackle any problem that comes along.
@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
14 Mar 09
i would love to be a stay at home mom. it's not a possibility for me since i'm a single mother so someone needs to work.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
15 Mar 09
Yes, that is so true. Back when my kids were really little, the canadian government had once talked about paying housewives as a job. Now that would have been awesome as its the hardest one going! The idea was they were going to pay housewives to stay home and cook and clean and look after their children. It was supposed to benefit families by paying a parent to look after children, rather than putting millions into day care. Unfortunately, there are many one parent families, who would not benefit. But they were saying that a stay at home neighbour could watch your children, for the same money you would have received for staying home. Sadly, it never came to be!
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
hi there sandymay48.. i'm already a mom, but i'm single mom, my daughter Chelsea is living with me and we are living with my parents..honestly, i would like to work because staying inside the house is boring..i wanted to work.. but on the other side, i wanted to stay home for my child.. i wanted to take care of her, attend her needs and i wanted that i will be the one who will be with her to her school..but how can i do that, i need to work..but i'm having fun with my work right now.. maybe, if i will marry a man, i would stay home for the kids..
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
15 Mar 09
I think we all need a little of both worlds. It is great if we can stay home to raise our children, but we also need some adult time as well. Its hard to find an even balance as parenting is full time no matter what else we do!
@alexajanea (46)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I am currently a stay at home mom. I would love to be able to get out and work and be able to interact with other adults and get PAID. I love being with my children but as everyone has said and knows it is a 24/7 job and I dont have alot of interaction with other adults but when drop offs and pick ups and there activities.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
15 Mar 09
yes staying home is a forever job...It would be nice to have a balance of both worlds...We all need a break and some adult interaction for our sanity..lol
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
14 Mar 09
I am a stay at home mom. You say 8 hours obviously you are not a stay at home mom. Somehow when you are a stay at home mom you are 24 seven with no days off and usually no time to sleep. I could only wish it was an 8 hour shift. LOL. Being on the computer is only allowed if the child is asleep or sitting quietly beside of you playing otherwise you are chasing him or her and running back and forth to the computer.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
14 Mar 09
Well, you should not assume and make such a bold statement that obviously I am not a stay at home mom..I most certainly was..for 4 children!...But they are grown now and on their own. I do know quite well its a full time job.
My only question was if you had the choice of working outside for 8 hours and being paid, or staying home and working full time following a list of must do chores, for 8 hours, which would you rather do? We all know that being a parent is a full time job always anyways. But some would rather the escape from the home.
Thanks for sharing
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I was a stay at home mom for a little while, but I prefer to work outside of the home as well.
@UK_Shree (3603)
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15 Mar 09
I think that I would go a little mad if I stayed at home all day everyday. I am sure the day is busy and kept varied as I do know that maintaining a house and looking after the family is not an easy ride. I would definitely want to go out there though and earn some money of my own. I think that would be more satisfying for me. I guess everyone is different though..
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
15 Mar 09
Well I don;t know, stayinhome will make my home more calm and less stressful. Since I work ull time have a toiddler and after work i go like crazy till I am fed up and go to sleep. However I like beeing out from home too since I meet with friends and have a social life.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
15 Mar 09
To be a stay home mom is nice for little babies, and for a family of several children. It saves the husband from involving too much in hourse chores, if his pay is enough for the family.
Stay home mom is by no mean an easy job, if she is aiming at good goals. Parenting is an art. Mother has great influence on the personality of the children, and the harmony of the family. She needs care about the health and mind of the children.
Some moms just have a periodical leave from job, so keeping upgrading with their own mind is necessary, and thanks for the online courses, maybe a few years of continuous education will well prepare them for a new challenge.
@mystic888soul (390)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
definitely i won't...though i am not yet a mom still, i really don't want to just stay at home..of course i want to be in a work field where i can practice my profession..and i think being just at home will make me stagnant so as my knowledge..
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
14 Mar 09
Thanks for your response. I was wondering how many felt the same way as you!...You have a great point.
@callahanb78 (529)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I am a stay at home mom. I have been off and on at home at out at work now for 7 years and I like being able to do both. Everytime I have gone back to work I am at the point where my kids are in school or preschool and they can do for themselves. We wouldnt put them in any sooner. Its nice to have a break from working to stay home and its nice to have a break from staying home by going to work.
I also think its a bit more to staying home. Theres no time clock, theres no set schedule or list of duties, its every changing and theres usually always something to do.
If I could do just 8 hours I would sign up for that immediately!! :)
@sujuwonder (212)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
i dont have children yet, but i'd like to be a stay home mom. But because of our economic situation now i just wanna have maybe an online job to at leasthelp my husband in providing for our family... with that i can stay at home at earn both at the same time..
@newbychatter (20)
•
15 Mar 09
Without a doubt if i could stay at home with my son i would do it without a second thought. My husband would also be happier as he wouldn't have to deal with my guilt. I have worked since i was 16 years old and it's not laziness that makes me want to stay at home i just hate leaving my baby. I'm lucky as i have a lovely auntie who looks after my son for me so i don't have to leave him with strangers but given the choice i would much rather be at home with him myself.
